Shocked.

[Unregistered]

So, it's naptime and I get a call from new provider in my neighborhood. She tells me she got a call about providing care for a child in my daycare. First of all, I have not gotten notice and I am shocked. Mom seems sooo happy about him being here and like everything is fine. I told her I am surprised since I just can't think of any reason why she would be looking for different care. Well, come to find out this lady is talking bad about me, saying things that are just soooo far from the truth! Not only that, but I talked to her previous provider before me and because of this lady she has closed down. This lady called licensing with complaints non stop about this provider. The provider told me she is honestly scared of this lady and that she ruined her life. I know I should have called her previous provider, I didn't and I now I am just really scared for my business and for this child. I truly love this little boy. But I know I don't want to deal with this mom. I am scared of giving her notice and her coming after me and making lies up which she is obviously very good at. I'm just sooo shocked right now. This is my #1 mom, I means she pays on time, pays late fees without being asked to, bring me snacks for the daycare... I just don't know what to do. Well, I started by calling licensing to let them know what is going on since I'm sure she will be calling them when I let her go.

[Michelle]

hmmm, something just doesn't seem right about this.
Don't make major decision's and stress out over rumors and hearsay.

Just keep taking excellant care of the boy and don't worry.
Maybe the other provider was not doing what she was suppose to and her and the other provider are friends? I don't know, just don't term this child because of rumors.

[sharlan]

The other provider should never have called you.

Continue to provide your best care and don't worry about it. It the mother chooses to term, let her leave on good terms.

[MarinaVanessa]

If she's looking for childcare elsewhere then why not just let her go? Wait until she gives you notice I mean. This way it's her choice KWIM? I wouldn't put it past her to have already decided to leave but then if you give her notice she gets flippin' mad. I had a DCM like this.

If what you are saying is actually true then I'd be cautions. I had a DCM exactly like this. She closed down her previous child care providers FCC but I didn't know this before I signed her on. She was the biggest pain and made everything difficult. She literally made me hate the job that I loved so much and I was too afraid of what she would to even think about terminating her. She decided that it would be better for her financially to become drop-in so I required her to give me written notice of this and had her sign a new contract for drop-in clients. When she called me to ask me for availability I told her I was full.

I made sure to call licensing before I did any of this to give them the heads up. MAKE SURE YOU DO THAT BEFORE YOU DO ANYTHING ELSE!!!! Once I told DCM that I had no room she got upset. I got a call from my licensor and she told me that I had "a complaint" saying that a client was unhappy with my services and that the children were not properly supervised. I knew it was her. I had to send them the notice she gave me which said that she loved my daycare and loved my services. The whole thing was dropped but it was such a hassle and I was terrified. BE CAREFULL!

[Michelle]

If she's looking for childcare elsewhere then why not just let her go? Wait until she gives you notice I mean. This way it's her choice KWIM? I wouldn't put it past her to have already decided to leave but then if you give her notice she gets flippin' mad. I had a DCM like this.

If what you are saying is actually true then I'd be cautions. I had a DCM exactly like this. She closed down her previous child care providers FCC but I didn't know this before I signed her on. She was the biggest pain and made everything difficult. She literally made me hate the job that I loved so much and I was too afraid of what she would to even think about terminating her. She decided that it would be better for her financially to become drop-in so I required her to give me written notice of this and had her sign a new contract for drop-in clients. When she called me to ask me for availability I told her I was full.

I made sure to call licensing before I did any of this to give them the heads up. MAKE SURE YOU DO THAT BEFORE YOU DO ANYTHING ELSE!!!! Once I told DCM that I had no room got upset. I got a call from my licensor and she told me that I had "a complaint" saying that a client was unhappy with my services and that the children were not properly supervised. I knew it was her. I had to send them the notice she gave me which said that she loved my daycare and loved my services. The whole thing was dropped but it was such a hassle and I was terrified. BE CAREFULL!

Very Very good advice!!!

[Unregistered]

If she's looking for childcare elsewhere then why not just let her go? Wait until she gives you notice I mean. This way it's her choice KWIM? I wouldn't put it past her to have already decided to leave but then if you give her notice she gets flippin' mad. I had a DCM like this.

If what you are saying is actually true then I'd be cautions. I had a DCM exactly like this. She closed down her previous child care providers FCC but I didn't know this before I signed her on. She was the biggest pain and made everything difficult. She literally made me hate the job that I loved so much and I was too afraid of what she would to even think about terminating her. She decided that it would be better for her financially to become drop-in so I required her to give me written notice of this and had her sign a new contract for drop-in clients. When she called me to ask me for availability I told her I was full.

I made sure to call licensing before I did any of this to give them the heads up. MAKE SURE YOU DO THAT BEFORE YOU DO ANYTHING ELSE!!!! Once I told DCM that I had no room she got upset. I got a call from my licensor and she told me that I had "a complaint" saying that a client was unhappy with my services and that the children were not properly supervised. I knew it was her. I had to send them the notice she gave me which said that she loved my daycare and loved my services. The whole thing was dropped but it was such a hassle and I was terrified. BE CAREFULL!

Yes, after thinking about it, this is what I have decided to do. I know it could be both ways, she could be making up these lies about me and finding different care or these people could be making up lies.. I'm not sure what to believe. But I will just wait it out and hopefully she will just leave on her own. I do not like drama and just want to avoid it.
I did call licensing last night and my analyst did suggest I just wait it out. So, I'm guessing if she is leaving she will be gone by Christmas Break, she works at a school and I do charge full price for breaks...

[laundrymom]

If I were you. At pick up today gush over boy, be sweet as pie to mom ANC say, hey Cara, I'm trying to put together a professional portfolio, is there any way you could write a recommendation letter for me? I'm asking for a few of my clients to do so and I thought since you seem so happy, and since Garret is happy here you would. It doesn't have to be forever long. Maybe just like how long I've kept him, that my program fits your needs, etc. I will only show it in person, never post it on an ad or website. I'm trying to establish myself and think this would help a lot.

[Ariana]

Can anyone call licensing and complain about things that aren't true? This seems pretty crazy to me that this takes place. Wouldn't any disgruntled parent call and complain?

I'm sorry you're going through this, I have no advice

[Unregistered]

Yes, anyone can call, my analyst said they can do it anonymously. I'm still not sure what's going on. But I've just been moving on as if I know nothing.. We will see how this ends...