This Child Is Gonna Give Me Grey Hair!!

[Kaddidle Care]

Sometimes offering a reward is all in the way you say it.

We had a boy that if you told him "If you do this... you'll get a sticker". He would ignore you. If you told him "You'll get a sticker.. if you do this." he would do it. He was only hearing the first phrase and if it was something he didn't want to do he'd ignore the rest.

Experiment a little and see if that helps.

Positive reinforcement does work. There were times when I spanked my own as well because it was the punishment my parents chose and you tend to fall back on the past.

With my oldest, we would take away priveleges. But then it got to the point where I had nothing left to take away. So we changed it up a bit. He would have to earn TV/Video time and I made little TV tickets for him.

It's all trial and error. Do what works for you. If you see progress, then tell Mom.

[Blackcat31]

Sometimes offering a reward is all in the way you say it.

Ha ha, this reminded me of my own DS when he was about 3-4 yrs old.

If we went to a store and I knew there was a possibility of mis-behavior, I would tell my DD that she could have a $1 at the check out and she could either keep it or spend it on a treat (a treat for us back then was a Little Golden book..NO candy). Anyways, my DD understood and complied every time.

Then when my son came along and he couldn't have cared less about the "promise" of reward. So one day, I decided to approach the idea a bit differently. I gave him 4 quarters when we entered the store and told him that everytime I had to reprimand him, he would need ot give me one of his quarters. If he had any quarters left at the check out he could buy a treat or save the money.

Shopping became a whole new thing because he totally got it and complied!!!!!

I 100% agree that rewards do work at times and how you deliver the reward or go about it makes all the difference.

My dd understood, "do=get" while my son understood "have=take away". Either way, I still got the desired outcome.