Parents Dropping Off Early And Picking Up Kids Late To "Get Stuff Done"

[Blackcat31]

yes read my above comment I for some reason did not see the last paragraph hahaha. So yes agree with you.

No problem. You probably didn't see it because I edited and added it so it was probably not there the first time.

Poor little boy though.....

[jennajury]

Probably. Yes it breaks my heart, but after she leaves he's usually ok the rest of the day.

[kayla]

In my opinion i feel like its because the parent cannot handle the child. When my first was in daycare i never left him at daycare if i wasnt working. In my experience i have a family that does this everyday, i think its cause they cant stand there 5 kids, or cant handle being a parent. My opinion if you dont like to be around your child there is something wrong with you. I hate this i feel like your child is only a kid for so long and i would assume people would want to spend time with there kids, but thats wrong to think people should want to be around there kids. Alot of my parents leave there child all day even when they are not busy.. I also think alot of parents feel like if they are paying for daycare then there child should get to be there all day... Thats why i put a 9 hr clause in my contract to prevent parents from leaving them all day, its bad enough we see there child more than them but the fact that they leave them when they need to go to grocery store, shopping, run errands, etc...

[MyAngels]

If it is a regular scheduled day for their child I really don't care. The only thing I do care about is if you aren't at work, I better be able to reach you via cellphone in case there is an emergency! So please let me know if you aren't going to work.

On a professional level this is how I feel.

On a personal level, I never felt right leaving my children in daycare unless I was working.

[jennajury]

In my opinion i feel like its because the parent cannot handle the child. When my first was in daycare i never left him at daycare if i wasnt working. In my experience i have a family that does this everyday, i think its cause they cant stand there 5 kids, or cant handle being a parent. My opinion if you dont like to be around your child there is something wrong with you. I hate this i feel like your child is only a kid for so long and i would assume people would want to spend time with there kids, but thats wrong to think people should want to be around there kids. Alot of my parents leave there child all day even when they are not busy.. I also think alot of parents feel like if they are paying for daycare then there child should get to be there all day... Thats why i put a 9 hr clause in my contract to prevent parents from leaving them all day, its bad enough we see there child more than them but the fact that they leave them when they need to go to grocery store, shopping, run errands, etc...

VERY TRUE. Maybe I am just a kid person but I just love being around kids. I can't imagine leaving my child (when he gets here in a few months) somewhere else all day long. I can see maybe once in a blue moon with some parents. I have a parent who will ask me on her way from work if it's ok if she stops and gets gas, or stops at the pharmacy before pickup. OF COURSE it's ok, I don't mind at all! but when someone makes a habit of it it's hard not to develop opinions if you know what I mean.

[SimpleMom]

If a parent wants they're child here and it's contracted hours---work or not--I'm ok with it for the most part. If they feel they HAVE to have they're child here because they are paying for the time---that makes me sad.

[kayla]

VERY TRUE. Maybe I am just a kid person but I just love being around kids. I can't imagine leaving my child (when he gets here in a few months) somewhere else all day long. I can see maybe once in a blue moon with some parents. I have a parent who will ask me on her way from work if it's ok if she stops and gets gas, or stops at the pharmacy before pickup. OF COURSE it's ok, I don't mind at all! but when someone makes a habit of it it's hard not to develop opinions if you know what I mean.

i agree!!! congradulations, im pregnant as well but not due for another 5 mos...

[jennajury]

i agree!!! congradulations, im pregnant as well but not due for another 5 mos...

THANKS! congratulations to you too! I am due with my first in 3 monthes I am so excited!

[Blackcat31]

In my opinion i feel like its because the parent cannot handle the child. When my first was in daycare i never left him at daycare if i wasnt working. In my experience i have a family that does this everyday, i think its cause they cant stand there 5 kids, or cant handle being a parent. My opinion if you dont like to be around your child there is something wrong with you. I hate this i feel like your child is only a kid for so long and i would assume people would want to spend time with there kids, but thats wrong to think people should want to be around there kids. Alot of my parents leave there child all day even when they are not busy.. I also think alot of parents feel like if they are paying for daycare then there child should get to be there all day... Thats why i put a 9 hr clause in my contract to prevent parents from leaving them all day, its bad enough we see there child more than them but the fact that they leave them when they need to go to grocery store, shopping, run errands, etc...

Saying that there is something wrong with a parent who doesn't spend enough time with their child is not very tolerant or accepting of different family cultures and beliefs. Not every parent feels that they need to spend every waking second with their child. It doesn't make them a bad parent or have something wrong with them. :confused: Many cultures and families place value on different things in regard to how to parent. Some use AP aproaches, others are helicopter parents, others are involved and living vicariously through their children while others are super uninvolved. No ONE way is the right way. It is the more what you do with the time, not how much you have.

I have a dcm who spends ALOT of time with her child. They aren't actually interacting a whole bunch, they are both just in the same room/house together when mom isn't working. The child is NEVER here unless the mom is working. I have another dcm who brings her child to me for 9.5 hours per day, 5 days a week. The mom only works 7 hours a day and for 4 days a week. HOWEVER, this mom does spend quality time with her child. When she is with him, they snuggle, read books, go to museums, spend time outdoors, see plays and movies together and spend time at a story time hour at the library.

I think it has nothing to do with the quantity of time a parent spends with their child but more to do with quality of time. I would much rather see a parent give 3 hours of quality time then 3 days of co-existing without any real substance involved in the interactions. KWIM?

Putting a clause in your contract stating how many hours a child can be at care does nothing to guarantee that the parent is spending the time with their child. Who knows, the parent can easily pick up the child after the 9 hour limit and drop them off at a babysitters, another daycare or worse, park them in front of the TV and still spend zero time with them. Atleast at daycare, they were with an adult who actually interacts with them.

You canNOT force a parent to spend time with their child. You can put all the time limits in your policies you want but it is not proactive. Educating the parent about the importance of quality time would be more beneficial