Exactly Why People Don’t Report Child Abuse!

[kayla]

When a kid only goes to daycare and home, it isn't really hard for parents to figure out who it was that said anything.

And yes, if we are mandated reporters, we HAVE to report and I doubt that it is even possible in some cases to keep our report confidential.

It is part of our licensing regs to HAVE to tell a parent that we are mandated reporters and tell them what things we will and won't report. Where I live, I have to give parents a copy of that statement as well as information on who I will call and who they can call if they suspect me of anything.

Honestly, as a child care provider, if I had to report a parent (Which I have several times) I couldn't care less if they know it was me. I am doing my job and what is best for the child so who gives a hoot if the parent knows it was me...kwim?

OP, I can see why it would be upsetting for your neighbor to know it was you, but we have to do what is best for children and even if that means being outed as the reporter.....it was still in the child's best interest.

I think that being mandated reporter, means I am willing to sacrifice my confidentiality for the best interest of ANY child in danger.

my problem with it is when a social worker tells you to your face that it will remain confidential thats what i expect. And i do have it in my contract i also explain the situation as well as what i report...

[Blackcat31]

my problem with it is when a social worker tells you to your face that it will remain confidential thats what i expect. And i do have it in my contract i also explain the situation as well as what i report...

But you, yourself, said it was the parents who said they had a letter from the social worker saying it was you.

Did you actually see the letter? If you did, I would have gotten a copy of it and taken it to the Dept of Human Services and found out why you were lied to by the social worker.

If you didn't see the letter, then I believe the parent lured you into admitting it was you.

Also like I said, if the child is really young and only goes to day care and home, it isn't tough to figure out who was concerned about the child.

[melissa ann]

I reported a dcg almost 3 yrs ago. She would regulary come with bruises on herself. Now, she was a clumsy girl and would get bumps and stuff at my house too. But, when the bruised started appearing on her back and she had a black eye, I called Dept of Public Welfare. About 1/2 hour later, dad calls (single parent) and said someone reported the bruises on his daughter. I never said my name to the dept. I just said I was a neighbor. He had to get her and take her to Dept of public welfare to be questioned. Girl told me her dad hit her. Well, within 2 weeks, he gave his 2 week notice. I just found out that he enrolled his daughter at school where kids whose families are low income can go. ( he saw my mom and remembered her through me and my mom asked how his daughter was) The kids live with house parents with several other children. He told his daughter to call him anytime. But she's been there now, for 3 months and she hasn't called! She must be in K-4 because she will be 5 in 2 months.
Anyway, about 6 months later, I get a call for childcare. This woman came to the house. She was foster mom of above girl.(dad only got girl back right before she started coming to me) Dad didn't want any part of girl until she started the adoption process. Dad won, she lost. The foster mom didn't choose me because she didn't want me taking her daughter outside. At the time, my dd was in preschool so we walked there. But she said that dad told her that I was the one who called. I lied and said no. That I knew the girl was clumsy and I never suspected him of anything. I said that because this dad does have an anger issue and I admit, a little scared of him retailiating. The girl is in a better place and I'm sure she knows it too.

[kayla]

melissa- thats the same reason i told the parent i didnt say anything becauase this father i dealt with is a very angry mean person

[Unregistered]

Cps isn’t always right and the children are t always abused

Let me tell you I’ve been through hell. Portrayed as a criminal all because my daughter didn’t get what she wanted. This is the problem America. Take care of your kids!!! Stop giving them whatever they ask for make them earn it and learn responsibility . There is so many issues from technology it’s in real . What do you rather teach ur kid they can have whatever they want for nothing or earn it. Yes let kids be kids but geez do y’all know what kids are doing these days. I’m an excellent parent and now a victim of bull crap. It’s now effecting my other children that don’t deserve this. I don’t beleive I’m abusing of a child but grounding punishments a Spanking for harsh offense some times works better then giving a kid an iPhone and sent to room.