How Do I Nicely Tell A Parent That …. (Long Sorry)

[wdmmom]

Sounds to me like dad wants you to give him dinner.

I would probably approach it like this.

"Ya know John, we've had this discussion several times. I don't know what you packed in his lunch versus what he eats and throws away. I will provide him a snack here everyday at 3pm. I don't make him eat it but I do offer it. I can only tell you what he's eating while he is in my direct care. If you are concerned about him not getting enough, talk to his doctor about his diet."

[familyschoolcare]

So I think that what I am going to do is start writing down what DCB is eating at my house. (The food program whants me to start offering/doing this anyway)

Then when this comes up a again (and it will because I need Dad to sign the new comunicaition policy and he has questions about it first. I just know that when we are talking about that this will come up) I can tell Dad to refer to the daily sheets to see how much he is eating when in my care. If Dad asks about my checking DCB's lunch box I will say the lunch box is gotten out at snack time and I encourage him to eat anything still in it. If it is brought u that DCB is hungry at oick up then I will say yes I know he is. All human children that eat lunch about 12:00 and snack between 3:00 and 4:00 get hungry for dinner between 5:00 and 6:00. I am glad to here that DCB is normal in that regaurd, that way he will eat the health dinner you provide him.

Not sure how to respond id Dad say but DCB can not wait untill we get home to eat dinner. Might say I do not think DCB will die of starvation in that amount of time. But I am not sure I could say that with a straight face.

[mismatchedsocks]

Wow you are nicer then me. I dont pull out the school agers lunch box when they get here. They get the same snack as everyone else at 3-330(ish) and if they are picked up at 5, well they should be hungry its dinner time, then the time it takes to make dinner...etcetc.

This child might not like what is being packed for his lunch, he may eat other kids lunch, who knows. Does the child seem like he is starving?

[familyschoolcare]

Wow you are nicer then me. I dont pull out the school agers lunch box when they get here. They get the same snack as everyone else at 3-330(ish) and if they are picked up at 5, well they should be hungry its dinner time, then the time it takes to make dinner...etcetc.

This child might not like what is being packed for his lunch, he may eat other kids lunch, who knows. Does the child seem like he is starving?

To me letting the children pull out thier lunch box is not a big deal I only have school agers so everone has a lunch box. I can difently see how if I had some littler children it could cause a problem.

My DD will out food that she whants to eat for snack in lunch so that it will be leftover at snack time.

[mismatchedsocks]

Its not a big deal to pull it out, and i didnt know you had all school agers sorry. in fact this is great that you do it with all of them.

maybe he is waiting to show his friends what he has in his lunch?