What To Do, What To Do?

[beachgrl]

I know this decision has to be so hard for you, I have family all over and have lived both very near and very far (opposite coasts) from them but have always managed to make time to see them or for them to see us. I know it makes things a bit easier to manage to make a list of pros and cons when facing a major decision such as yours. I did that last spring when trying to decide what to do about my current job situation and whether to start my own childcare business or not and low and behold if the pros for it didn't wayyyy out way the cons! It really helped to see it in black and white.

You can always visit family like once a month or so and have them come to visit you, if you took turns once a month with you doing it and them doing it you would get to see them two times in a month if you could do a weekend trip or at the very least get to see them holidays. 11 hours is a long drive but very doable in a day, I have family a 14-16 hour drive away and have made that trip several times with my son to see them. Your family, especially your mom will make time to spend with the kids, most of my family is in California and I am on the east coast so I see them even more rarely.

[Sunchimes]

I've spent almost my entire life in North Texas, and I'd be happy to answer any questions you might have about Dallas, Fort Worth, Waco, and points in between.

Look at it this way. Families have always moved from their home towns for a chance at something better. My grandmother's dad left his home in Tennessee and brought his wife and kids to Arkansas by covered wagon for better land. They wrote letters, lots of letters, and managed to stay in touch. Now, you have wonderful ways to stay in touch and be sure that your kids recognize and feel close to grandparents. With webcams, they can hear their grandparents read them bedtime stories every night. There are texts or twitter for when the kids say something amazing. I hear more from my teenage grandson now than I did when I lived in the same town.

It's an adjustment, but sometimes, you need to stand on your own and do what's best for your own family. You can bet that your fathers did that.

Good luck!! I hope that you find a decision that makes you happy!

[littlemommy]

I've spent almost my entire life in North Texas, and I'd be happy to answer any questions you might have about Dallas, Fort Worth, Waco, and points in between.

Look at it this way. Families have always moved from their home towns for a chance at something better. My grandmother's dad left his home in Tennessee and brought his wife and kids to Arkansas by covered wagon for better land. They wrote letters, lots of letters, and managed to stay in touch. Now, you have wonderful ways to stay in touch and be sure that your kids recognize and feel close to grandparents. With webcams, they can hear their grandparents read them bedtime stories every night. There are texts or twitter for when the kids say something amazing. I hear more from my teenage grandson now than I did when I lived in the same town.

It's an adjustment, but sometimes, you need to stand on your own and do what's best for your own family. You can bet that your fathers did that.

Good luck!! I hope that you find a decision that makes you happy!

Thanks for the kind words of advice! Right now, we are leaning towards moving, as it would just be better for his job. We go visit in 2 weeks to check the town, office, and housing out. He would be working in Sherman. I have heard from a few people that Denison and some of the other small towns are great to live in, but haven't heard much about Sherman itself.

We always said if we move anywhere we want to have an acreage! I've found quite a few online, and the prices are good! The houses all seem to need some updates (old carpets, wood paneling...) but that's nothing foreign to us! We're debating how we would go about selling our current house...because paying 2 mortgages a month would not be possible. I'm sure I won't have any income for a few months while I'm getting my license and our house ready. Right now we totally rely on my income, so that will be a MAJOR change!