DCP Going To Jail

[littlemommy]

DCP told me at drop off today that she is going to jail next month. Probation is almost up and she had time to serve yet. Supposed to be over 100 days, but is serving 80 some.

How do I do a background check on someone? I'd like to do one on her and her boyfriend to know if I even want them to come back.

[mismatchedsocks]

I know how to in Wisconsin. I just go to wicourts.gov. Maybe google something like that in your state. I also know some states charge for it.

Yikes, do you know why she is going?? Whats going to happen to kids?

[Blackcat31]

Why do you want to do a background check on them. What bearing does her probation or jail time have to do with you providing child care services to her? :confused:

[littlemommy]

Hmm..a google search told me that it is for drug dealing-of meth!

[Country Kids]

Hmm..a google search told me that it is for drug dealing-of meth!

Scary!!!! Does she act like she still uses?

[daycare]

Why do you want to do a background check on them. What bearing does her probation or jail time have to do with you providing child care services to her? :confused:

I thought the same thing, but when this person is in my home where I live, I would want to know too....

If I was running my DC out of a place I didnt live, I probably would not care one bit

[Blackcat31]

I thought the same thing, but when this person is in my home where I live, I would want to know too....

If I was running my DC out of a place I didnt live, I probably would not care one bit

Having a child care out of a non-residential home honestly has nothing to do with it.....

My thoughts were she still has custody of her child so she must be doing something right (or not wrong). I also happen to believe that as child care providers we put way too much effort into the personal lives of the parents we have in care. This mom was upfront about her situation and whatever she has done or not done she is obvioulsy complying with the rules of her probation.

I also fully understand that there are certain people that none of us want in our homes but considering the fact that we are child care providers and offering a service to the general public, we sort of have to take each situation individually and deal with them.

I happen to coordinate with a half way house that serves women who are recovering addicts and are in the process of regaining their lives and sometimes custody of their children. These moms are not the ones I vent about. These moms are also not the ones I fear. The ones I fear are the ones who are doing illegal things right under our noses that we have no idea about. :confused:

Where I live, anyone who is not allowed to be near children are registered with the city/county/state and I am personally notified by the sheriff's dept.

I have a couple in care right now where the father is an ex-con who was convicted of armed robbery. He served 13 years in prison. His wife is a college educated woman with no criminal record at all. She has never drank or used drugs. Guess which one of them are more respectful of my rules and policies? Guess which one is more supportive of their child and anything I ask of them? (Hint: NOT the mom )

So basically, I was just sayin.......

[MarinaVanessa]

Why do you want to do a background check on them. What bearing does her probation or jail time have to do with you providing child care services to her? :confused:

I do background checks on all potential families. It's all public records and all you have to do is look online. I want to know who I'm allowing into my home. My DH works for the DA's office and we want to be particular as to who we interact with.

I think in my case it's different because my DH has been assaulted before simply because he works for the DA's office (but he's not a DA, he's a supervisor for their IT department) even though he has nothing to do with cases themselves. For us we just want to make sure that we don't do business with felons that our county prosecuted. It's extremely hard to have a business relationship with clients that have been in some trouble. DH ran into a client of mine in court that was in trouble for a DUI. Very akward. We still kept our business relationship in that case (not a drug or violent crime) but I had to bring up the fact that until she had her DL reinstated I wouldn't condone her picking up or dropping off her child.

Even though I choose to background check for the reasons that I said I think that I would choose to do so even if my DH didn't work where he did. I had a provoder friend go on the Meagan's Law website and see a photo of a relative of a dcb's family that frequently picked him up from daycare . It's better to know who you're letting into your home.

[daycare]

Having a child care out of a non-residential home honestly has nothing to do with it.....

My thoughts were she still has custody of her child so she must be doing something right (or not wrong). I also happen to believe that as child care providers we put way too much effort into the personal lives of the parents we have in care. This mom was upfront about her situation and whatever she has done or not done she is obvioulsy complying with the rules of her probation.

I also fully understand that there are certain people that none of us want in our homes but considering the fact that we are child care providers and offering a service to the general public, we sort of have to take each situation individually and deal with them.

I happen to coordinate with a half way house that serves women who are recovering addicts and are in the process of regaining their lives and sometimes custody of their children. These moms are not the ones I vent about. These moms are also not the ones I fear. The ones I fear are the ones who are doing illegal things right under our noses that we have no idea about. :confused:

Where I live, anyone who is not allowed to be near children are registered with the city/county/state and I am personally notified by the sheriff's dept.

I have a couple in care right now where the father is an ex-con who was convicted of armed robbery. He served 13 years in prison. His wife is a college educated woman with no criminal record at all. She has never drank or used drugs. Guess which one of them are more respectful of my rules and policies? Guess which one is more supportive of their child and anything I ask of them? (Hint: NOT the mom )

So basically, I was just sayin.......

I hear ya. I guess its just a matter of knowing who is in my home. But you are so right. We would not know if they did not tell us. Sometimes we are better off not knowing. But at the same time need not judge those for where they have been. LIfe is about where we are going right?

I had a DCM that used to bring her little guy drop in and she was very honest with me about her bad past. She and the baby daddy were meth addicts. It did not change anything for me on how I felt about them. I was proud of her and her accomplishments. After all each persons' success differs from the next...

[Blackcat31]

I do background checks on all potential families. It's all public records and all you have to do is look online. I want to know who I'm allowing into my home. My DH works for the DA's office and we want to be particular as to who we interact with.

I think in my case it's different because my DH has been assaulted before simply because he works for the DA's office (but he's not a DA, he's a supervisor for their IT department) even though he has nothing to do with cases themselves. For us we just want to make sure that we don't do business with felons that our county prosecuted. It's extremely hard to have a business relationship with clients that have been in some trouble. DH ran into a client of mine in court that was in trouble for a DUI. Very akward. We still kept our business relationship in that case (not a drug or violent crime) but I had to bring up the fact that until she had her DL reinstated I wouldn't condone her picking up or dropping off her child.

Even though I choose to background check for the reasons that I said I think that I would choose to do so even if my DH didn't work where he did. I had a provoder friend go on the Meagan's Law website and see a photo of a relative of a dcb's family that frequently picked him up from daycare . It's better to know who you're letting into your home.

I completely understand your situation. I have several families in care who work in law enforcement and I think it is common place for them to not list their addresses and/or phone numbers in our local phone books for those exact reasons. I totally see your point.

I hear ya. I guess its just a matter of knowing who is in my home. But you are so right. We would not know if they did not tell us. Sometimes we are better off not knowing. But at the same time need not judge those for where they have been. LIfe is about where we are going right?

I had a DCM that used to bring her little guy drop in and she was very honest with me about her bad past. She and the baby daddy were meth addicts. It did not change anything for me on how I felt about them. I was proud of her and her accomplishments. After all each persons' success differs from the next...

Again, I wasn't suggesting we let every Tom, Dick and Harry into our homes with welcoming arms..... I was merely pointing out that there seems to be a lot of automatic stereotyping happening with people when we find out some one has a "past."

Like I said, I think we need to take every situation individually and deal with them as separate situations. I just get uncomfortable when people start lumping people together in groups when each of us walks a different path and there are lots of people out there who deserve a second chance and shouldn't spend their whole lives paying for one bad mistake.

I originally asked the OP why she wanted to do a background check on this parent because I was thinking she could have been going to jail for writing bad checks or maybe a boat load of unpaid traffic tickets or who knows what else. Not everyone who goes to jail are hard core criminals.

Ok, I'm done now.

[littlemommy]

Having a child care out of a non-residential home honestly has nothing to do with it.....

My thoughts were she still has custody of her child so she must be doing something right (or not wrong). I also happen to believe that as child care providers we put way too much effort into the personal lives of the parents we have in care. This mom was upfront about her situation and whatever she has done or not done she is obvioulsy complying with the rules of her probation.

I also fully understand that there are certain people that none of us want in our homes but considering the fact that we are child care providers and offering a service to the general public, we sort of have to take each situation individually and deal with them.

I happen to coordinate with a half way house that serves women who are recovering addicts and are in the process of regaining their lives and sometimes custody of their children. These moms are not the ones I vent about. These moms are also not the ones I fear. The ones I fear are the ones who are doing illegal things right under our noses that we have no idea about. :confused:

Where I live, anyone who is not allowed to be near children are registered with the city/county/state and I am personally notified by the sheriff's dept.

I have a couple in care right now where the father is an ex-con who was convicted of armed robbery. He served 13 years in prison. His wife is a college educated woman with no criminal record at all. She has never drank or used drugs. Guess which one of them are more respectful of my rules and policies? Guess which one is more supportive of their child and anything I ask of them? (Hint: NOT the mom )

So basically, I was just sayin.......

She does NOT have custody of this child. She has two other children that she doesn't have custody of. She is only involved in this toddler's life because she is living with his father.

She is kind of different. Socially awkward, doesn't look like she takes care of herself. Her boyfriend (who she has told me is verbally abusive) is scary looking and has always been rude to me. I want to do a check on him too, knowing that he is with her after she has been a meth dealer!

This mom never told me why she was on probation, but I've always wondered. She's always been nice to me (nicer than her boyfriend) but if is in jail I'd almost rather not deal with the bf every day.

The DCB isn't the best fit for my group, either. I posted about him screaming for a half hour and drop off every day, after coming here for 7 months.