Calling In Sick?????

[MommyofThree]

It always amazes me at the amount of people on here who SAY they are always supportive, but you ask a simple question and get chewed out for it.

I would say just take the day off if you need it. It is YOUR business. YOU can do what you want. That is why you're in business for yourself. I wouldn't say you're sick. Just tell them something came up and that you need the day off. Give them a refund for the day and leave it at that. Chances are, they have personal time with their work or they have a backup. If not, they should have planned better for the occasional situation like this.

wow thank you very much Someone on here is supportive. Its like people NEVER LIE. ya right. I bet they all tell a little fib here and there. But thank you for stating the fact that yes people do chew you out over this Its sad but I know alot more will come from just this post.

[MommyofThree]

Well by you telling her you wouldn't say you were sick you aren't being that supportive.

Why do you get to say that and it's support but when someone else says it it's not support?

We can't blindly give support because someone comes on here and types... states they are a provider.... states what they think or a problem... and then all of us just do support words.

It doesn't work like that.

She was not badgering me about fibbing ... Everyone says they dont lie, I think everyone tells a fib here and there..But I am taking everyones advise and writting them a letter stating something came up.

[MommyofThree]

Also she is prob saying it because the moment someone hides there identity their a TROLL

[jessrlee]

so u do or u dont. first you say you wouldnt then you say you have played hookey??

I play hooky, meaning I stay open, but reward myself with the cash.

[sharlan]

It always amazes me at the amount of people on here who SAY they are always supportive, but you ask a simple question and get chewed out for it.

I would say just take the day off if you need it. It is YOUR business. YOU can do what you want. That is why you're in business for yourself. I wouldn't say you're sick. Just tell them something came up and that you need the day off. Give them a refund for the day and leave it at that. Chances are, they have personal time with their work or they have a backup. If not, they should have planned better for the occasional situation like this.

I am not being supportive or unsupportive. The OP asked for other's opinions and that's what she's getting. "I" would never just call parents and tell them "I" am sick, when I'm not. In 27 yrs, I've never done it.

I have taken time off for a couple of family vacations, but provided back up care. I have taken time off while I was in the hospital having my body rearranged, providing back up care for 2 weeks. I went through breast cancer twice, requiring numerous surgeries, chemo, and radiation. I saw to it that the kids were cared for while I was at appts or took them with me. I take a couple of days off to travel back and forth to Texas to help my sister, I provide back up care.

Parents have planned. They hired a responsible provider that they knew would be available to care for their child. Not everyone has backup care available to them and will have to take the day/s off. Having to take 2 days in a row off would not go over well with all employers, jeopardizing parents livlihood. It the parents don't get paid, they can't pay you.

[Ariana]

Do you have "personal days" built into your contract? I have 5 PD's and 5 sick days that I use for things like this. I think if you were honest with them they might be more understanding about it because it would give them an opportunity to find alternate care. I think I'd be too afraid of getting caught!

[MsMe]

wow thank you very much Someone on here is supportive. Its like people NEVER LIE. ya right. I bet they all tell a little fib here and there. But thank you for stating the fact that yes people do chew you out over this Its sad but I know alot more will come from just this post.

I never lie, its wrong and I don't do it.

It comes at personal sacrafice of making everyone in my life happy and sometimes they think I am 'mean' but I never lie.

I am an adult with nothing to hide and I see no reason for it.

[MommyofThree]

Do you have "personal days" built into your contract? I have 5 PD's and 5 sick days that I use for things like this. I think if you were honest with them they might be more understanding about it because it would give them an opportunity to find alternate care. I think I'd be too afraid of getting caught!

no, im a sahm who watches two full time children, then two children every other week, plus three before and after school kids. So I have no contracts and I dont get paid if their not here. But how come parents call in sick with me knowing I dont get paid for that day and then I lose a days pay but im not allowed....

[MommyofThree]

I never lie, its wrong and I don't do it.

It comes at personal sacrafice of making everyone in my life happy and sometimes they think I am 'mean' but I never lie.

I am an adult with nothing to hide and I see no reason for it.

I highly doubt it, but ok....

[laundrymom]

Lying about being ill is dishonest. I've never done it. I think it is a very disrespectful and unprofessional thing to do. When someone does it the whole face of home providers is harmed. It reinforces the idea that home providers are unreliable and dishonest. Most are not. But just as one bad apple can ruin a bushel, one dishonest home provider makes us ALL look bad.

This isn't a glamorous or high recognition job. I can't begin to tell you how many times I have to tell my family NO so I can do my job. But that was my choice, I made it when I stood up and said, " I am a childcare provider".

If you choose not to make advance preperation, and fail to have a backup for a non emergency, then lie about being ill. That's sooo uncool.

You could have contacted the school, spoke to the teacher, explaining your job, but asking them to keep you up to the minute informed on all activities. I guarantee they decided months ago on when this day would be. Funds had to be allocated, resources and schedules planned for. They may not send notices out but a week in advance but you can bet they planned this awhile ago. You have to be proactive about things when you own your own business you can't just wait for the information, you have to anticipate it and actively find these kinds of things out.
I have 4 kids from college sophomore to 5th grade and I LOOK for ways to be involved in their school. I don't wait for the invitation. I don't have that luxury.

If I was a parent, and this happened to me,... I would find a new provider with NO NOTICE. I would ask my deposit be returned and my two week notice be forfeited. If refused I would take provider to small claims.

Faking illness to close because provider wanted to do something else? That's so disrespectful, unprofessional and a serious risk to my own job.

And as for not being supportive? Lol,.... Why would I support behavior I don't believe in?


Be HONEST. Tell your parents you got notice that they were doing such and such on friday and you would like to go. You can credit them their fees but it's important to you.

Try the honest route. It might surprise you.

[MsMe]

I highly doubt it, but ok....

it was a choice I made a few years ago....much like quitting smoking or drinking.


It was hard at first to not tell white lies, but now it keeps me accoutable. It is just something that is important to me. I honestly can't think of a reason to lie.

[laundrymom]

no, im a sahm who watches two full time children, then two children every other week, plus three before and after school kids. So I have no contracts and I dont get paid if their not here. But how come parents call in sick with me knowing I dont get paid for that day and then I lose a days pay but im not allowed....

That is your own choice, if you choose to not have contracts, not require slot based tuition, you choose to lose out.

[jessrlee]

no, im a sahm who watches two full time children, then two children every other week, plus three before and after school kids. So I have no contracts and I dont get paid if their not here. But how come parents call in sick with me knowing I dont get paid for that day and then I lose a days pay but im not allowed....

If you are so hell bent on the idea just do it. Don't ask someone here to give you permission to do something wrong.

[MommyofThree]

Lying about being ill is dishonest. I've never done it. I think it is a very disrespectful and unprofessional thing to do. When someone does it the whole face of home providers is harmed. It reinforces the idea that home providers are unreliable and dishonest. Most are not. But just as one bad apple can ruin a bushel, one dishonest home provider makes us ALL look bad.

This isn't a glamorous or high recognition job. I can't begin to tell you how many times I have to tell my family NO so I can do my job. But that was my choice, I made it when I stood up and said, " I am a childcare provider".

If you choose not to make advance preperation, and fail to have a backup for a non emergency, then lie about being ill. That's sooo uncool.

You could have contacted the school, spoke to the teacher, explaining your job, but asking them to keep you up to the minute informed on all activities. I guarantee they decided months ago on when this day would be. Funds had to be allocated, resources and schedules planned for. They may not send notices out but a week in advance but you can bet they planned this awhile ago. You have to be proactive about things when you own your own business you can't just wait for the information, you have to anticipate it and actively find these kinds of things out.
I have 4 kids from college sophomore to 5th grade and I LOOK for ways to be involved in their school. I don't wait for the invitation. I don't have that luxury.

If I was a parent, and this happened to me,... I would find a new provider with NO NOTICE. I would ask my deposit be returned and my two week notice be forfeited. If refused I would take provider to small claims.

Faking illness to close because provider wanted to do something else? That's so disrespectful, unprofessional and a serious risk to my own job.

And as for not being supportive? Lol,.... Why would I support behavior I don't believe in?


Be HONEST. Tell your parents you got notice that they were doing such and such on friday and you would like to go. You can credit them their fees but it's important to you.

Try the honest route. It might surprise you.

yep and this is the type of thing that the unregister person was talking about.. wow name calling, thats not cool

[MommyofThree]

If you are so hell bent on the idea just do it. Don't ask someone here to give you permission to do something wrong.

wow thanks:} that is why others have left ..... I ask a simple question and you come out with this....