Whining.....Some Tips ?

[tenderhearts]

thanks I again posted when you did, I dont' think each one would last a couple hours but he just seems to keep going back to the whining like it's a habit now for him, so he'll go sit out like you said I don't call it a time out but I have him sit out but it seems like within a little while he's back to it, sometimes it can be an hour or 2 or 20 min. After mom said he's been doing it alot at home and it's been recent this started It agree that maybe he's tired or something with their move but he seemed excited about their move, nothing was interrupted other than moving from one place to another, he stayed here the normal so I don't know what else it could be, I've never had another 4 yr old be like this.

[tenderhearts]

thank you so much.....

[missnikki]

No prob. Good luck!

[mac60]

I have a just turned 3 yr old. He is a whiner, and we too all get sick of hearing it. He tends to have a lot of time outs also. I started putting him on a "naughty mat", which consist of a small blanket folded about 2 x 3 and put off away from the others, yet still in the area, and I give him an activity and that is where is has to sit and play......alone. He is not allowed to get off, or the naughty mat will be moved to another location way off alone.

[momma2girls]

I have also took a fun activity away from children that are whining and crying, etc. this seemed to help as well at first. Then I started the lay down in the am along with the babies, this seemed to help more!! It only took 2 times of this, and all I had to do is mention it to the little boy, would you like to take a nap now?

[mac60]

I agree sometimes I think the whining is from simply being tired.

[tenderhearts]

Thanks I do think that alot of his behaviour stems from being tired, his schedule seems to not be very consistant, but then some of it like his bossiness and constant policing the other children and tattling is something else, I don't know I guess some kids are this way maybe???? I know from helping in my kids classes in elementary school there seemed to always be one or 2 that constantly whined and tattled but it's so annoying, I always try to get him to work it out before tattling and telling the other kids what to do, I always remind him it's my job to do this and I have placed him in time out for it alot. It just gets so annoying

[Unregistered]

Thanks I do think that alot of his behaviour stems from being tired, his schedule seems to not be very consistant, but then some of it like his bossiness and constant policing the other children and tattling is something else, I don't know I guess some kids are this way maybe???? I know from helping in my kids classes in elementary school there seemed to always be one or 2 that constantly whined and tattled but it's so annoying, I always try to get him to work it out before tattling and telling the other kids what to do, I always remind him it's my job to do this and I have placed him in time out for it alot. It just gets so annoying

bossiness/policing/tattling are all behaviors that are completely normal for the summer before K.

As for the whining...could he find he's getting attention for it? Remember that negative attention is the same to a child as positive attention. Tell him - on a calm day - that from now on you will IGNORE him, and his requests when he whines. Then respond immediately when he uses his big boy voice, and thank him for *using your big boy voice*.