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A little background- 18 months ago I began watching a little boy to a YOUNG mom. A few months in DCM got herself into drugs and got busted.
DCB had nowhere to go and was about to be put in the care of a foster family in a whole other city. So I stepped up and he lived with us while mom got her life back on track.
She gained her full custody back in February of this year. DCB comes to day care part time mainly for socialization reasons DCMs parent's watch him the other days while DCM works and is trying to get her GED.
DCB has a potential of coming 12 days/month but only came 7 of those days last month. So far this month DCB has come 5. On the days he does attend he is dropped off at completely random times staying anywhere from 2 hours up to 10 hours some days. I went along with it as I have a special bond with the child and I realize I'm one of the very few stable people in his life.
It's obvious that they don't depend on my care so when I had a new client come along with a child that could attend full time I without hesitation signed them on.
Currently DCB can come tues thurs and fridays and rarely arrives earlier than 11:30. I told DCM last Friday that beginning Nov. 1st that the only hours that are available are 12:30-5:30 tues & thurs, 7:30-5:30 Fridays. I explained to her that this was the only way I can keep him in my care without being over in the number of children I had because my daughter was in school from 12:30-3:30 and new DCG left at 3:30 so he would fill their slots while they were gone. I told her that I hoped she understands and that those hours won't be a problem for her.
She said it should that it would be just fine because she doesn't have to be at school until 3. Today I get the following text:
"I'll have to bring DCB around 11:30 instead of 12:30 beginning Nov.1st I hope that will work for you."
I replied:
" No that won't work. It will cause me to be over during that hour and I will not break my licensing rules."
She replied:
"Well I'll try and figure something out then."
Now I realize I could probably call and get a variance for those days and times but I don't think it seems worth the trouble for a child that only attends 1-2 of his potential 3 days a week.
Not to mention that I'm pretty certain that the only reason she wants to continue to bring him at 11:30 is so that she doesn't have to feed him a meal. She has mentioned on several occasions that he only gets "good food" when he is here.
I wouldn't have even offered what I did if it weren't for my history with the child. I swear you give 'em an inch and they try and take themselves a mile
DCB had nowhere to go and was about to be put in the care of a foster family in a whole other city. So I stepped up and he lived with us while mom got her life back on track.
She gained her full custody back in February of this year. DCB comes to day care part time mainly for socialization reasons DCMs parent's watch him the other days while DCM works and is trying to get her GED.
DCB has a potential of coming 12 days/month but only came 7 of those days last month. So far this month DCB has come 5. On the days he does attend he is dropped off at completely random times staying anywhere from 2 hours up to 10 hours some days. I went along with it as I have a special bond with the child and I realize I'm one of the very few stable people in his life.
It's obvious that they don't depend on my care so when I had a new client come along with a child that could attend full time I without hesitation signed them on.
Currently DCB can come tues thurs and fridays and rarely arrives earlier than 11:30. I told DCM last Friday that beginning Nov. 1st that the only hours that are available are 12:30-5:30 tues & thurs, 7:30-5:30 Fridays. I explained to her that this was the only way I can keep him in my care without being over in the number of children I had because my daughter was in school from 12:30-3:30 and new DCG left at 3:30 so he would fill their slots while they were gone. I told her that I hoped she understands and that those hours won't be a problem for her.
She said it should that it would be just fine because she doesn't have to be at school until 3. Today I get the following text:
"I'll have to bring DCB around 11:30 instead of 12:30 beginning Nov.1st I hope that will work for you."
I replied:
" No that won't work. It will cause me to be over during that hour and I will not break my licensing rules."
She replied:
"Well I'll try and figure something out then."
Now I realize I could probably call and get a variance for those days and times but I don't think it seems worth the trouble for a child that only attends 1-2 of his potential 3 days a week.
Not to mention that I'm pretty certain that the only reason she wants to continue to bring him at 11:30 is so that she doesn't have to feed him a meal. She has mentioned on several occasions that he only gets "good food" when he is here.
I wouldn't have even offered what I did if it weren't for my history with the child. I swear you give 'em an inch and they try and take themselves a mile
and this makes me greatful for the DCf's I have.
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