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Just about ready to enroll my first child in my new daycare, once i get the DHS system up and running. Shes my wild one year old niece. Of course one of the main reasons for starting up the daycare was so i could watch her. Today i mention to her grandma (who does more parenting then her mom) that ill be ready to enroll her next week. And she had the nerve to tell me i better be good to her..... how many sarcastic comments do you think i could have responded with! I kept my wits and answered with of course i always take care of her when she visits, read to her and talk to her more than her mommy who grabs our laptop and virtually ignores her kid. Maybe im venting but really.... i mine as well get ready for this from parents who arent related
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"God said, ‘I have found David son of Jesse, a man after my own heart. He will do everything I want him to do.'"
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Her grandma, as in YOUR mom? (hopefully you meant the other one!)
I try to not take things like that personally, but sometimes it's hard
And I usually think of a GREAT comeback just before falling asleep that night-never when I need it!
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I mean my wifes mom
Mine is in CA 
"God said, ‘I have found David son of Jesse, a man after my own heart. He will do everything I want him to do.'"
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Can I just mention you rock. ???? Because if MY MOTHER IN LAW had said that to me,.... Rofl!!! Ummm yeah. I'm not even going there. It would start with,.... Are you for real? "?;/))!@$:@@@(;$!!!!!!? And end with, don't ever micromanage me.Comment
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My wife went over to her moms tonight while i was at work since there was a storm. All she did the whole evening was pick on her about my daycare and say i am not thinking things through. She wants to have a trial run with my niece to make sure i can take care of her. She thinks im too rough with my kids :confused: OY. ANd i wont be able to take vacations or go to doctors appointments with my own kids or meet my wife for lunch cause i dont have a assistant, and my sub really doesnt have time to actually sub since shes got her own kids, shes just the sub cause i need one. IM JUST frusterated and depressed. Maybe we should wait till January so we can get through the holidays first.
"God said, ‘I have found David son of Jesse, a man after my own heart. He will do everything I want him to do.'"
Acts 13:22Comment
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Have your wife tell you MIL to keep her opinions to herself...she is crossing a line. If she says it to you again, respectfully tell her you appreciate her concerns, but that they are unwarrented.My wife went over to her moms tonight while i was at work since there was a storm. All she did the whole evening was pick on her about my daycare and say i am not thinking things through. She wants to have a trial run with my niece to make sure i can take care of her. She thinks im too rough with my kids :confused: OY. ANd i wont be able to take vacations or go to doctors appointments with my own kids or meet my wife for lunch cause i dont have a assistant, and my sub really doesnt have time to actually sub since shes got her own kids, shes just the sub cause i need one. IM JUST frusterated and depressed. Maybe we should wait till January so we can get through the holidays first.
There is a bit of advice you will hear often in the world of daycare...don't work with family. Sorry...probably not what you want to hear, but it does tend to "go bad."Comment
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Does irritate me that they have known since the beginning, 6 months or so, that i was setting this up in the first place so i could help watch her and provide for my own family the extra income so i dont have to work weekends and nights away. But maybe i should look at the postive side, its moved me in this direction and i feel like it could be great. Just need the Lord to provide me with a good assistant and some kids. Maybe my MIL will see i can actually do this."God said, ‘I have found David son of Jesse, a man after my own heart. He will do everything I want him to do.'"
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Dave - I think your MIL has valid points about the dr. appointments, lunches, vacations, since those are things all of us self-employed day care providers struggle with. It’s so hard to accommodate all the parents and also do the things we must do. She’s right to wonder how you will handle it. (After many many years of providing day care in my home, I’m still not sure how to work in my dr. appts, etc.)
Many on this forum offer a trial run of 2 weeks to see how things go. So she’s really not out of line there either.
None of us can know how to take her statement that you’re too rough w/ your kids – that’s her opinion and only you, your wife and your kids can validate or refute that.
I think it’s great that she’s addressing her fears/concerns. And even better that you already know the sorts of things parents/grandparents worry about because you’ve planned your day care carefully and you’re already learning from other providers on this forum. I don’t think any of the things she’s saying are too far out of line. She obviously loves your niece, as do you. Together you can address the concerns and make this the best fit for your niece. I think it’s great that she can express her thoughts about this new phase in your niece’s life. And from what I’ve seen from your previous posts, I think you’ll do a great job of caring for her. No need to postpone the care or to be depressed – just think of your MIL’s statements as her expressions of love and concern for her grandchild, not as anything negative about you.Comment
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My opinion , for what it's worth, I'm the breadwinner in our family. DH works a factory job for insurance. HE TAKES OFF to do all appts. Yes it's hard work. And no I don't get to go out often to do things during the day. I'm sure my family has had much the same thoughts. But they kept the opinions to themselves. My dh fully supports my business. He is my rock. I say,... Do what YOU & YOUR WIFE feel is best for your family. No one else has your perspective. Mom in law needs to respect your decision.Comment
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dave4him,
while some of the things you MIL is is conserned about is valid like pointed out by other not being abloe to do things in the middle of the day ect. Depending on what job you had outside of the house you would have the saem problem. Is it possible that the root of the problem is that you are a man and most people believe that men wher not created to do tht sort of work.
Do not yet me wrong I think it is great that you are getting into this bussiness and wish you the best of luck. At the same time I know that most of the world considers this to be womens work and something that doing not make "real" money. Thus making you in the eyes of some people, less of a man.
I hope th my opinion is understood here and you understand thatI am not saying you should not do this or that is makes you less of a good father, husband and man.Comment
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I've done daycare for years.
I never missed dr's appts for my kid or me, never missed sporting events, took family vacations, etc. I was often room mother and a Girl Scout leader. When necessary I just packed the daycare kids up and off we went. The kids became a part of my life.Comment
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Just be good at what you do and go for it. Have a policy book and stick to it from day one and you should be golden. Don't be a push over. Conduct yourself as a business. Be professional. My response to your MIL would be that will be something I have to work out when it comes up. If she continues..........just say I got it, thanks. Thanks for your concern. Get ready to work! It's hard work being a provider......but you already know that having your own kiddo's. Push forward and don't let anyone get in the way at what you want, just decide you want to do it and do it well. Luck-Comment
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