Re-Enforcing

[wahmof3]

Have any of you not enforced your policies only to get to the point- if you don't change something and start enforcing you would need to terminate????

How do you tell them its my way or the highway?

I am mailing out newsletters & new phb this week. I am tired of the disrespect. I would really like to add fees to policies that are broken, but I would need to handout new contracts as well.

TIA!! I am so glad I found this forum!

~I am aware that I am as much at fault for not enforcing my policies as my dcp that dont follow them- but I am going to change that

[cheerfuldom]

Feel free to add wording that says that your policies are not negotiable. Parents are welcome to provide a two weeks notice if they feel they can no longer abide by the policies as outlined in the contract. Likewise, provider reserves the right to terminate any families that cannot follow the policies as provided in the contract.

[wahmof3]

Feel free to add wording that says that your policies are not negotiable. Parents are welcome to provide a two weeks notice if they feel they can no longer abide by the policies as outlined in the contract. Likewise, provider reserves the right to terminate any families that cannot follow the policies as provided in the contract.

I like this, thank you!

[daycare]

I am the queen of not following my PHB/Policies. Then when you start to enforce them, the parents act like toddlers and throw a tantrum.

I look at it like this, if you don't put your foot down from day one, you’re going to be asking for trouble. If you let one thing go, they will expect you to let another thing go. You know the saying give an inch take a mile. Well there are parents out there that will take and take and take and give NOTHING in return. Like, they will take advantage of every loop hole that they can, but when you need to close 10 min early to go to the doctors, they will throw a stink about it.

Don't open yourself up to negotiate EVER.... I am learning that I have to stop doing this too....
Also, don't get me wrong. There are parents that have earned their trust with me and I will go the extra mile for these parents, but these are the ones that are giving in return....

I am also sending out a nice sweet little letter that is informing the parents that they will need to refresh themselves with the PHB, as I will be enforcing ALL rules, policies and procedures in them. Going to give them a full month and then everything is kicking in HARD-CORE. Should anyone have any questions or concerns, please come speak to me right away. Of course, I won't be open to negotiation; I will just be there to tell them why I am enforcing the rules.

I like the wording that the other poster gave you...

[Zoe]

Daycare, if it makes you feel any better, I have taken your and others' stories on here about these parents when they get their "no" and have used them to grow a backbone quickly. I don't budge an inch with my policy and while I feel strict, I know that I'm setting a precedence for how my daycare is run and what I will and will not budge on. So really, you've inspired me! And I know your backbone will only get stronger and stronger with your experiences!

[wahmof3]

I am the queen of not following my PHB/Policies. Then when you start to enforce them, the parents act like toddlers and throw a tantrum.

I look at it like this, if you don't put your foot down from day one, you’re going to be asking for trouble. If you let one thing go, they will expect you to let another thing go. You know the saying give an inch take a mile. Well there are parents out there that will take and take and take and give NOTHING in return. Like, they will take advantage of every loop hole that they can, but when you need to close 10 min early to go to the doctors, they will throw a stink about it.

Don't open yourself up to negotiate EVER.... I am learning that I have to stop doing this too....
Also, don't get me wrong. There are parents that have earned their trust with me and I will go the extra mile for these parents, but these are the ones that are giving in return....

I am also sending out a nice sweet little letter that is informing the parents that they will need to refresh themselves with the PHB, as I will be enforcing ALL rules, policies and procedures in them. Going to give them a full month and then everything is kicking in HARD-CORE. Should anyone have any questions or concerns, please come speak to me right away. Of course, I won't be open to negotiation; I will just be there to tell them why I am enforcing the rules.

I like the wording that the other poster gave you...

Im right there with ya!!!! Seriously I am afraid to tell a parent "No, this is my policy and this is how it works". My fear I guess is because I cannot afford to lose a family. This week has been a real trial for me- lots and lots of tears, as well as doubts if Im in the right profession.

I am ready to say NO MORE. In all honsety my policies are not outrageous requests, just common courtesy. Easy rules.

I am proud of myself: today dcd said I will return at 2 to pick up dck. Well big policy no-no, thats my naptime. Now, I didnt tell him no, but I did say its naptime you will need to text me when you are on your way & I met dcm at the door. I am sending out new phb & from that point on- NO EXCEPTIONS!!

Ok thanks for letting me vent, I am stepping off my soapbox now ::::