Does This Sound Confrontational … Letter To Bug Bite Dad

[familyschoolcare]

Girl you sound just like me. I try so hard to make everyone happy and I hate Confortation. But as time goes on I realize I just want the fastest solution that will be best for everyone and for me to sleep at night.

Glad you got that dad off your back.

Me too.

Made some minnor changes to the letter and I am still going to send it home tommorow girlfriend called she is pickig DCB up today because she got off work early, While on phone with Dad he said that might happen. On a happy note it is nice to see that this child has parents and parental figures in his life that whant to spend time with him.

[wahmof3]

I would send the above letter and call.

There's no reason why you should still be in the middle of this. The Childs bug bites have NOTHiNG to do with you or your DC/house.

Remove yourself from this situation.

I am thinking the same thing.
I wouldnt let this continue. My question is whats next?

[Lucy]

Yep, if his child is the only one with bites, it's not from your house.

You've done more than enough. I think the email is too dramatic, too long.

Just send him a quick note:

Hey, Jim, I just wanted to let you know I checked with the health dept, and on their recomendation, set up some traps for fleas, etc. Turns out, the traps are empty.

I feel bad that Joey is getting bug bites, but apparently, it doesnt come from here. No other children here have had problems, either.

Good luck on this one! :-) Let me know if you figure it out!

***XX

Completely agree!! Make it light and not "angry" sounding. You only have to deny responsibility, state what you've done to prevent it, and put it back on him. Don't put emotion into it, even if it isn't specifically stated emotion. Your msg comes off a tad angry to me. No offense -- I'm sure you're mad, and I would be too -- but "never let 'em see you sweat"!

EDIT: Just read that you did speak to him. Hope it all works out.

[Mandy_Jane]

As a side note - now that it seems you have everything worked out, I would recommend signing up with a different email provider so that you can get your emails in a timely manner. There is nothing better than having everything in writing when it comes to any sort of conflict in daycare, so getting your email working should be a top priority as that is how most of the world communicates now (rather than actually writing out a letter). Good luck!

[Unregistered]

I would just talk with both parents. If girlfriend is on Dad's pick up list, I would tell the Mom that you have permission to talk with her as she is involved in care. Make sure Dad has given you this permission.

Your festering the flea fire with drama. Keep it simple. They are not from here, I have checked and no one else has them. When he keeps talking about it, don't feel as if you need to respond.

I believe they are coming from the car! Don't be surprised if you suddenly have a flea problem start up. UGH!

Best way to address problems is face to face and simple. Good Luck

[familyschoolcare]

As a side note - now that it seems you have everything worked out, I would recommend signing up with a different email provider so that you can get your emails in a timely manner. There is nothing better than having everything in writing when it comes to any sort of conflict in daycare, so getting your email working should be a top priority as that is how most of the world communicates now (rather than actually writing out a letter). Good luck!

I do not think the problem is my e-mail coming in a timely manner it is that dad sends them at 2:00 and then I often do not check e-mail again untill the next day.