How Far Should You Take Your Word?

[Unregistered]

I have a DC and I only offer my services to ages 18 mo-5 years.

I had a family that had their new born in a daycare on the other side of town and their older kid here with me.

Well time has passed and things have changed. The parents all along had planned to bring the little one here when old enough, but is still under the age I require. So now I have both of the kids here in my care. It was take both of them or lose the one I have now, which I could not afford to do.

the DCF of the kids made me promise not to tell the other provider that I am now taking the little one too. I dont know the other provider hardly at all during this time and said ok.

Well now we are a few months down the road and all sorts of things have happened with this family. I have also become somewhat friends with this other provider. I have had infant calls and would pass them on to her, because I dont take infants.

Well the other daycare lady asked me if the little one had come to my daycare too. She already knows I have the older one. Keeping my word to my DCF i said no...

Well now I feel horrible for lying. I also feel that I will term this family, as I am no longer willing to meet their crazy request. I know that the services that I am giving them NO person in the right mind would give them. No one but this other lady.

So what should I do, should I come clean? because I also feel that once I term, the family will be running back to this old provider and I don't want her to be upset with me..

[Crystal]

I don't understand why you made the promise? I would have been suspicious as to what they told her about pulling the baby from her and why they wouldn't want her to think they moved baby to you? Odd really.

I'd tell her and I'd ask her why they wouldn't want her to know about your arrangement. She might be able to shed some light on why they wanted you to lie if ever asked.

Also, I think any parent who would even consider asking me to lie was a less than honest person themselves and I would question wether or not I would want to provide services for them.

Sticky situation. Good Luck.

[sharlan]

I don't lie to or for anybody.

Anybody who knows me knows better than to even ask.

[cheerfuldom]

Sounds fishy that they even asked. Either they were fishing to see who was willing to do more for them at a cheaper price or wanted to leave this provider as a backup plan. Decide for sure if you are going to term. Call this provider and apologize for lying. Don't ever make promises like this to a family again. If the family finds out, let them know that you made a mistake in promising this in the first place and apologize for that. Sounds like the family is a problem though so be prepared for drama at termination.