DCM Staying FOREVER At Pickup Time

[daycare]

Lucky for me I have very demanding children of my own. my kids are always trying to get my attention. So when a parent comes I have the kid pretty much ready to go. The parents stay on my foyer, because I have a no shoe on the carpet policy..... I bring the kid over and say ok see you tomorrow I have to get back to attending to the other kids. and I walk away.

If it is the last child of the day, I will say ok well I have to go help XX with their homework now, see ya tomorrow and walk away.

If I feel like they need to tell me something, I still walk away. i have email and a phone, they can call or email me when needed.

once you give in, you make it Acceptable for them to keep doing it.....

[Cat Herder]

IMHO, There is no reason this should be happening at all.

No Adult Care during Child Care hours.

Parents can schedule a conference, email, text or give me a call from 1-3pm, Monday-Friday.

If I need to tell them something I ALSO schedule a conference, email, text or give them a call when it does not interfere with their job requirements (this information is filled out by them in their enrollment paperwork).

It is a two way street.

Maybe you could have your backup come keep the daycare one day and go hang out at her job all afternoon? ::

Nah, but honestly, if you are closing in less than 3 months, I don't think it is necessary to make any big changes. I'd just go with Nan's plan. No need to involve other parents.

[cheerfuldom]

no adult care during child care hours....i love that so much! ha ha!

its crazy what people expect of their provider. they want a friend on top of that too! a paid friend that can't go anywhere and has to watch the kid to boot. what a deal

[momma2girls]

I used to have a Mom take her shoes off at the door, and come in every single day. Just watch her son, while he ran around the loop around my kitchen, she played games with him. I put an end to this right away, but there were days I couldn't do anything about it, I was busy feeding a baby at the time she came in. Now I usually take him to her, or I make sure he doesn't do it any longer- no shoes past foyer area!!
It has gotten alot better, but once in a while, it will get bad again!!
There are many times if she is not here, I dress everyone and place shoes on everyone, about 10 min. before closing time. If it is nice, we make our way outside- very easy pick up then- have a good night, bye!!!

[MsMe]

thansk for all the advice ladies!

The main tiem I have the problem is outside play time. hard to have him waiting by the door when she has to come into the backyard to get him, and when he asks for '5 more' minutes she gladly lets him have it. She will count down or ask him to leave many times but he get to be 'boss' and tell his Mom he is still playing.

I have had teh talk during story tiem the past two days that when our Mommies and Daddies come we should give thema big hug and head home. No more playing when Mom and Dad are here.

I haven't gotten a chance to test if it has worked or not bc the sibling has been home sick for two days so DCB has been here untill the minute I close. :confused:

Hopefully it will work and once we are insode for winter I can bring him to the door.

[MsMe]

UPDATE:

Now it is a little colder here and we have been inside for the last week at pick up.

I have been meeting the DCM at the door to the breeze way.
*I forgot to mention I don't ever put shoes and coats on at the end of the day. I have a VERY LARGE mud room at the frount of the house (the size of a a large bedroom) I just meet them at the door to teh kitchen and they take it from there.

She has given me a funny look each day I met her at teh door...and yesterday after she took teh baby from me she actually TOLD the boy to go back in and play awhile.

I followed the boy to the livinging room and directed him back to Mom...."Well see you TOMORROW have a great NIGHT

[dave4him]

Id itemize the bill for time child is at the daycare showing time includes even when mom is present

[MsMe]

Id itemize the bill for time child is at the daycare showing time includes even when mom is present

She pays a weekly fee.

[Cat Herder]

She has given me a funny look each day I met her at teh door...and yesterday after she took teh baby from me she actually TOLD the boy to go back in and play awhile.

I followed the boy to the livinging room and directed him back to Mom...."Well see you TOMORROW have a great NIGHT

This was a test, much like a toddler testing his limits

You passed.

Consistent discipline applies not only to children....::

Keep it up.

[nannyde]

She has given me a funny look each day I met her at teh door...and yesterday after she took teh baby from me she actually TOLD the boy to go back in and play awhile.

Ding ding ding

There it is

She wants to have the kids on your clock for as long as possible.

It's pretty sad that a parent has been away from their kids all day long and they don't have a single clue that their kid NEEDS to get out of child care and be with THEM.

[MsMe]

Ding ding ding

There it is

She wants to have the kids on your clock for as long as possible.

It's pretty sad that a parent has been away from their kids all day long and they don't have a single clue that their kid NEEDS to get out of child care and be with THEM.

it is more than sad...the words i have for it are a bit stronger

[Unregistered]

My home is not your visiting center,

I tell them: Sorry but this is the busiest time of day, see you tomorrow.

One rude lady would shut the door and come back in, I would open it and firmly tell her drop off would be best if she needs a few minutes to talk about her child. That worked because she was always in a hurry to work!