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[Blackcat31]

There wasn't a lot of info provided like that, just that the mom asked more about policies and fees. Not that the mom was set upon changing things.

We may be interpreting what OP is saying, but that is what I took from her posts about this.

I got the feeling she (mom) was trying to change things and is now questioning the policies and rates that the OP thought they already covered (i.e. already agreed on). I guess the way I look at it is the dcm had every opportunity to ask all the questions she wanted during interview. When she chose not to do that, to me that implies agreement to whatever was discussed. Now it seems the mom has questions and is not wanting things she agreed to already to be the way it works.

So for me that means mom is changing the game not the OP.

Whew! That was kind of confusing wasn't it? :confused: Hope that made sense.

[Unregistered]

We may be interpreting what OP is saying, but that is what I took from her posts about this.

I got the feeling she (mom) was trying to change things and is now questioning the policies and rates that the OP thought they already covered (i.e. already agreed on). I guess the way I look at it is the dcm had every opportunity to ask all the questions she wanted during interview. When she chose not to do that, to me that implies agreement to whatever was discussed. Now it seems the mom has questions and is not wanting things she agreed to already to be the way it works.

So for me that means mom is changing the game not the OP.

Whew! That was kind of confusing wasn't it? :confused: Hope that made sense.

that might be what is happening and that would be totally on the mom, but the OP never said that so I chose to not think the absolute worst of the parent who might be stressed out beyond belief at the thought of leaving her baby for the first time with someone she barely knows to go back to a job she hasnt done in months.

[Blackcat31]

that might be what is happening and that would be totally on the mom, but the OP never said that so I chose to not think the absolute worst of the parent who might be stressed out beyond belief at the thought of leaving her baby for the first time with someone she barely knows to go back to a job she hasnt done in months.

See, that is why we are understanding things so differently.....my youngest just moved out. I am long past those first time mom stresses....

You brought up a good point though...which is why I love this forum. Different viewpoints.

[wahmof3]

many changes

If I were to post the changes that the dcm just dropped on me last minute, you would be reading a book.

The dcm did meet with me in May and stated she needed care for xx hours, I said ok that works for me.

Then within the past week or so she has added more hours (only assuming it worked for me), questioned my rates, questioned policies--- many many red flags.

The dcm needs changed & I couldnt do it.

[wahmof3]

Havent had any of those moments yet. Frankly im a bit nervous about it when the time comes. I want to make sure the parents know they need to be open and honest with us and consider us family.

Lesson learned here for me:

During an interview- PRY, PRY, PRY for info. This dcm hours never changed, she just didnt disclose all of them