Uhhh...Am I Wrong To Refuse Services?! (VENT)

[wdmmom]

I had a DCM come this afternoon to tell me she was taking tomorrow off! SUPER! Now here it comes:

"I'm going quilting tomorrow so I will drop baby off at 9am rather than 730am and I will pick up at regular time."

Really?! She gets a day off but I don't?! I'm really getting fed up with parents that get to enjoy their day but I don't.

It's really getting to the point I'm going to take a Monday off because I CAN and I WANT TO BE SELFISH TOO! ::::::

How many of you would work and how many of you would tell her NO!

[MyAngels]

If I were being paid for the day I would take the child.

On a personal level I don't agree with her choice, as our children are only young once and I think that, for the most part, if we're not working we should spend that time with our children.

On a professional level I understand that this is part of the job.

[Pammie]

I'd work.

I honestly could care less what my dcps do during their days - that's their business. As long as I can reach them in an emergency, and I get paid for the day - I'm happy.

[cheerfuldom]

If she has paid for the day then I don't care what she does when her kid is here. As long as the drop off and pick up are still within the policies. If you need a day off, take it. I take every holiday I can get off because I never take personal days or sick days. Everyone needs a break BUT she is not obligated to keep her child home just because she is home. It would be nice for you but she isn't doing anything wrong UNLESS your policies state that daycare is for work/school only.

[Crystal]

Yes, I think you are wrong. She is still paying you. If you are being paid, it doesn't matter what the parent is doing, they have paid for the services they are using.

Now, would I prefer Mom spend time with her child? Certainly. But, that's between Mom and child.

[daycare]

Well I know how you feel and its sad that on her day off she has made a choice to do something for her instead of with her child.

but as the motto goes, don't be mad at me for not being the person YOU wish I would be.

I dont care what parents are going, so long they pay on time and drop off and pick up on time. I'll take what i can get.

BUT, i do have on family that has their kids here for every meal and more than 11.5 hours every day and it kills me when they pull up in their gym clothes or they show up together and said oh we went out to dinner..... So I guess I can relate to you in some way. But at the end of teh day, they are paying me, I agreed to those hours and it is what it is..

[wdmmom]

If she has paid for the day then I don't care what she does when her kid is here. As long as the drop off and pick up are still within the policies. If you need a day off, take it. I take every holiday I can get off because I never take personal days or sick days. Everyone needs a break BUT she is not obligated to keep her child home just because she is home. It would be nice for you but she isn't doing anything wrong UNLESS your policies state that daycare is for work/school only.

YES...It is in my contract that I only work while parents are in school or at work.

She gets a paid day off...why shouldn't I...especially on a Friday!

My thought is this: I am a daycare...not a babysitting service. What she needs is a babysitter. For that I charge $10 per hour rather than $4!

[nannyde]

YES...It is in my contract that I only work while parents are in school or at work.

I tried that for many many years.... unsuccessfully I might add.

I finally gave up.

You will either get confrontation or deceit. You got confrontation.

[cheerfuldom]

well if it is in your policy then it is up to you if you are willing to try and police parents and enforce some sort of consequence for breaking policy

[sharlan]

I don't care what the parents are doing. As long as I'm paid, I don't feel that it is any of my business what they are doing or where they are at.

Just like us, parents need a off now and then.

[wahmof3]

I had a DCM come this afternoon to tell me she was taking tomorrow off! SUPER! Now here it comes:

"I'm going quilting tomorrow so I will drop baby off at 9am rather than 730am and I will pick up at regular time."

Really?! She gets a day off but I don't?! I'm really getting fed up with parents that get to enjoy their day but I don't.

It's really getting to the point I'm going to take a Monday off because I CAN and I WANT TO BE SELFISH TOO! ::::::

How many of you would work and how many of you would tell her NO!

I can totally agree with you! Its also in my phb that my services are for work or school only. I have a family- where dcd is off 2-3 days per week. Makes me SOOOOO sad that they choose NOT to be with their child. I would never do that!

[Crystal]

YES...It is in my contract that I only work while parents are in school or at work.

She gets a paid day off...why shouldn't I...especially on a Friday!

My thought is this: I am a daycare...not a babysitting service. What she needs is a babysitter. For that I charge $10 per hour rather than $4!

How do you justify this to parents? They are paying for a service, they should be able to use it as they see fit. The only way I can see you being able to justify telling them if they are not working or going to school they cannot use care is to not pay for it. I think if you try to enforce it, they will simply NOT tell you if they are working or not.

BTW, how would YOU be getting a day off if she didn't come? Don't you have other children in care?

[daycare]

As sad as it is, at then end of the day you provide services for this family and like nan said if you try to enforce your policy they will just lie. Wll unless you installed them with gps or lo-jack. Lol

I just found out that one of my DCK that gets picked up at 7pm daily goes to bed at 7:30. This means parents see her for 30 minutes minus driving time in the evening. Do I like this nope. Is it sad oh yes,
But I run a service and I don't interfere with how they chose to live their lives so long as it doesnt affect me or their child in a negative way.

I think you would run the risk of really making this parent angry if toy decide to deny her services that I am assuming she has already paid for?

[wdmmom]

How do you justify this to parents? They are paying for a service, they should be able to use it as they see fit. The only way I can see you being able to justify telling them if they are not working or going to school they cannot use care is to not pay for it. I think if you try to enforce it, they will simply NOT tell you if they are working or not.

BTW, how would YOU be getting a day off if she didn't come? Don't you have other children in care?

I have very few children that attend Fridays and it's not the entire day off that I was referring to...just a day off from watching the infant.

I sure home Thanksgiving break comes soon!

[Nellie]

Sorry I have to agree with most every one that posted. I have a little one whose dad had vacation time to burn up before the end of the year and he has had the last 3 days off and the DCB has come. The dad is using this time to make house repairs, he is looking into going back to school so made a few appointments at the local universities, and a little R&R. Not my buisness what they do when the child is here.
Sounds like you need to take a day off.