Call Me Cranky But...

**Blackcat31** · 10-06-2011, 01:28 PM

Originally posted by Zoe

this is the second time this week that my 2nd shift dcm has been over an hour late with no phone call. On Monday I called her as I was concerned. She called back saying, "yeah...I don't work until 4:30 so I'll be there late." Her contracted hours are 2:30-midnight. NO apology or anything. Grrr. Whatever I brushed it of with a comment to her about advance notice being appreciated. Well here it is...3:30 and no call no show. I'm assuming she's going to be here at 4, but since she didn't say anything, I'm tempted to not be home.

Yes, I'm cranky today so I'm more annoyed with it than I normally would be. What do you do with those parents who disrupt your schedule and your day? In this case it's my family time! My time to get out of the house! I will NOT be held hostage here all evening waiting for her.

I'd leave. You already warned her about advance notice and she isn't complying so I would leave and tell her that you already said something about it and since she never notified you about any changes, you made plans.

If you do that you will only have to do it once because they some how miraculously "get it" after that.

Plus you're cranky and this is the easiest most effective way to get your point across! LOL!

**Zoe** · 10-06-2011, 01:31 PM

If my daughter didn't come home from kindy at 4, I would leave. I might be immature and just not answer the door. I'm trying not to "act in anger" as others warned.

**kathiemarie** · 10-06-2011, 01:32 PM

I would leave. I had to do that to a parent once. I have a drop off time of no later than 9 am. (if they were going to be late I asked for a phone call) After several mornings waiting for the dad (missing out on some activies) he was late again so I left the house right at 9 am. He had to call me to find out where I was, boy did I make sure I was far, far away, to be able to bring his child to me. NEVER again was he late.

**Zoe** · 10-06-2011, 01:49 PM

So I thought about it and I can't leave. My daughter is going to be home at 4 so I need to be there and I've got an interview at 4:30. But my DH suggested he open the door if/when she gets here and tell her I left, not allowing dcg into the house. Here's hoping he gets here before she does. I really want to make a point here. Silly or not.

**Kaddidle Care** · 10-06-2011, 01:53 PM

So long as she is paying you for 2:30 until midnight then you should be there for her. Ask her if she wants to amend the contract so you know where you stand.

**Blackcat31** · 10-06-2011, 01:59 PM

I hear ya! I hate when this type of stuff happens. Would if help to charge her a late drop off fee or maybe a fee for not notifying you of changes? I would maybe let her know that if she doesn't drop off when she said, that you will not accept the child even if she shows up. Tell her she MUST call or you won't answer the door. Hope she gets your point.

**daycare** · 10-06-2011, 02:23 PM

Originally posted by Blackcat31

I hear ya! I hate when this type of stuff happens. Would if help to charge her a late drop off fee or maybe a fee for not notifying you of changes? I would maybe let her know that if she doesn't drop off when she said, that you will not accept the child even if she shows up. Tell her she MUST call or you won't answer the door. Hope she gets your point.

Blacktcat31, you have been in detention for a really long time....

just what did you do? Or didnt do?

I would define a cut off time. I have this in my program wehn I am teaching. No child will be dropped off after 9:45am, no exceptions. It is suggested that if you need to take your child to the doctors for any reason that you schedule your appointments towards the end of our daycare day. Any drop off or pick-up that is to occur outside of your nomal contracted hours must be arranged in 24 hours in advance with the provider.

**Blackcat31** · 10-06-2011, 02:28 PM

Originally posted by daycare

Blacktcat31, you have been in detention for a really long time.... just what did you do? Or didnt do?

I would define a cut off time. I have this in my program wehn I am teaching. No child will be dropped off after 9:45am, no exceptions. It is suggested that if you need to take your child to the doctors for any reason that you schedule your appointments towards the end of our daycare day. Any drop off or pick-up that is to occur outside of your nomal contracted hours must be arranged in 24 hours in advance with the provider.

LOL!!! :

: I don't play well with others.

Actually, I think I am the responsible party that deleted the venting thread. I'm not positive, but I am taking one for the team.

**countrymom** · 10-06-2011, 02:28 PM

its not the point that they are paying, its the fact that we have to sit around and wait and wait, while we can be doing other things. So yes you have every right to be angry. Get dh to answer the door.

**daycare** · 10-06-2011, 02:34 PM

Originally posted by Blackcat31

LOL!!! :

: I don't play well with others.

Actually, I think I am the responsible party that deleted the venting thread. I'm not positive, but I am taking one for the team.

.....its ok I almost deleted a "hot topic" post a few days ago.... If I keep at it, I am sure i'll end up joining you in time out...

It just really made me giggle..

**wdmmom** · 10-06-2011, 03:03 PM

Would love an update!

Did your DH answer the door?!

**sharlan** · 10-06-2011, 03:22 PM

Tell the mother that effective immediately, have the paper ready to sign, that you will be charging a late arrival fee if you are not notified x hours in advance.

**Doodlebug** · 10-06-2011, 03:23 PM

If she has given you permission to transport her child, put a note on the door and go to a park so she has to chase you around a little bit. If she says something just tell her you didn't think she would mind since she was so flexible with her schedule? If you really wanted to make things even a little more challenging, happen to "forget" her child's things back at your house so she has to go back again to get them.

Then be nice and tell her you will only bill her through the time you guys were at the park.

Oh I think I'm feeling a little snarky today too. I have some parents that tell me their schedule is going to be different tomorrow and knew I wouldn't mind...

**Zoe** · 10-06-2011, 03:51 PM

Update: She never even showed up! It's safe to assume she's not coming tonight since she's over 3 hours late. So I finally called her and left a voicemail (clearly in an annoyed tone) asking her what was going on. I said that I needed to know when she was dropping off and I was no longer going to be at the house. I asked her to let me know if she was no longer needing my care or if this was just a no show for today.

Hopefully she'll get back to me. Because if she shows up on Monday (the next scheduled day) without so much as an explanation, I'll be really upset.

I take good care of her child! I don't charge a late fee when something happens at work (she's a nurse at a senior center). Why can't she have enough respect for me to inform me when she isn't going to bring her daughter here?!?

I like the idea of a cut-off time or a late drop off fee. I'll have to think about this.

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