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I also currently have a toy hoarder in care. She has an older sibling that is very close in age. When she was born mom lost her job and stayed home with them for a year. I would have them visit on occasion so the older could stay connected to the group as the plan was for the two to return once she found a job. What I observed was toy grabbing from the baby with mom doing little or nothing to prevent it. The older sibling was particularly driven to remove whatever toy the younger had in her possession.
The older sibling also likes to instruct the younger on her every move, like "you can only use these legos, here's the book you can read, etc." Of course this is not allowed in my setting, but now that the older sibling is in preschool three mornings a week, I've noticed the younger attempting these type of controlling behaviors with the other children.
Similar to Nanny, I try and set up my environment so this child will have success in reducing/eliminating her hoarding ways. For instance, there absolutely cannot be baby strollers out. If they were, she would load that ****er up with every purse/small toys/blocks/legos/cars and stroll her hoard around. She has gotten the message with repeated correction, but is not able to control herself enough to have them out without direct one-on-one supervision yet. So they are not out.
I too will intervene when a child yells MINE. Typically I correct the behavior by taking possession of the toy and saying to the child, "this toy belongs to Kathy. I'm letting you have a turn. When you're done it will be so-and-so's turn. Are you all done?" If the child says no, then I'll remind them to use more proper communication by saying "my turn, or my hands".
We have to remember that especially with two-year-olds, they are learning to communicate in a social setting. I think it's a step in the right direction they used communication (MINE!!) to try and resolve their problem (another child trying to take a toy), rather than bite/hit/kick to stop the offending child.
In terms of a child just randomly running around yelling MINE everytime someone was within 20 yards, then a warning and the toy would likely be returned to the community toy shelf for use by other children.
The older sibling also likes to instruct the younger on her every move, like "you can only use these legos, here's the book you can read, etc." Of course this is not allowed in my setting, but now that the older sibling is in preschool three mornings a week, I've noticed the younger attempting these type of controlling behaviors with the other children.
Similar to Nanny, I try and set up my environment so this child will have success in reducing/eliminating her hoarding ways. For instance, there absolutely cannot be baby strollers out. If they were, she would load that ****er up with every purse/small toys/blocks/legos/cars and stroll her hoard around. She has gotten the message with repeated correction, but is not able to control herself enough to have them out without direct one-on-one supervision yet. So they are not out.
I too will intervene when a child yells MINE. Typically I correct the behavior by taking possession of the toy and saying to the child, "this toy belongs to Kathy. I'm letting you have a turn. When you're done it will be so-and-so's turn. Are you all done?" If the child says no, then I'll remind them to use more proper communication by saying "my turn, or my hands".
We have to remember that especially with two-year-olds, they are learning to communicate in a social setting. I think it's a step in the right direction they used communication (MINE!!) to try and resolve their problem (another child trying to take a toy), rather than bite/hit/kick to stop the offending child.
In terms of a child just randomly running around yelling MINE everytime someone was within 20 yards, then a warning and the toy would likely be returned to the community toy shelf for use by other children.
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