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Hi ladies! Normally, I just lurk since I don't have too many issues, but haven't found any posts about my current issues so I thought I'd bring them to the experts.....
I have a dcb that is 8mo old. He won't drink breast milk from a bottle for me anymore, but his mom keeps saying she wants me to TRY it every 2 hours. I've never fed an 8mo old a bottle every 2hrs ever and I'm thinking he's ready to be eating more baby food. He LOVES it and will eat 2 containers of it for lunch. He's been so happy since I started him on 2 containers, but mom wishes he'd only eat a half of a container....when I did that, he'd just cry & cry...nothing in his world was going his way then. KWIM? So now I'm doing 2 containers and he's happy. He will drink a formula bottle for me in the afternoon after his nap, but his mom is so stressed out by this and keeps bringing me breastmilk that he won't drink...and then she texts me every morning to ask if I tried it and if he drank any. Ummm...NO...he STILL doesn't want it. She's been told by the doctor & others that all he needs is breastmilk until 12 months, but this is a BIG baby...and he LOVES the baby food. The other issue is that he doesn't sleep all night. She says he nibbles every 2 hours all night so that's why I need to get him to drink the bottles during the day...I say she needs to quit letting him nibble...offer him a drink of water, but no nibbling. An 8mo old shouldn't need to nibble anything all night long. I've also suggested giving him the 2 containers of babyfood for his supper since he's been waking up, but she won't do it. I don't know what else to tell her. He's going to keep waking if she keeps letting him nibble...he's not going to want a bottle from me if he can nibble all night. The cycle needs to be broken BY HER, but I can't get it into her head that she needs to make some changes if she wants to sleep at night.
Also, she's doing Attachment Parenting, which is a whole other topic in itself. I lay him down for naps and he screams for 20 minutes and falls asleep. Every. single. day. she asks if he cried at nap. "Yes, he cried, but not for long and he slept great after that." She just can't bear the thought that he had to cry. Today, she told me "If he cries at nap, why don't you go get him after a couple minutes and see if he'll take some breast milk then?" NOOOOO....I'm not starting that. He won't take it anyway...we've been over this every day for the last month! Once I lay the baby down, it's naptime. He settles down in a fair amount of time. It's usually only 20 min in the morning nap and for afternoon he's out in 5 or so. The trouble is that she naps with him at home...says that's a part of Attachment Parenting, to sleep with baby and anticipate his every need...which is all fine and dandy for her, but doesn't fly at daycare. I can't lay down & take a nap with her baby, nor do I want to. He needs to sleep on his own, but my house is the only place that happens.
It's so frustrating...I know what would help, but she won't do it because it's not what the Dr. Sears book says or what the doctor says or what her friends say...but what they're all telling her IS NOT WORKING. I've tried to just go with "He had a great day" kind of answers, but she specifically asks every day how long he cried, what time I did this or that, did I do this instead of that. She's a first time mom...I've had 2 of my own and cared for 6 other babies through my years in daycare...that's 8 babies to her 1, but she won't just take the advice given and try it. What would you do? I'm open to whatever you got! Thanks a bunch!
I have a dcb that is 8mo old. He won't drink breast milk from a bottle for me anymore, but his mom keeps saying she wants me to TRY it every 2 hours. I've never fed an 8mo old a bottle every 2hrs ever and I'm thinking he's ready to be eating more baby food. He LOVES it and will eat 2 containers of it for lunch. He's been so happy since I started him on 2 containers, but mom wishes he'd only eat a half of a container....when I did that, he'd just cry & cry...nothing in his world was going his way then. KWIM? So now I'm doing 2 containers and he's happy. He will drink a formula bottle for me in the afternoon after his nap, but his mom is so stressed out by this and keeps bringing me breastmilk that he won't drink...and then she texts me every morning to ask if I tried it and if he drank any. Ummm...NO...he STILL doesn't want it. She's been told by the doctor & others that all he needs is breastmilk until 12 months, but this is a BIG baby...and he LOVES the baby food. The other issue is that he doesn't sleep all night. She says he nibbles every 2 hours all night so that's why I need to get him to drink the bottles during the day...I say she needs to quit letting him nibble...offer him a drink of water, but no nibbling. An 8mo old shouldn't need to nibble anything all night long. I've also suggested giving him the 2 containers of babyfood for his supper since he's been waking up, but she won't do it. I don't know what else to tell her. He's going to keep waking if she keeps letting him nibble...he's not going to want a bottle from me if he can nibble all night. The cycle needs to be broken BY HER, but I can't get it into her head that she needs to make some changes if she wants to sleep at night.
Also, she's doing Attachment Parenting, which is a whole other topic in itself. I lay him down for naps and he screams for 20 minutes and falls asleep. Every. single. day. she asks if he cried at nap. "Yes, he cried, but not for long and he slept great after that." She just can't bear the thought that he had to cry. Today, she told me "If he cries at nap, why don't you go get him after a couple minutes and see if he'll take some breast milk then?" NOOOOO....I'm not starting that. He won't take it anyway...we've been over this every day for the last month! Once I lay the baby down, it's naptime. He settles down in a fair amount of time. It's usually only 20 min in the morning nap and for afternoon he's out in 5 or so. The trouble is that she naps with him at home...says that's a part of Attachment Parenting, to sleep with baby and anticipate his every need...which is all fine and dandy for her, but doesn't fly at daycare. I can't lay down & take a nap with her baby, nor do I want to. He needs to sleep on his own, but my house is the only place that happens.
It's so frustrating...I know what would help, but she won't do it because it's not what the Dr. Sears book says or what the doctor says or what her friends say...but what they're all telling her IS NOT WORKING. I've tried to just go with "He had a great day" kind of answers, but she specifically asks every day how long he cried, what time I did this or that, did I do this instead of that. She's a first time mom...I've had 2 of my own and cared for 6 other babies through my years in daycare...that's 8 babies to her 1, but she won't just take the advice given and try it. What would you do? I'm open to whatever you got! Thanks a bunch!
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