Update On Baby Who Is Always Medicated

[sharlan]

wrong, actually, on the teething tablets. They were recalled a year ago, but have been put back out in a new formulation. There's a good chance that those are the new, safer kind. NOT that the old ones were unsafe, per se...a child would have had to consume like, ten or twenty bottles at one time to suffer even mild effects. At any rate, don't worry about the teething tablets. The other stuff? Yeah...not so much...

My eldest granddaughter ate 1/2 of a bottle of the Hyland's teething tablets about 13 years ago. My dd called Hyland's and poison control. Both said not to worry, she would have to eat quite a few bottles before there would be an issue.

REGARDLESS, this is way too much medication for a baby.

[cheerfuldom]

this thread is scaring me. why would a normal, healthy child have that much medication constantly on hand? either mom is a whack job or has no coping skills whatsoever and rushes to medicate for the smallest squeak from the kid. I did have one mom that was giving her child Tylenol every morning so "she wouldn't be fussy here" and as soon as I found out, I asked her to stop. the thing was, this kid was my all time easiest kid ever. I have no idea what mom was talking about in saying the little one was always fussy.

[Blackcat31]

this thread is scaring me. why would a normal, healthy child have that much medication constantly on hand? either mom is a whack job or has no coping skills whatsoever and rushes to medicate for the smallest squeak from the kid. I did have one mom that was giving her child Tylenol every morning so "she wouldn't be fussy here" and as soon as I found out, I asked her to stop. the thing was, this kid was my all time easiest kid ever. I have no idea what mom was talking about in saying the little one was always fussy.

I agree and seriously wonder how all of these drugs are interacting together. Sounds like a toxic waste dump!!! How very very sad!!! :confused:

I also agree with Nan...photograph and/or video tape everything. I think this child should be removed from this mother's care immediately until someone can be sure he is ok and being properly cared for and not drugged 24/7.

[daycare]

After reading this I feel like crying. This is soo very sad. I am so sorry that you are having to go through this and like someone else said earlier know that you are doing it for the child. bless his poor little heart. I am happy that you are doing all you can for this child. Right now you are his only voice.

I really hope this ends soon and do your best to not stress about it too much. I can't imagine how that poor little guy must feel.

hugs to you and baby

[JenNJ]

I hope it went ok. I'm thinking of you and that poor sweet baby.

[littlemommy]

For the safety of the other kids and myself, I did it in a note. I know some disagree and say that I should have done it in person, but I had 3 other kids here and other parents on their way. This way I also have it documented in writing.

I cried as soon as I shut the door. She kept saying what time he'll be here tomorrow, and he was all smiles. Sooo hard to tell a little one goodbye for the last time.

My licensing lady said this case almost sounds like Munchausen's syndrome. I did some research on it to refresh my memory from college psych. It said that most parents with the disorder are in the health field. She is taking her generals to be a nurse!

This is all very hard, but I know I'm doing it for the child, as well as the other children and my own liability! Thank you ladies for your support and advice.

[daycare]

big hugs to you. YOu are doing the right thing. Just remind yourself this. You more than likely have saved this childs life.

[Blackcat31]

For the safety of the other kids and myself, I did it in a note. I know some disagree and say that I should have done it in person, but I had 3 other kids here and other parents on their way. This way I also have it documented in writing.

I cried as soon as I shut the door. She kept saying what time he'll be here tomorrow, and he was all smiles. Sooo hard to tell a little one goodbye for the last time.

My licensing lady said this case almost sounds like Munchausen's syndrome. I did some research on it to refresh my memory from college psych. It said that most parents with the disorder are in the health field. She is taking her generals to be a nurse!

This is all very hard, but I know I'm doing it for the child, as well as the other children and my own liability! Thank you ladies for your support and advice.

((((hugs))) but you did the right thing. Always remember that. That little one deserved to have someone stick up for him and speak up...you did that. I know it is sad and you still have to deal with the phone calls when she does read your note but the hardest part is over. What did you say to her in your letter?

Will she try to call and talk it over or is she the type to just go on her merry way?

Make sure you call licensing and tell them you termed so they have record of it.

Again I am sorry you are going through all this but you did the right thing. Hang in there.

[sharlan]

For the safety of the other kids and myself, I did it in a note. I know some disagree and say that I should have done it in person, but I had 3 other kids here and other parents on their way. This way I also have it documented in writing.

I cried as soon as I shut the door. She kept saying what time he'll be here tomorrow, and he was all smiles. Sooo hard to tell a little one goodbye for the last time.

My licensing lady said this case almost sounds like Munchausen's syndrome. I did some research on it to refresh my memory from college psych. It said that most parents with the disorder are in the health field. She is taking her generals to be a nurse!

This is all very hard, but I know I'm doing it for the child, as well as the other children and my own liability! Thank you ladies for your support and advice.

Now, what happens if she doesn't read the note and shows up at your door tomorrow morning?

[daycare]

Now, what happens if she doesn't read the note and shows up at your door tomorrow morning?

Oh thats a great point. maybe you should send her a text and let her know that you put a note in her bag or a phone call.

[littlemissmuffet]

Have you heard from her yet?
With all you've said, I don't think she looks in his diaper bag... so there's a good chance that she hasn't gotten that letter and will be at your door with bells on come morning...
then what?

One of my families was termed from a previous provider who left a note in the diaper bag on Friday... on Monday they went to drop off little Johnny as usual and the provider was all like "WTH?? Didn't you get my note?"

Obviously not.

I don't agree with terming in any other way than face to face and then handing over their termination letter... if it's an issue of being afraid of retaliation, you should have asked a police officer to be present. She can still retaliate at any given moment... but I think this way she'll be even more upset because it was done in a fairly dishonest way (she kept saying what time she was dropping DCB off and you said NOTHING!).

I hope this ends well - that you find peace in knowing you did the right thing, that baby stops being abused and mom gets help (though, you mentioned she doesn't have custody of her other 2 kids, which is incredibly alarming to me...)

Good luck to you, dear.

[countrymom]

I wouldn't have done it in a note, way too many what if's. i don't understand why you just didn't call someone over, the police, cas, your licesening lady even a neighbour or one of the parents.

[Zoe]

I do agree that face to face with a policeman would have been the sure way she'd get the hint, but what's done is done. How did it go? Did she call you?

[littlemommy]

I'm glad I did the note and not face to face. I had 2 other parents coming at that time. My neighbors were not home. I had 3 kids in my home. I know it may have been the "easy way out," but it worked. I know if I would have done it in person I wouldn't have been able to say everything on my mind. She would have interrupted and started crying and yelling, who knows what else.

She texted me later in the evening. She said "I will not be paying you for ******. U have done nothing to disregard his protection from ur unruly child who in my presence has thrown things @ him and @ me. I have meds that dr ***** has told me he can take and ur lack of talking to me about it in person is immature. I have done nothing but try to cooperate with your lack of common sense."

Okay...my son threw a toy in her direction, out of excitement, one time. Even if she did have Dr's permission, she never gave me dosages or said anything about the dr, and never told me when she last gave him anything. I tried talking to her in person the night before, and she completely disregarded that. I know she looked in his bag that night I told her meds need to be taken out. Yesterday when I found them still there, the syringes were in a plastic bag, and they weren't the day before. I have told her before that I did not give him meds because he is fine while he is here. She would still urge me to give them because of teething.

Monday she told me to only feed him rice cereal and pedialyte because she didn't want his runny nose to make him dehydrated. And of course really pushed the Dimetap and Tylenol.

[Kaddidle Care]

She texted me later in the evening. She said "I will not be paying you for ******. U have done nothing to disregard his protection from ur unruly child who in my presence has thrown things @ him and @ me.

Well she sure didn't think that one out before she texted you!

What kind of mother leaves her baby with a caregiver that she feels won't protect her child?

Also, the fact that her Pediatrician said she could use those meds on the baby doesn't mean that she is to use them constantly.

She's a Nutter!!

You also now have evidence that she owes you money for whatever time your contract says.

Just wait until CPS knocks on her door.

Document everything and be prepared for a visit from licensing.