Update On Baby Who Is Always Medicated

[sharlan]

The kid needs to be drug tested. I would keep a wet diaper of his and quadruple bag and freeze.

Just sayin

That may be a good idea. Take his next diaper, which will show what is currently in his system.

[littlemommy]

That may be a good idea. Take his next diaper, which will show what is currently in his system.

How would I go about getting that tested? Should I call CPS and tell them that I have one if they want it?

[sharlan]

I would call CPS and ask them for instructions on what you should do?

[nannyde]

How would I go about getting that tested? Should I call CPS and tell them that I have one if they want it?

I would just keep it. You don't have to get it tested.

[MissAnn]

I just talked to my licensing lady and told her about this DCM. DCM wants her 13 month old on Tylenol, Orajel, and Dymatap 24/7. I haven't given any of it to him while he's here. I do not feel comfortable knowing he's constantly medicated. She told me a few weeks ago that "he can't function if it's not in his veins." She knows I don't give it to him, but reminds me every morning that it's in there and that I should.

My licensing lady said that I am not required to give meds at all, and that most providers are getting away from giving them. She also said that if DCM is going to bring meds in his bag that I have to lock them up every day. That is not something I want to do, especially since I don't use them.

My question is...how do I get this through DCM's head not to bring them? She's an airhead and will put up an argument.

This is a loooooong thread...and I admit I did not read all the posts.....BUT I am afraid you are putting yourself at risk. He comes to you overmedicated and what if as a result "something" happens on your watch? Even if you do not allow any medication......you can't know for sure or control what has gone into his body before he arrived. Keep us informed! We all need to know of all sorts of red flags....and this is one for sure.

[Heidi]

Good luck tonight!

I think you do need to tell her in person, and I think you should have another adult as a witness. I don't suppose social services would send someone over? That would be ideal!

[littlemommy]

Good luck tonight!

I think you do need to tell her in person, and I think you should have another adult as a witness. I don't suppose social services would send someone over? That would be ideal!

She'll get here before my husband gets off of work and I'll have other kids still here. I'm scared she's going to flip if I do it in person...and then the thought of her driving away like a mad woman with that baby in her car scares me!

That's why I keep thinking it'd be better if she read the paper when she's at home..

[sharlan]

She'll get here before my husband gets off of work and I'll have other kids still here. I'm scared she's going to flip if I do it in person...and then the thought of her driving away like a mad woman with that baby in her car scares me!

That's why I keep thinking it'd be better if she read the paper when she's at home..

I think that is a bad idea, really bad. IMHO, you need to do this upfront and personal. Do you have a neighbor or friend who could come over for a few mins if you have safety concerns?

[kendallina]

I think that is a bad idea, really bad. IMHO, you need to do this upfront and personal. Do you have a neighbor or friend who could come over for a few mins if you have safety concerns?

I agree with this. If you don't have anyone and you are truly concerned that she might do something I would inform the police and they could have a patrolman there when she picks up. This situation is sooo sad...

[Blackcat31]

She'll get here before my husband gets off of work and I'll have other kids still here. I'm scared she's going to flip if I do it in person...and then the thought of her driving away like a mad woman with that baby in her car scares me!

That's why I keep thinking it'd be better if she read the paper when she's at home..

Do you have a neighbor who can be present or a family friend that can swing over when this mom is due to pick up?

I don't know what your community is like, but I once had to term a mentally ill mom who had some very violent outbursts so I knew when I termed her it was going to be bad so I called the police department and told them of my fears and they sent a community service officer to my child care to be present when I handed mom the term papers and told her verbally that I was terming effective immediately and I also told her I had reported her to cps and she should expect a visit. I requested the officer be present so everything was documented and witnessed by someone of authority and to sort of send mom a message that she better not try to retaliate in any way since the police were fully aware of what was going on.

If you call the police, you could let them know of your concerns of her flipping out and that you have children on site and are concerned for everyone's welfare.

I would also seriously consider letting her know you did report her and that it is documented that you are concerned about retaliation so she hopefully she wouldn't be dumb enough to try anything.

I fully understand your concerns about wanting to help/save this child but trust me, the best help you can give him is to report his mother, document the situation and be open and upfront with her about EXACTLY why you are terming and why you reported her. By taking action in that manner you are helping save her child. You are helping save him from what his mother is doing to him.

If having a backbone is tough...just keep telling yourself you are doing it for him. Because you are.

[Kaddidle Care]

Maybe text her tonight to let her know there is something for her in the bag to make sure she reads it as it sounds like she doesn't check the bag very often. She probably has duplicate bottles of meds at home.

This is very scary - some people think "Oh it's just Tylenol". But EVERYTHING affects your liver and I shudder to think of the future this child has with a mother that drugs him for just being him.

Get someone over there to be with you if you decide to tell her in person. A neighbor, a relative - someone. Even if it's just someone to keep an eye on the other children when you have this conversation.

[littlemommy]

I just went through his bag and wrote down everything that was in there. There were 2 prescriptions that she never mentioned, tylenol, dimetap, antihistamine tablets, hylands teething tablets, and orajel.

Orajel and teething tablets have been recalled.

Orajel, the antihistamine tablets, and the dimetap are not for infants. Orajel says not recommended under age 2, Dimetap says no use under age 6, and the tablets say not for under age 4.

[SilverSabre25]

I just went through his bag and wrote down everything that was in there. There were 2 prescriptions that she never mentioned, tylenol, dimetap, antihistamine tablets, hylands teething tablets, and orajel.

Orajel and teething tablets have been recalled.

Orajel, the antihistamine tablets, and the dimetap are not for infants. Orajel says not recommended under age 2, Dimetap says no use under age 6, and the tablets say not for under age 4.

wrong, actually, on the teething tablets. They were recalled a year ago, but have been put back out in a new formulation. There's a good chance that those are the new, safer kind. NOT that the old ones were unsafe, per se...a child would have had to consume like, ten or twenty bottles at one time to suffer even mild effects. At any rate, don't worry about the teething tablets. The other stuff? Yeah...not so much...

[littlemommy]

wrong, actually, on the teething tablets. They were recalled a year ago, but have been put back out in a new formulation. There's a good chance that those are the new, safer kind. NOT that the old ones were unsafe, per se...a child would have had to consume like, ten or twenty bottles at one time to suffer even mild effects. At any rate, don't worry about the teething tablets. The other stuff? Yeah...not so much...

Thanks. I just remembered hearing someone talk about it a while back.

[nannyde]

I just went through his bag and wrote down everything that was in there. There were 2 prescriptions that she never mentioned, tylenol, dimetap, antihistamine tablets, hylands teething tablets, and orajel.

Orajel and teething tablets have been recalled.

Orajel, the antihistamine tablets, and the dimetap are not for infants. Orajel says not recommended under age 2, Dimetap says no use under age 6, and the tablets say not for under age 4.

Photograph... video tape... EVERY SINGLE THING in the diaper bag including clear shots of the labels.