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  • wahmof3
    Daycare.com Member
    • Oct 2011
    • 806

    How to Respond

    I have a new dkg starting in the next few weeks. I have been in contact with the mom more as the start date approaches. She informed me that she is moving 1 1/2 hours away (one way) due to various issues but she is still planning on working close to me and would still like to have me as her provider. Which is fine, but my 1st thought was how long is driving 3 hours everyday, filling up her gas tank with the crazy gas prices, & paying for childcare going to last? By the time she is done with all of that she won't have much income left. But anyways I told her I hoped everything was ok for them to be moving that far away. She said that her only concern was winter driving and if there happens to be a school delay (she teaches) and she is already on the road, if it would be ok just to stay at my house for the 2hr delays. I'm not sure how to respond to that. She is paying for the space so bringing her child here is not a problem. I think it would be really akward to have her here too. I really don't want her to stay, mainly because I am trying to get my kids ready and I'm trying to get everything ready for my day to begin and I would feel as if I need to entertain her. Yet at the same time I understand her situation. What would you do?
  • Cat Herder
    Advanced Daycare.com Member
    • Dec 2010
    • 13744

    #2
    For me it would be a non-issue since it only happens here about once a year..

    If I lived in a colder climate I would have a different opinion.

    "I can't let them make their life choices my responsibility."

    I think it fits most situations.
    - Unless otherwise stated, all my posts are personal opinion and worth what you paid for them.

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    • daycare
      Advanced Daycare.com *********
      • Feb 2011
      • 16259

      #3
      wow now that is an unsual request, so I seem to think.

      I think that I would talk to her in further detail about it. Maybe ask her directly that when the DCK would need to stay at your house due to dealys from weather if she plans to stay with the child. If she says yes, then i would go on to tell her that it's not allowed per licensing. At least here in my state it would be an issue.

      I hope that some others chime in on this for you, I really don't have too much advice on this.

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      • laundrymom
        Advanced Daycare.com Member
        • Nov 2010
        • 4177

        #4
        I'd just tell her that you aren't set up for that type of arrangment. That the children do not settle when there are visitors, and you respect everyones privacy by limiting contact the parents and children have with one another. Also,... If she was going to be here, she would be considered an assistant and need tb, drug screen, fingerprints, trainings. I'm unwilling to do that. I would suggest her calling a friend in town or taking that time to sit at a coffee shop, relax and catch up on reading

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        • wdmmom
          Advanced Daycare.com
          • Mar 2011
          • 2713

          #5
          I would tell her regardless of delays, she is welcome to bring DCG in at any time but because of the disruption it causes, she will need to either go into work early or occupy her own time.

          There is no way I would have a daycare parents hanging out at my house for 2 hours EVER!!!

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          • morgan24
            Daycare.com Member
            • Feb 2011
            • 694

            #6
            If she is already on her way, why can't she drop off dck and go to work early? I have had teachers do that on fog delay, they would drop off early and go in to get extra work done.

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            • wahmof3
              Daycare.com Member
              • Oct 2011
              • 806

              #7
              Originally posted by morgan24
              If she is already on her way, why can't she drop off dck and go to work early? I have had teachers do that on fog delay, they would drop off early and go in to get extra work done.
              Thats what I was wondering. She says she isn't sure if she can get into the building early. Hard telling with all of the cost-saving cut backs in our school system, she might not be able to. Hopefully she can!!!!!!!

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              • cheerfuldom
                Advanced Daycare.com Member
                • Dec 2010
                • 7413

                #8
                I have a bad feeling about this situation....i would not allow any exceptions to the rules because of her move. Treat her like any other daycare parent and if she can't follow the rules, find a new family. I really don't think that whole scenario is going to work long term. Sounds sort of fishy to me.....

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                • mac60
                  Advanced Daycare.com Member
                  • May 2008
                  • 1610

                  #9
                  Nope, no reason she can't go into work early.....guaranteed the maintenance guys are there clearing off the sidewalks all doing other things.

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                  • wahmof3
                    Daycare.com Member
                    • Oct 2011
                    • 806

                    #10
                    Originally posted by cheerfuldom
                    I have a bad feeling about this situation....i would not allow any exceptions to the rules because of her move. Treat her like any other daycare parent and if she can't follow the rules, find a new family. I really don't think that whole scenario is going to work long term. Sounds sort of fishy to me.....
                    My guard is up on this family. I don't think bad intentions are there, I just can't justify the sudden move, long drive, etc. I personally think the dcf will only last until she finds a job closer to where she is moving too. My gut is telling me its fishy too. In this industry, I have always been told to go with your gut

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                    • wahmof3
                      Daycare.com Member
                      • Oct 2011
                      • 806

                      #11
                      Originally posted by mac60
                      Nope, no reason she can't go into work early.....guaranteed the maintenance guys are there clearing off the sidewalks all doing other things.

                      very good point!

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                      • Country Kids
                        Nature Lover
                        • Mar 2011
                        • 5051

                        #12
                        Originally posted by mac60
                        Nope, no reason she can't go into work early.....guaranteed the maintenance guys are there clearing off the sidewalks all doing other things.
                        Where we are all teachers are not allowed at the school till right before the kids get there during a bad weather day.
                        Each day is a fresh start
                        Never look back on regrets
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                        • wahmof3
                          Daycare.com Member
                          • Oct 2011
                          • 806

                          #13
                          Update

                          So I emailed dcm back & told her I wasn't set up to have her stay here for a 2 hour delay.
                          She responded with a new issue. Please help me word a response to her

                          She had asked if I would keep dkg on Monday from 9:30a-2:30p. I said yes, but it would be at my drop in rate of $35 for the day. So she responds ok I will be there at 9a now & try to pick her up as close to 2:30 as possible but I have to wait on the gas company to shut off and it could be as late as 4p.

                          My thought- what the heck???

                          Then she proceeds to say that she will have afternoon meetings. (She is a spec ed teacher & I am sure these meetings will be part of her norm, why didnt she tell me when we met??) The 1st week I have dcg she has 2 nights where she will be a 1/2 to an hour late picking her up.

                          My thoughts- why didn't you discuss this with me when we 1st met 3 months ago.

                          How would you handle this?? I have another child that comes in at 2:30 when new dcg is supposed to leave. Per my contract I would like to respond that we contracted until 2:30p and anything past that I will charge a fee????

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                          • familyschoolcare
                            Advanced Daycare.com Member
                            • Jun 2011
                            • 1284

                            #14
                            Originally posted by wahmof3
                            So I emailed dcm back & told her I wasn't set up to have her stay here for a 2 hour delay.
                            She responded with a new issue. Please help me word a response to her

                            She had asked if I would keep dkg on Monday from 9:30a-2:30p. I said yes, but it would be at my drop in rate of $35 for the day. So she responds ok I will be there at 9a now & try to pick her up as close to 2:30 as possible but I have to wait on the gas company to shut off and it could be as late as 4p.

                            My thought- what the heck???

                            Then she proceeds to say that she will have afternoon meetings. (She is a spec ed teacher & I am sure these meetings will be part of her norm, why didnt she tell me when we met??) The 1st week I have dcg she has 2 nights where she will be a 1/2 to an hour late picking her up.

                            My thoughts- why didn't you discuss this with me when we 1st met 3 months ago.

                            How would you handle this?? I have another child that comes in at 2:30 when new dcg is supposed to leave. Per my contract I would like to respond that we contracted until 2:30p and anything past that I will charge a fee????
                            Mom did not discuss this with you when you first meet B/C she does not want to pay for the extra time.

                            Stick to what you contract says. Quote your contract in your response and then say so that means that if you need care until *** it will be an extra ** if I have room.

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                            • daycare
                              Advanced Daycare.com *********
                              • Feb 2011
                              • 16259

                              #15
                              Originally posted by wahmof3
                              So I emailed dcm back & told her I wasn't set up to have her stay here for a 2 hour delay.
                              She responded with a new issue. Please help me word a response to her

                              She had asked if I would keep dkg on Monday from 9:30a-2:30p. I said yes, but it would be at my drop in rate of $35 for the day. So she responds ok I will be there at 9a now & try to pick her up as close to 2:30 as possible but I have to wait on the gas company to shut off and it could be as late as 4p.

                              My thought- what the heck???

                              Then she proceeds to say that she will have afternoon meetings. (She is a spec ed teacher & I am sure these meetings will be part of her norm, why didnt she tell me when we met??) The 1st week I have dcg she has 2 nights where she will be a 1/2 to an hour late picking her up.

                              My thoughts- why didn't you discuss this with me when we 1st met 3 months ago.

                              How would you handle this?? I have another child that comes in at 2:30 when new dcg is supposed to leave. Per my contract I would like to respond that we contracted until 2:30p and anything past that I will charge a fee????
                              how many hours are included with your price?

                              example i allow 9.5 hours at $50.00 per day anything after that is billed at $7.00 an hour

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