Have You Ever Been Accused Of Not Feeding A Child Enough?!

[Unregistered]

I have a similar problem

I took on a little 2 months ago that had just turned 18 months. He wasn't talking at all, frequent fits and not eating much for mom or last provider. The mom seems more than a little overwhelmed with the little fellow. At his last dr appointment the dr blamed his daycare for him not talking and chastised her for his weight. At a recent clinic appointment I guess his wieght has dropped further. They are calling his normal dr for her to see again. He eats so much here. 2nds and 3rds even of what the food program suggests. He eats at 8, 10 (am snack) 12, and 3 (pm snack). I would say out of my daycare kids he is the biggest eater. He also gets milk with each meal and snack. He has started talking and when mom isn't here he has lots less fits. I just don't want the dr and her turning this around and making it a daycare problem and suggesting to the state I am not following guidelines. If you were in my shoes would you be concerned and if so how would you cover your butt?

[Unregistered]

Did you hear the doctor say this, or see it in writing? For one, a qualified doctor would not blame the daycare when clearly that rests with the parents. I suspect she gave you a story, and either way I would probably drop her because of the liability for one, and obviously something else is going on. Either she is not feeding the child enough, or something medical.

[grandmom]

I don't apologize to parents or children if they are hungry. I tell them my job is to send them home hungry so they will eat dinner with their parents.

There are no seconds on snacks either. Even if they didn't eat lunch because they didn't like it.

[Unregistered]

There's a 74 percent difference between his height and weight percentiles. That's clinically VERY significant.

He should be a couple of INCHES taller to accomodate that weight and he's just a new one year old.

We HAVE to start addressing obesity in infants.

Really address overwieght babies? They are just BABIES my middle child was 30 pounds at 1 years old he was huge he is now a 60 pound healthy 8 year old just because a baby is big as an infant does not mean they will be obese as they get older.

[nannyde]

Really address overwieght babies? They are just BABIES my middle child was 30 pounds at 1 years old he was huge he is now a 60 pound healthy 8 year old just because a baby is big as an infant does not mean they will be obese as they get older.

Yes

Do some research on the current research of obesity in children.

[Country Kids]

I took on a little 2 months ago that had just turned 18 months. He wasn't talking at all, frequent fits and not eating much for mom or last provider. The mom seems more than a little overwhelmed with the little fellow. At his last dr appointment the dr blamed his daycare for him not talking and chastised her for his weight. At a recent clinic appointment I guess his wieght has dropped further. They are calling his normal dr for her to see again. He eats so much here. 2nds and 3rds even of what the food program suggests. He eats at 8, 10 (am snack) 12, and 3 (pm snack). I would say out of my daycare kids he is the biggest eater. He also gets milk with each meal and snack. He has started talking and when mom isn't here he has lots less fits. I just don't want the dr and her turning this around and making it a daycare problem and suggesting to the state I am not following guidelines. If you were in my shoes would you be concerned and if so how would you cover your butt?

I think there would be something medical going on if he is still losing weight. You say he eats 2nd and 3rds sometimes 4 times a day? There is no way that child should still be losing weight!

[Country Kids]

Yes

Do some research on the current research of obesity in children.

Yes, there are some heavy babies that will be obese when they grow up. There will also be some skinny, small babies that will do the same. No one can look into the future and no for certain what will happen to anyone.

One of my babies was so fat and till this day everyone still talks about it. I'm talking rolls everywhere! A rolly, polly bug! 95-100% at doctors appointments. Well once she go about three or four, all the weight came off and her growing really slowed down. She actually got down to the 5-10% and has stayed there for a long time. 13 years old and 65 lbs. Not very tall either. Doctors aren't worried because she is just going to be petite, like several members of the family.

I really don't worry about a child till they are 4-5. That is when that baby fat should be coming off and if not time for diet change and more healthy outdooor play!

Has ayone ever looked at old pictures-1800's? Not very many people were thin even then. You know the funny thing-they all ate off the land,grew all their own vegies, and had fresh milk, eggs, worked from sun up to sun down, but alot of them were stilll heavy!

Reading meal posts here, alot of us serve pretty healthy meals. How many of us are our ideal weight and in super shape? I know I could stand to lose a few pounds and am going to start walking a little bit each night if I have to give up cleaning my house to do it-::

[SilverSabre25]

I took on a little 2 months ago that had just turned 18 months. He wasn't talking at all, frequent fits and not eating much for mom or last provider. The mom seems more than a little overwhelmed with the little fellow. At his last dr appointment the dr blamed his daycare for him not talking and chastised her for his weight. At a recent clinic appointment I guess his wieght has dropped further. They are calling his normal dr for her to see again. He eats so much here. 2nds and 3rds even of what the food program suggests. He eats at 8, 10 (am snack) 12, and 3 (pm snack). I would say out of my daycare kids he is the biggest eater. He also gets milk with each meal and snack. He has started talking and when mom isn't here he has lots less fits. I just don't want the dr and her turning this around and making it a daycare problem and suggesting to the state I am not following guidelines. If you were in my shoes would you be concerned and if so how would you cover your butt?

I would suggest to dcm to look into food allergies--ESPECIALLY CELIAC DISEASE. If her current ped brushes her off about it, she needs to find one who won't brush her off. Full allergy testing as well. Celiac is NOT an allergy though and requires special testing. Another possiblity for eating a lot and losing weight would be a parasite, like a tapeworm. Gross, I know, but entirely possible.

[cheerfuldom]

I would think the only people that could afford to have photographs done in the 1800s were usually the wealthiest people and yes, their kids were probably big because of an abundance of food (and nannies carrying them around 24/7). just a thought

back to topic....I have the opposite problem. mostly complaints about kids not eating enough or "why can't you get him to finish his bottle?" I cannot and will not force feed kids. If a baby is repeatedly pushing a bottle away or a toddler refusing food, what else is it that parents expect us to do?