Venting Thread

[NightOwl]

Or perhaps share a different perspective.

Different perspectives are always welcome in my book. Pouncing, however, is just uncalled for.

[Play Care]

I TOTALLY understand your hesitation to vent MrsLisa, even in a vent thread! I'm kind of intimidated by it myself. A vent should be treated as just that, a vent. A release. An unburdening. Vent means allowing one to spew their frustrations without judgement. But sometimes, others take the opportunity to pounce.

Or perhaps share a different perspective.

[Michelle]

I TOTALLY understand your hesitation to vent MrsLisa, even in a vent thread! I'm kind of intimidated by it myself. A vent should be treated as just that, a vent. A release. An unburdening. Vent means allowing one to spew their frustrations without judgement. But sometimes, others take the opportunity to pounce.

[NightOwl]

I get this phone call at least once a month- it still drives me nuts.

Me: Hello
Prospective Parent: Hi. Is this the home daycare?
Me: This is me.
PP: I want to talk to the person who takes care of kids.
Me: Yeah- that's me.
PP: UH.... OK. CLICK!!!!

Today added a new wrinkle--"Ok, so you run the business. Who do they let around the kids?"
Me: I do- it's a home daycare and I am the care provider.
Now disgusted PP: Oh that's just f#$%'d up. CLICK!!!

I HATE MONDAYS

Oh I hate to hear that.... I'm gonna start a new thread on this.

[craftymissbeth]

Didn't step on mine! There ARE providers who could care less about kids and ONLY do this for the money. THOSE should not be in this business. Of course we all do it for the money, but we have a love of children that compels us to chose this profession in particular as a way of making that money. I totally get where you're coming from.

I completely agree. I DO do this for the money because, truthfully, if I didn't need money I wouldn't work, kwim? Of all of the minimum wage options out there, this is what interests me the most. I absolutely love, love, love my dck's and I care for them like they're my little family (that thankfully gets to leave at the end of the day hehe). But at the end of the day it IS about the money...

[NightOwl]

Didn't step on mine! There ARE providers who could care less about kids and ONLY do this for the money. THOSE should not be in this business. Of course we all do it for the money, but we have a love of children that compels us to chose this profession in particular as a way of making that money. I totally get where you're coming from.

[Rockgirl]

And I totally agree with this!
I would be a liar if I said the money wasn't really nice. I enjoyed Fridays when I was hands that cash so I can spend it how I see fit. It was nice not to burden my husband with my own spending needs. But what woke me up ungodly early every day wasn't that. It was hearing a little voice say Ms Lisa, making juice together, learning his life , and giving him experiences his everyday life lacked. And I miss it terribly. It's why I am so anxious to get going again and get so frustrated seeing others take it for granted. Kwim?

I really don't mean to step on anyone's toes.

Makes total sense. I miss feeling that excitement right now, to be honest. I've had a challenging group the last couple of years, but I'm about to make some changes. I'm getting excited again, thinking about the upcoming school year. I hope you fill your spots soon--it sounds like you have a love for kids....sounds like they'd be lucky to be in your daycare.

[MsLisa]

And to be clear, I'm in it for the money. Lol. Being in love with children is the bonus for me.

And I totally agree with this!
I would be a liar if I said the money wasn't really nice. I enjoyed Fridays when I was hands that cash so I can spend it how I see fit. It was nice not to burden my husband with my own spending needs. But what woke me up ungodly early every day wasn't that. It was hearing a little voice say Ms Lisa, making juice together, learning his life , and giving him experiences his everyday life lacked. And I miss it terribly. It's why I am so anxious to get going again and get so frustrated seeing others take it for granted. Kwim?

I really don't mean to step on anyone's toes.

[Rockgirl]

And to be clear, I'm in it for the money. Lol. Being in love with children is the bonus for me.

Ditto that!

[NightOwl]

And to be clear, I'm in it for the money. Lol. Being in love with children is the bonus for me.

[NightOwl]

I TOTALLY understand your hesitation to vent MrsLisa, even in a vent thread! I'm kind of intimidated by it myself. A vent should be treated as just that, a vent. A release. An unburdening. Vent means allowing one to spew their frustrations without judgement. But sometimes, others take the opportunity to pounce.

[Rockgirl]

Ugh! I don't think I'm being understood here. This isn't directed to anyone on here!! I'm talking about overall, the things I've collectively read, and over all general vent. Do it for money, do it for love of kids but dont take it for granted. That's all. Ugh! Note to self, forget venting here.

I re-read the posts....I don't see where anyone said anything rude or hateful. It was pointed out that money is the reason for working in any job, including daycare providers. I definitely wouldn't make that a reason to not feel comfortable venting here. It's the venting thread, after all! I also don't care for over the top negativity....many times it's easy to tell from the title what the tone of the post will be--I just don't open them.

[Blackcat31]

Ugh! I don't think I'm being understood here. This isn't directed to anyone on here!! I'm talking about overall, the things I've collectively read, and over all general vent. Do it for money, do it for love of kids but dont take it for granted. That's all. Ugh! Note to self, forget venting here.

I know you meant it towards other places... I said that in my post above.

I think posters replied to you because of the statements you made and they were simply wanting to share a differing perspective.

Just because others share a differing viewpoint, doesn't mean you should refrain from venting. I don't think anyone meant any harm.

It's all good.

[MsLisa]

But that's the thing...there really is nothing wrong with doing this job FOR the money. The kids are still treated well, given the tools they need to learn and grow.

They aren't neglected simply because a provider is doing this for the money.

I think it's sad that love of children is a pre-requisite for being in this profession.

I doubt many sewer or sanitation workers are employed in that department because of their love of waste management...kwim?
Most of them are employed with the city because the money and the benefits make it worth while. Why should daycare be any different?

I AM in this for the money. I started out going to college for a degree in law. But I had a child of my own that is just like all the kids most providers vent about and no one wanted to take care of him so I had to do it and opening a child care to make money while I cared for my own child was the route I went.

I grew up with my own parents taking in foster kids. I have 5 younger siblings so caring for children has been second nature to me since I was 8 years old. I am good at it but loving other peoples kids or feeling all sunshine and rainbows when it comes to early childhood stuff isn't necessary to do this job and do it well.

I am the first to say that I do this FOR the money because I do. I make really good money being a child care provider.

It doesn't make me a bad provider.

As a matter of fact, I feel as though it makes me a good provider because I don't get lost or mixed up in the emotional part of it.


fwiw~ I did read in your post that it wasn't this board you were referring to but I did want to share another perspective with you..,,,there ARE tons of people in this field simply because they love kids and everything kind related. But there ARE lots of providers doing it simply for the money.

Like anything in life, we all have our own motivators as to why we are here.

Ugh! I don't think I'm being understood here. This isn't directed to anyone on here!! I'm talking about overall, the things I've collectively read, and over all general vent. Do it for money, do it for love of kids but dont take it for granted. That's all. Ugh! Note to self, forget venting here.

[Rockgirl]

Yes, I've seen excessive complaining from time to time (mostly on other forums). It is nice to have a venting thread here, though. Sometimes you just need to get it out, and it's great that we can all relate. It doesn't necessarily mean we're unhappy with daycare in general--maybe just going through a rough patch. The positive thread is great, too.