Venting Thread

[Onawhim]

Why do I have to be the mean one all the time. Dcg2 walks in this morning with a handful of worms and a bag full of candy. Mom says I told her she shouldn't take them. Okay... Why didn't you inforce. Started off my morning with 3 other families being dropped off at the same time tell dcg she couldn't come in until she put the worms out and handed over the candy.

[AmyLeigh]

DCM was complaining that her week of 4-10 hour days this week have been just sooo exhausting.

I held back telling her that her 10 hours days translated to me having 11 1/2 hour days.

[jgcp]

Got a phone call this morning from one dcm ( ive known her since we were 11 yrs old and were once really good friends but have way diff lifestyles so more just we used to hang out but i know everything about you friends now haha) Anyway she says she is running late and asks if i can meet her at her job to pick up 8 yr old dcg. Really? I say sorry everyone is eating breakfast... she tells me dcg will just stay with her at work. Then about an hour and a half later her grandma drops her off?? Nothing from her mom saying she was going to come. Then gma says OH dcm only works till about 1 today so it should be a short day..... SWEET... well its 330 now and no mom. Even dcg noticed? She really is the most irrisponsable person and thinks im here to just cater to her every time she cant get her sh** together. last week she wanted me to keep dcg till my 8pm softball game and take her with me so she could just get her from there( she lives a little out of town but makes that my problem)??? Nope closing is 530. Im just happy its a summer thing and probably just June.

[BumbleBee]

8 days into summer care and 11 yo dcg had THREE crying meltdowns today over ridiculous sh*t.

Crying meltdown today was over Cheerios. Yes, Cheerios. I didn't have any left and she was crying because she 'had to starve' until lunch. :confused:

Right, because there aren't FIVE other boxes of cereal in front of you (no plain Cheerios though). Sorry if Multi Grain Cheerios, Rice Chex, Corn Chex, Kix, Cinnamon Life cereal aren't acceptable, but I'm not making a special trip to a store 20 minutes away just so you can have your precious Cheerios.

[Thriftylady]

okay so I'm new here and possibly looking into register with you guys. anyways I have been running my day in hIome day care center for about a year now. I started out with my son who is two and then two brothers full time. in April I picked up a two year old. the first 3 or 4 weeks were awesome you know no problems at drop off no problems during the day everything was great. then his father who is a firefighter started 24 hour shift. and problems hit the roof. drop off in the morning became a hour affair of screaming and crying and being extremely upset. which then went to about 10 minutes of being fine and another outburst period which continues throughout the whole entire day. he's not eating well maybe three bites of anything I offer him. and nap time no longer exist with this child. While i still hsve 3 other children in tge home. This has gone in from may untill now. I'm at my wits end and just don't know what to do.

First thing you need is a conference with the parents. Are they having issues at home? How are they dealing with it? Will they help you with a plan for action? Will they stick with it and back you up? Does he have a crying place where he can go by himself and cry until he is ready to join the group? Sometimes it gets to where you may have to term the child, but asking yourself those questions and working from there may help.

trouble in paradise

okay so I'm new here and possibly looking into register with you guys. anyways I have been running my day in hIome day care center for about a year now. I started out with my son who is two and then two brothers full time. in April I picked up a two year old. the first 3 or 4 weeks were awesome you know no problems at drop off no problems during the day everything was great. then his father who is a firefighter started 24 hour shift. and problems hit the roof. drop off in the morning became a hour affair of screaming and crying and being extremely upset. which then went to about 10 minutes of being fine and another outburst period which continues throughout the whole entire day. he's not eating well maybe three bites of anything I offer him. and nap time no longer exist with this child. While i still hsve 3 other children in tge home. This has gone in from may untill now. I'm at my wits end and just don't know what to do.

[Onawhim]

Is it Friday yet? Oh my these kids are fighting NON stop!!!

[Play Care]

And on a personal note - my assistant has been out all week due to illness and I had to cancel appointments and put off some of our Fathers Day projects because of it. On top of that I've been eating junk and not working out.

Blah!!

[Play Care]

Stop asking me if you can do x,y, or z after I've just assigned A, B, and C. You have HOURS in which to chose your activities - and you frequently make poor choices which lead to me making them for you. So NO, if I have to step in and constantly direct then you're not going to get what you're asking for. That train has left!

[Play Care]

I replied in bold above as to what the consequences would be here for a 6 yr old tattler.

Here the person who does the tattling gets the time out or removal from the activity. Youd be surprised at how fast they figure out how to stop tattling.

Oh and give NO warnings....just swift immediate action and I guarantee you that he will not tattle after a week of consequences...

[Blackcat31]

Okay, so summer is here, should be happy to have everyone in one place right? Well I have an only child that I have had for 4 years and he is 6 now and the sense of entitlement is driving me crazy!
Tattles because she has 3 trains and he has 2 (He would be done playing trains. Now he has none.)
Tattles because he wanted it first and he got it (He would lose whatever it is he wanted first and would have to go last)Tattles because she touched my block
Tattles because he is sitting by me (He would have to give her his blocks ad be done playing blocks)
Tattles because another child wants to play with one of the two puzzles I have yet he can only work one at a time! (He would be done playing puzzles and the other child would get free reign with both)
I could go on and on and right now as much as I have spoken to the parents, they understand, but it continues and continues and continues!

Any advice how to get it to stop permanently, because, I am exhausted with this non-stop, literally non-stop!
HELP :confused:

I replied in bold above as to what the consequences would be here for a 6 yr old tattler.

Here the person who does the tattling gets the time out or removal from the activity. Youd be surprised at how fast they figure out how to stop tattling.

Oh and give NO warnings....just swift immediate action and I guarantee you that he will not tattle after a week of consequences...

[Annalee]

Okay, so summer is here, should be happy to have everyone in one place right? Well I have an only child that I have had for 4 years and he is 6 now and the sense of entitlement is driving me crazy!
Tattles because she has 3 trains and he has 2
Tattles because he wanted it first and he got it
Tattles because she touched my block
Tattles because he is sitting by me
Tattles because another child wants to play with one of the two puzzles I have yet he can only work one at a time!

I could go on and on and right now as much as I have spoken to the parents, they understand, but it continues and continues and continues!

Any advice how to get it to stop permanently, because, I am exhausted with this non-stop, literally non-stop!
HELP :confused:

I have a dcg5 whom I have had since she was 11 months old. She is similar to the child you are talking about....she is controlling and exhausts me as well many days...some days are better than others....I am constantly saying things like "xxx is talking, we do not interrupt" or "xxx and xxxx are playing, allow them their space" or "STOP TALKING..::".... I have expressed to her parents that when she enters Kindy next year, how she does will depend on how the teacher feels about her personality..the teacher may love her over-helpful ways or the teacher could find her annoying...I am honest with my parents and they must have told the child to quieten down because the dcg5 now asks me "if she has been quiet today::"

[tntsmom]

Tattling!

Okay, so summer is here, should be happy to have everyone in one place right? Well I have an only child that I have had for 4 years and he is 6 now and the sense of entitlement is driving me crazy!
Tattles because she has 3 trains and he has 2
Tattles because he wanted it first and he got it
Tattles because she touched my block
Tattles because he is sitting by me
Tattles because another child wants to play with one of the two puzzles I have yet he can only work one at a time!

I could go on and on and right now as much as I have spoken to the parents, they understand, but it continues and continues and continues!

Any advice how to get it to stop permanently, because, I am exhausted with this non-stop, literally non-stop!
HELP :confused:

[BumbleBee]

8 days into summer care and 11 yo dcg had THREE crying meltdowns today over ridiculous sh*t.

Add in the crying meltdown she had last week AND the fact that she both lied to me by omission as well as lied to me outright and I am about ready to throw the towel in.

Then, just to make life even more *fun* 9 yo dcg is being a bully to 7 yo dcg.

11 more weeks, 11 more weeks, 11 more weeks, 11 more weeks

[Blackcat31]

I advertised openings and all i got were two more SA kids! I took it knowing if i didnt i would lose out. I now have a 6,7,8, and 9 yr old plus the 3 yr old ive had for 2 yrs and my 2yr old. 7&9 yr old ive had for a almost a year and are bro and sis and the most entitled bratiest kids EVER! 8 yr old comes into the mix and her and 9 yr old dcg are instant buddies YAY for them blah for the other kids because they became instant mean girls!!! and wont play with 7 yr old dcb. 6 yr old freaking talks like a 2 yr old and LOUD and ive never seen a child that age cry so damn much over the STUPIDEST things ( yes parents are aware and have tried to put a stop to it)!! Im having a hard time with that and hoping she is here less in july. The only upside to older kids is its easier to go to the park and places with them but GOOD LORD they dont listen! I hate the attitude i get from all of them and the back talk is out of control ( oh i get on them about it) and the listening is even worse!! Only two months, only two months.....

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