Venting Thread

[Play Care]

Day care boy got into mom's mascara. He looks like Alice Cooper. He's previously gotten into her nail polish.
At some point she needs to learn to lock her crap up/put it out of reach.
This is the same mom who tried to stay for 40+ minutes because dcboy wouldn't "let" her leave. The other day he didn't want to leave my house and I noticed she didn't seem to want to hang around then... Funny how that works.

[Mom2Two]

I was about to complain about the cold I've had for the past week...but then I read through the previous page of posts, and I realized that I don't really have much to complain about.

Hugs to everyone! :hug:

[Kimskiddos]

55 degrees yesterday... -1 (with windchill) today..

80 degrees day before yesterday, 30s yesterday, oh and wet and windy. These huge temp swings are wild!

[Blackcat31]

I talked with dcm yesterday and she said if he doesn't pay up by tomorrow, she will pay me and she'll have to take him back to court. He is now up to 398. He picks up today so we'll see how late he is
I trust that she will come through. I know everybody is probably thinking terminate but sometimes it isn't that easy. We're going to work this out to where she will pay and end up picking dcb up too.

I am definitely NOT thinking terminate but I am wondering why you aren't simply backing out of this all together and having a contract agreement with MOM ONLY and leaving DCD out of anything to do with you/payment etc?

You said something in a previous post about DCM and I immediately thought she (DCM) is enabling him completely and you are the one that suffers for that so I don't think DCM is as "nice" as you think she is... I mean, yes...she might be the sweetest kindest, nicest person on the planet but you are getting screwed over by HER ex and she knows it and yet doesn't really do anything other than apologize to you about it...(he gets the cake and eats it too and DCM is serving it!)

I would remove myself from the entire situation of payment. Have ONE contract and ONE payer (DCM). DCD can pick up, drop off etc as that is his right as a parent but any payment for services, late fees and fees for unpaid late fees fall on DCM. Then SHE can collect from DCD herself.

They need to learn to work together as they are going to co-parent far beyond using daycare services so figuring that out now would benefit them as well as THEIR child.

DCM is nice and apologetic and appeasing now because you are taking on HER issue. That's not really all that nice (of her) in my honest opinion. If I were her, Id be mortified and would have immediately offered to be the sole payer so that my provider didn't go without or have to stress about something that doesn't involve her.

:hug: I've said it before...you are one of the most caring and loving providers I've had the pleasure of knowing and while I admire that, it makes me feel bad sometimes because your kindness is often taken advantage and that's not fair or right. :hug:

[Josiegirl]

If it's frozen there is a good chance it was done because they had a legal issues; taxes/divorce or similar (I use to serve such paperwork to banks); you won't get the bank to cash the check & I would require cash only from now on

I talked with dcm yesterday and she said if he doesn't pay up by tomorrow, she will pay me and she'll have to take him back to court. He is now up to 398. He picks up today so we'll see how late he is
I trust that she will come through. I know everybody is probably thinking terminate but sometimes it isn't that easy. We're going to work this out to where she will pay and end up picking dcb up too.

[LysesKids]

This deadbeat dcd is going to be the death of me.
And I hate to let the little boy go because of him; the dcb is sweet and mostly a good kid. The dcm is so nice and does whatever she can to accommodate so she doesn't lose her ds's spot but this dcd is an a-hole. I got something in the mail from the bank which I'm not exactly sure that I understand so I need to go in this a.m. anyways to clarify. But he wrote a check on his and his ex's account and it came back, their account is frozen.
He is the most irresponsible adult male I have ever come in contact with.

If it's frozen there is a good chance it was done because they had a legal issues; taxes/divorce or similar (I use to serve such paperwork to banks); you won't get the bank to cash the check & I would require cash only from now on

[MelissaP]

You would think it is all saved somehow. At least you have in writing that you can use the cream now. I would write down every time I needed to apply it and verbally tell them as well and document the time and parent you told. This just seems so silly to me. What parent wants their child to be in pain when something can be done to speed up the healing process.

These parents are so wierd. I've never seen a child that had issues with cream and if there is an issue, you should probably figure out why. I guess it's the back and fourth that bothers me the most. Either let me use it or don't. I don't want to see your kid in pain but I also don't want to be pushed around when it comes to using it on her. It drives me insane.
There was another instance with these parents where the little girl was telling them that a specific child was hitting her. This kid never hit her. They believed her. Which is fine, whatever. I get it, but come on.. she's two. They also tried potty training her after she had used the toilet 2 times in one day. It was straight to potty training.. are you kidding me. Thankfully, they realized that she wasn't ready and backed off about 2 weeks later (and during the two weeks, she was in pull ups).
I'm in the process of trying to get my home licensed for in-home. There's honestly only one child that I will actually miss when I leave. His family is great and he is great. I wish I could take him with me when I leave my current job. Really, there's a few kids but there's this one kid that man, he's such a heart puller.

[storybookending]

They message through an app that we have at work on an iPad. So everything is documented. At least from what I can understand about the app.

You would think it is all saved somehow. At least you have in writing that you can use the cream now. I would write down every time I needed to apply it and verbally tell them as well and document the time and parent you told. This just seems so silly to me. What parent wants their child to be in pain when something can be done to speed up the healing process.

[MelissaP]

I would have turned them away at the door unless you don't specify payment was due @ drop-off... let's hope they all pay at pick up or I wouldn't be offering care tomorrow. I get paid in full on the first of the month for the entire MONTH

Do you ever have issues with parents paying a month ahead of time? How do you make that work?

[MelissaP]

So now you can use cream? How did they message you to tell you this? With problem families be sure to document anything and everything.

They message through an app that we have at work on an iPad. So everything is documented. At least from what I can understand about the app.

[MelissaP]

I would absolutely deny care if she has a rash.

If you can't treat it, then you still have to deal with the child's discomfort and that isn't fair at all.
I would not allow them to dictate HOW you tell them anything. If she has a rash she can stay home.

I swear parents like making this job more difficult than necessary.

Have the parents by any chance explained exactly why they don't want to have cream or a barrier used? Other than not getting it in her lady parts? I'd suggest they speak with the child's pediatrician so they understand that it IS okay for them to use cream or a barrier for her without fearing for her lady parts.

The parents have told me that it's because it irritates her (which I have never witnessed this) and that it's hard to get out of her lady parts (because the girl wont let them do it, they are forcing her to have it cleaned out). I have a feeling it's like when she needs her nose wiped, she screams and cries until you leave her be. She's 2 and talks perfect sentences so it's not like she doesn't understand what is going on.

[nanglgrl]

1/2 of my kids are cranky and tired. The other 1/2 are bright eyed and bushy tailed. We're stuck inside due to the crazy wind outside. Oh and our snowman ornaments didn't work out due to peeling paint. I took a risk and used what we had instead of driving 45 min and getting acrylic. Lesson learned!

Could you paint over it with modge podge to stop the peeling?
We started Christmas photos today. The children all dress as elves and we have a “Santa’s workshop” background. No one ever misses a day except of course today I have one gone. Now I have to leave all the props and lighting up and do the group photo another day.

[storybookending]

I’m hoping it gets colder still...
the big snowstorm managed to drop a slight white dusting but that’s it.

Sunshine and warm temps in Dec is like a birthday party without the cakes and presents. ::

Yesterday was nice but it had rained all morning so it was mud city, we did manage to get out between afternoon showers for a nice 45 minute walk. We had thunder and lightning last night! Got a slight dusting this morning. Now just very cold due to winds. I’m not sure what they are at but we had warnings for gusts 35-45 mph. The neighbors Christmas decorations are all knocked down from last night. It’s looking like we’re inside for the week.

[BumbleBee]

1/2 of my kids are cranky and tired. The other 1/2 are bright eyed and bushy tailed. We're stuck inside due to the crazy wind outside. Oh and our snowman ornaments didn't work out due to peeling paint. I took a risk and used what we had instead of driving 45 min and getting acrylic. Lesson learned!

[Blackcat31]

55 degrees yesterday... -1 (with windchill) today..

I’m hoping it gets colder still...
the big snowstorm managed to drop a slight white dusting but that’s it.

Sunshine and warm temps in Dec is like a birthday party without the cakes and presents. ::