Venting Thread

[Blackcat31]

Well, today I asked the families if they could start paying 50% of the daily rate on holidays so I could start receiving a little bit of holiday pay. I do not currently charge them for call offs and holidays. Its been 2 years and I felt it was time to implement some changes. Anyway, 2 of 3 families are completely fine with it and believe its more than fair. However, the Mom of the 3 year old and 4 month old I care for 5 days a week basically told me No. She said I sometimes seemed overwhelmed or tired at the end of the day. She said she doesnt feel that her children are getting the attention they would receive at a facility. First of all, I give them tons of individual attention. Second, she made me feel as if I'm begging for scraps. I need the income but, I truly believe she doesnt appreciate anything I do.

Let me guess....she also uses the most daycare hours/days than the other families?

I'd do Ac114 said and don't ask. Change your policy to state you charge on your off days and let the cards fall where they may. If DCM feels her kids would get better attention at a facility, let her go find out. You can replace her but you can not replace your mental and emotional well being.

The best way to survive this business is to ALWAYS do what YOU need to do in order to be happy. If you are not happy, it's a horrible job to have.

Take care of YOU first and foremost.

[Ac114]

Well, today I asked the families if they could start paying 50% of the daily rate on holidays so I could start receiving a little bit of holiday pay. I do not currently charge them for call offs and holidays. Its been 2 years and I felt it was time to implement some changes. Anyway, 2 of 3 families are completely fine with it and believe its more than fair. However, the Mom of the 3 year old and 4 month old I care for 5 days a week basically told me No. She said I sometimes seemed overwhelmed or tired at the end of the day. She said she doesnt feel that her children are getting the attention they would receive at a facility. First of all, I give them tons of individual attention. Second, she made me feel as if I'm begging for scraps. I need the income but, I truly believe she doesnt appreciate anything I do.

I would not “ask” for payment. You either pay me for my holidays or go somewhere else. You are the boss. You decide the rules. I would give her notice after that incident. And btw, she will have to pay for all closures at a facility and will receive way less than one on one attention at a facility.

Feeling unappreciated

Well, today I asked the families if they could start paying 50% of the daily rate on holidays so I could start receiving a little bit of holiday pay. I do not currently charge them for call offs and holidays. Its been 2 years and I felt it was time to implement some changes. Anyway, 2 of 3 families are completely fine with it and believe its more than fair. However, the Mom of the 3 year old and 4 month old I care for 5 days a week basically told me No. She said I sometimes seemed overwhelmed or tired at the end of the day. She said she doesnt feel that her children are getting the attention they would receive at a facility. First of all, I give them tons of individual attention. Second, she made me feel as if I'm begging for scraps. I need the income but, I truly believe she doesnt appreciate anything I do.

[Cat Herder]

I came here to see what I could do about the daycare behind me being so noisy. They just recently opened, so this noise is new to us as it has been quiet since we bought 4 years ago. After reading how you all have to deal with the parents and their lack of care about you and what you go through, I just want to cry. I really don't know how you people can torture yourselves like this. You have to really love children or be a bit crazy, maybe both.

I have decided I will find another way to deal with the 8 hours a day racket this place produces. You all have enough to deal with. Good Luck.
My ex and I ran a daycare out of our home many years ago and I think our biggest problem was getting parents to pick up the kids on time, even when we fined them extra.

Leyland Cyprus trees https://www.fast-growing-trees.com/p...leylandcypress and Privet bushes https://www.fast-growing-trees.com/products/privet offer a nice noise buffer. It also cuts the view down. I planted a thick hedge of them (from that particular supplier, was very happy with them ) for my neighbors when I opened. I work hard to keep the kid noise down. I also take them all fresh veggies from the garden and treats (I like to bake) regularly to keep the discussion open.

My least favorite neighbors still like to set trash fires right on the property line to force us back inside. They have pigs, barking dogs and roosters/chickens, but are offended by infants and toddlers laughter. In return, I host extrication class for the local fire department whenever I can, to return the favor.

The other neighbors find it hilarious. My other neighbor's antics are much more creative than mine since the difficult neighbors have picked a battle with each and every house on the cul-de-sac. Don't ask me why. I have not a clue. Most of us were here first.

My bet is your neighbors would be pretty open to any discussion that is sent in a friendly manner. They may not even realize how the sound carries, yet.

[Snowmom]

I came here to see what I could do about the daycare behind me being so noisy. They just recently opened, so this noise is new to us as it has been quiet since we bought 4 years ago. After reading how you all have to deal with the parents and their lack of care about you and what you go through, I just want to cry. I really don't know how you people can torture yourselves like this. You have to really love children or be a bit crazy, maybe both.

I have decided I will find another way to deal with the 8 hours a day racket this place produces. You all have enough to deal with. Good Luck.
My ex and I ran a daycare out of our home many years ago and I think our biggest problem was getting parents to pick up the kids on time, even when we fined them extra.

Both

I often wonder how my neighbors feel about the noise outside when the kids go out. They're an older couple who are home most of the day. I hope if they are bothered by it, they would mention it. I try to make sure they contain the noise too- respect is a daily lesson here.

I hope you stick around and chime in once and awhile!

[1madmouse]

new guy

I came here to see what I could do about the daycare behind me being so noisy. They just recently opened, so this noise is new to us as it has been quiet since we bought 4 years ago. After reading how you all have to deal with the parents and their lack of care about you and what you go through, I just want to cry. I really don't know how you people can torture yourselves like this. You have to really love children or be a bit crazy, maybe both.

I have decided I will find another way to deal with the 8 hours a day racket this place produces. You all have enough to deal with. Good Luck.
My ex and I ran a daycare out of our home many years ago and I think our biggest problem was getting parents to pick up the kids on time, even when we fined them extra.

[CountryRoads]

Not about daycare, but need to get it out there!

Student in ds class is in the hospital. Small town, so someone texts me and says "oh, this person told this person and so and so told me that the child is in the hospital because..."

My only response was "geez, so much for privacy."

Her response? "well, I think the school should of let the students know what was going on since it's their classmate."

I didn't even respond. I totally disagree. Since when is it anybodys business what is going on in someone else's life? It's been bugging me ever since.

[Snowmom]

I'd like to know how you find out who is on the grant committee? I keep getting grants (stuff, not cash or reimbursement) I never applied for. I know, first world problem to have, but I am running out of floor space.

I get those too.
If you've ever applied for a grant, they put your name on a list of potential awards. They NEVER update the list though. I've had multiple things delivered to an old address.

[Cat Herder]

I'd like to know how you find out who is on the grant committee? I keep getting grants (stuff, not cash or reimbursement) I never applied for. I know, first world problem to have, but I am running out of floor space.

[Snowmom]

I feel ya.... I've been on the grant review committee and most in my area knew this. The minute the app is available for download I was bombarded with requests to help or aide in some way....

Then when it came time to review the packets and score them as to whether or not they'll be receiving a grant. I can see why so many need help. I shake my head and wonder how some of these gals managed to care for other people's children and not lose them every day.

This is the first year I haven't been on the grant committee in about 5/6 years. I opened up the application this year and it took me a good hour to figure out things after this new change in their format. It's so confusing. I also had to email and ask where the priorities were listed... didn't expect it to be listed on the example of how to fill things out. Whoever thought that was a good idea is crazy.

[Annalee]

I feel ya.... I've been on the grant review committee and most in my area knew this. The minute the app is available for download I was bombarded with requests to help or aide in some way....

Then when it came time to review the packets and score them as to whether or not they'll be receiving a grant. I can see why so many need help. I shake my head and wonder how some of these gals managed to care for other people's children and not lose them every day.

I don't know how many of these are able to get up and put on their own clothes....anything beyond that really amazes me::

[LittleExplorers]

I feel ya.... I've been on the grant review committee and most in my area knew this. The minute the app is available for download I was bombarded with requests to help or aide in some way....

Then when it came time to review the packets and score them as to whether or not they'll be receiving a grant. I can see why so many need help. I shake my head and wonder how some of these gals managed to care for other people's children and not lose them every day.

That's exactly what I was thinking! ::

[Blackcat31]

We have regioanl grants we can apply for once a yaer. There is a step by step guide on how to apply. I am happy to help others, but seriously read the guide. It's what it is there for.


I am extra moody from fertility meds so I am sure that doesn't help, but we are all capable adults. No I won't give you all my answers or a copy of my packet. Ugg, just needed to let that out somewhere as I got my 5th Facebook message about help today.

I feel ya.... I've been on the grant review committee and most in my area knew this. The minute the app is available for download I was bombarded with requests to help or aide in some way....

Then when it came time to review the packets and score them as to whether or not they'll be receiving a grant. I can see why so many need help. I shake my head and wonder how some of these gals managed to care for other people's children and not lose them every day.

[LittleExplorers]

Read the guide

We have regioanl grants we can apply for once a yaer. There is a step by step guide on how to apply. I am happy to help others, but seriously read the guide. It's what it is there for.


I am extra moody from fertility meds so I am sure that doesn't help, but we are all capable adults. No I won't give you all my answers or a copy of my packet. Ugg, just needed to let that out somewhere as I got my 5th Facebook message about help today.

[CountryRoads]

I printed out a handbook for a family and went over it before I gave it to them.

I forgot how blunt I was and how clear my policies are, yet some parents still give me problems with things that are CLEARLY outlined in the handbook

Also, I need to work on controlling my face and my mouth :: Dcm is really getting on my nerves since last week and it's showing. It's a little awkward with her, now. Oops!