Venting Thread

[BumbleBee]

Dcb2 is driving me nuts.

Dcb: "I can do it!"

*attempts to do whatever it is*

"Hewp pees!"

*I attempt to help him*

"NOOOO!!! I CAN DO IT!"

*meltdown*

Repeat. All day long. The smallest bit of help is NOT acceptable. Not helping after he asks for help is NOT acceptable. Helping in any way is NOT acceptable.

I love that he wants to be independent, but heaven help me. My ears hurt.

[CountryRoads]

Some where along the way parents began equating crying to bad parenting.
If their kid cries, it means the kid doesn't like them and they are a bad parent.

I always tell my daycare parents that any parent that says no, AND enforces it is an excellent parent in my book.

Kids are suppose to cry.
Kids are suppose to test boundaries.
It's what they do.

What YOU (as a parent) does defines your level of "greatness" on the parenting scale.

You're so right!

I have one dcb who will sometimes slap his mom in the face and call her names at pick-up, and she laughs.

Last week, a different dcb slapped his mom in the face. Instant "NO!" and firm swat on the butt. It was so refreshing to see!

[Blackcat31]

i know I've vented about this before, but this time it is with a different parent.

Why are parents so afraid of making their children mad??

Dcg2 has a toy she is obsessed with. Mom left it at home and dcg starting whining for it at drop-off. Mom let her know that it was not in the bag, that it was at home. Dcg continued to whine, so dcm hands her the diaper bag and lets her take everything out to show her that it was not in there. What was the point?

The same thing happened at pick-up. Dcm let her take everything out AGAIN to show her that it was not in there.

What was so hard about saying. "Nope, not in there!. You can have it when we get home!" :confused:

Some where along the way parents began equating crying to bad parenting.
If their kid cries, it means the kid doesn't like them and they are a bad parent.

I always tell my daycare parents that any parent that says no, AND enforces it is an excellent parent in my book.

Kids are suppose to cry.
Kids are suppose to test boundaries.
It's what they do.

What YOU (as a parent) does defines your level of "greatness" on the parenting scale.

[CountryRoads]

i know I've vented about this before, but this time it is with a different parent.

Why are parents so afraid of making their children mad??

Dcg2 has a toy she is obsessed with. Mom left it at home and dcg starting whining for it at drop-off. Mom let her know that it was not in the bag, that it was at home. Dcg continued to whine, so dcm hands her the diaper bag and lets her take everything out to show her that it was not in there. What was the point?

The same thing happened at pick-up. Dcm let her take everything out AGAIN to show her that it was not in there.

What was so hard about saying. "Nope, not in there!. You can have it when we get home!" :confused:

[e.j.]

Some people :confused:

I once had a dcm tell me that she kept her high schooler home because "if she needs to be on medicine to feel good enough, then she doesn't need to be at school."

But, for some reason the same logic didn't apply to her daycare aged kids

The reason is she doesn't have to take a day off from work to stay home with a sick teenager but she does with a sick day care aged kid. That changes everything.

[DaveA]

So you kept your child home from school because of illness.....but by all means drop them at daycare....we all want to get sick!!!! Someone miss the common sense train.

Yes...you have to come pick them up.

Some people :confused:

I once had a dcm tell me that she kept her high schooler home because "if she needs to be on medicine to feel good enough, then she doesn't need to be at school."

But, for some reason the same logic didn't apply to her daycare aged kids

Sounds about right. I had a DCM once ask me if I could pick up their child from Pre-K because school was calling DCM because DCK had severe diarrhea. She was stunned when I told her NO.

[CountryRoads]

So you kept your child home from school because of illness.....but by all means drop them at daycare....we all want to get sick!!!! Someone miss the common sense train.

Yes...you have to come pick them up.

Some people :confused:

I once had a dcm tell me that she kept her high schooler home because "if she needs to be on medicine to feel good enough, then she doesn't need to be at school."

But, for some reason the same logic didn't apply to her daycare aged kids

[Ms.Kay]

By all means...

So you kept your child home from school because of illness.....but by all means drop them at daycare....we all want to get sick!!!! Someone miss the common sense train.

Yes...you have to come pick them up.

[Alwaysgreener]

It does sound fishy BUT in their defense, I am an Admin to a several "garage sale" groups on FB. I have it in the rules that the Seller must actually delete (not mark the ad as sold and/or to comment further) their sold items. It clogs up the group and people don't read and will still ask endless questions. So it's best to just delete the ad.

Yeah I know most groups still require delete versus clicking mark sold. Which I don't fully understand, because I believe when you click Mark sold it gets marked sold in all the groups you copied it to. Then the post gets a gray look and gets removed from the main thread. So why still require a delete vs clicking mark sold?

This is one of the main reasons I mainly use the Marketplace. That and the stupid rules the group owners have. Bumping rules, posting muplitple items in the same category together, no post links, max post per day, the best is the group owners that insist on approving all post. By the time they approve them it is already sold or given away.

[Former Teacher]

I wish there was a way for admin to make people actually show up when they say they want stuff. I gave so much away, always advertising on CL or Freecycle, and had them confirm the day they'd pick it up. Then I'd leave it right outside. Hours later, there it still sat. That must've happened 6+ times. Course on the other side of the coin, there were several people who were truly thankful for what I gave them and really did show up.

I am a tyrant when it comes to my FB groups .

If I get a report of a No-Show, and I get screenshots to prove that a transaction was indeed in place, I will remove them from ALL (there's several ) the groups.

When I started my local food review group, several of those Members said...when do you have time?! I often wonder that myself ::

[Josiegirl]

It does sound fishy BUT in their defense, I am an Admin to a several "garage sale" groups on FB. I have it in the rules that the Seller must actually delete (not mark the ad as sold and/or to comment further) their sold items. It clogs up the group and people don't read and will still ask endless questions. So it's best to just delete the ad.

I wish there was a way for admin to make people actually show up when they say they want stuff. I gave so much away, always advertising on CL or Freecycle, and had them confirm the day they'd pick it up. Then I'd leave it right outside. Hours later, there it still sat. That must've happened 6+ times. Course on the other side of the coin, there were several people who were truly thankful for what I gave them and really did show up.

[Former Teacher]

Yes I thought about that and a few other reasons. The posting came down later that evening, they didn't mark it sold they just remove the posting.

It does sound fishy BUT in their defense, I am an Admin to a several "garage sale" groups on FB. I have it in the rules that the Seller must actually delete (not mark the ad as sold and/or to comment further) their sold items. It clogs up the group and people don't read and will still ask endless questions. So it's best to just delete the ad.

[Alwaysgreener]

Wonder if there giving you the run around about it because they either 1) didnt want to sell but posted anyway or 2) tried to scam youn the process

Yes I thought about that and a few other reasons. The posting came down later that evening, they didn't mark it sold they just remove the posting.

[Josiegirl]

Wonder if there giving you the run around about it because they either 1) didnt want to sell but posted anyway or 2) tried to scam youn the process

I think some people just like to control the situation, KWIM? Then they realize they might've goofed up and back pedal. I don't know if that's why these people did what they did but I've seen it soooo many times.

[springv]

Wonder if there giving you the run around about it because they either 1) didnt want to sell but posted anyway or 2) tried to scam youn the process