Venting Thread

[Ariana]

I don't understand these men. I would lose all physical attraction for my husband if he turned out to be such a dependopotamus (barring paralysis/TBI). What do they get out of it? Why are they willing to pull all the weight and pay someone else to take care of their kids?

This is exactly what my husband said! Yesterday dad came to pickup and says to his kid “its just you and me tonight because mommy is getting a haircut.....what should we make for dinner”. So she didn’t work all day and then books a haircut for 5pm...so poor dad has to go home after a full day of work and make dinner etc. My husband was like “why is he tolerating this BS” ::

[Cat Herder]

I have a 17 month old in care from 7am to 5pm. Mom does not work. Kid is in bed at 6:30pm every night. Two weeks ago she had grandma pick up on Friday as she went away for the weekend with her hubby. They got back Sunday night and she told me “it was the first time we have been away since we became parents”....like she was mother of the year Do you think she kept her kid home on Monday to reconnect with her or because she missed her? Nope.

I don't understand these men. I would lose all physical attraction for my husband if he turned out to be such a dependopotamus (barring paralysis/TBI). What do they get out of it? Why are they willing to pull all the weight and pay someone else to take care of their kids?

[Annalee]

Monday is Veterans Day.

Looking forward to a mellow day as I have several parents off.
Including the mother of my absolute most difficult child.
Older sibling (Kindergarten) will be home as there is no school that day.

This morning at drop off one of the other parents mentioned their child will be home with them and not in care Monday.

DCM (of most difficult child) says as she head's out the door "DCB might still be here that day. He's so difficult sometimes so we'll let him decide if he wants to stay home or come to daycare. But he'll probably be here." then laughs...



He'll be staying home.

I have a couple kids that if I was open Christmas day, they would be here:confused:

[Blackcat31]

Monday is Veterans Day.

Looking forward to a mellow day as I have several parents off.
Including the mother of my absolute most difficult child.
Older sibling (Kindergarten) will be home as there is no school that day.

This morning at drop off one of the other parents mentioned their child will be home with them and not in care Monday.

DCM (of most difficult child) says as she head's out the door "DCB might still be here that day. He's so difficult sometimes so we'll let him decide if he wants to stay home or come to daycare. But he'll probably be here." then laughs...



He'll be staying home.

[springv]

Another kid with delays. I am so sick of it! Having THE TALK over and over. She is 17 months old. This child cannot speak, does not babble, rolls around on the floor doing very odd things. Does not interact with other children and infrequently with me. Does not imitate or point to things or ask to get any needs met. It is obvious from her time here that she has been severely neglected. Left to her own devices while her narcissistic mother does other things. The dilemma now is do I say something or just work with her and mention it if she is still delayed at 2. She is with me for 10 hours a day so it is really my problem . The 12 month old from the amazing family I have just started and she is heads and tails above where this 17 month old is.

Apparently at home she says a bunch of words and can imitate all of the animal sounds

We have a sibling set that just started recently and one is delayed about a year according to parents, the oldest one has meds to take each morning and just Monday, she got in a fight on the bus and got suspended and the youngest is normal according to parents but here's the kicker, the middle and youngest child both wear leg braces and the parents want the middle in speech and occupational therapy and for them to come to us

[Alwaysgreener]

I have a 17 month old in care from 7am to 5pm. Mom does not work. Kid is in bed at 6:30pm every night. Two weeks ago she had grandma pick up on Friday as she went away for the weekend with her hubby. They got back Sunday night and she told me “it was the first time we have been away since we became parents”....like she was mother of the year Do you think she kept her kid home on Monday to reconnect with her or because she missed her? Nope.

My baby is 17 months old. I am home to tuck him and get him up every day. I may go to an appt or store without my kids but I see them every day.

DCM just got her long waited for foster boys in July. Got out of work early and to go home and shower then comes and picks up the boys. Comments that she is going to have girl time that night with a friend. That she is overdue. The boys spend time in respite once a month (stays with another foster family for the weekend), plus have had overnights at her mil and mom. And she is overdue for a night out.

I know fostering is hard, I did it as a stay at home mom of four foster kids and had to use respite every 2/3 months. Respite is hard on the kids, they are always so much better behaved when you do not send them away.

FYI - girl time to me means, spending time with just me and my dd, which I did that night. I poured so much love into my dd that night because we spent time together outside of the home.

rant over

[Ariana]

Another kid with delays. I am so sick of it! Having THE TALK over and over. She is 17 months old. This child cannot speak, does not babble, rolls around on the floor doing very odd things. Does not interact with other children and infrequently with me. Does not imitate or point to things or ask to get any needs met. It is obvious from her time here that she has been severely neglected. Left to her own devices while her narcissistic mother does other things. The dilemma now is do I say something or just work with her and mention it if she is still delayed at 2. She is with me for 10 hours a day so it is really my problem . The 12 month old from the amazing family I have just started and she is heads and tails above where this 17 month old is.

Apparently at home she says a bunch of words and can imitate all of the animal sounds

[Alwaysgreener]

DCB 6 after drop off, gets up on a stool, (that is always there) reaches up and proceeds to open a cupboard.
Me: thinking one thing but holding my tongue, ask DCB, What are you doing?
DCB: looking for cereal
He sees me get out the cereal every week, 1. it is not nor ever have been in that cupboard and 2. it has never been his job to get it out.
Me: dcb it is not polite to open up cupboards in other people's homes without permission.

Normal day, they arrive, I get out the cereal and pour it. DCB6 and DCG2.5 set the table. Then they eat. While I finish getting evverything else done.

[Ariana]

I have a 17 month old in care from 7am to 5pm. Mom does not work. Kid is in bed at 6:30pm every night. Two weeks ago she had grandma pick up on Friday as she went away for the weekend with her hubby. They got back Sunday night and she told me “it was the first time we have been away since we became parents”....like she was mother of the year Do you think she kept her kid home on Monday to reconnect with her or because she missed her? Nope.

[Cat Herder]

This annoys me so so so much.

Parents look at me like I have two heads when I say something but I don't maybe it's a provider thing but it just annoys me. It's always the hardest/youngest child in care too.

Mine arrives on the dot (opening time) and right before closing time but then stands around and wants to chat BOTH times like she has nothing better to do.

I ignore but she just stands there. She's still fairly new so I am thinking this relationship will go so much better if she doesn't make me have to have "the talk" with her.

Nailed it. Arrives at opening within the first two minutes. Picked up straight from work until the child began to walk/talk, now almost an hour later. Skips conferences but wants to talk about her child's development at pick-up on Fridays before the weekend. Luckily, the child is really easy going, grateful for anything I put in front of her, just behind a bit in self-help, problem-solving and verbal skills. I am working on it with her.

I seem to always have one. My last open-close kid (enrolled as 8-4) was so much worse so I am better off than before. ::

[Alwaysgreener]

When parents drop off their kids...and tell me they're "taking a me day".

That is all.

Or when they show up in the pajamas, with a cranky kid. And at pick up at 6 pm, say they only work 11-2.

[gumdrops]

3 yr old has been home with Mom for 1 week and doesn't like vegetables anymore. Give her another week here and she'll remember that she likes them!

[Blackcat31]

They'll be bringing them anyways.......they paid for it.... $ is worth more than time with their kids.

Mine are "weird".... they rarely if ever, use the paid for it = gotta use it excuse.

It's usually a million other things though....

[Blackcat31]

Yep. "If they annoy me this weekend or I find something that sounds more fun, I will bring them early Monday."

My 1st drop-off has been becoming my last pick-up lately so Mom can go walking after work for some "quiet time". Kids' 10 hour days in daycare to Moms 8 at her desk +1 in the car alone, who really needs some quiet time?

This annoys me so so so much.

Parents look at me like I have two heads when I say something but I don't maybe it's a provider thing but it just annoys me. It's always the hardest/youngest child in care too.

Mine arrives on the dot (opening time) and right before closing time but then stands around and wants to chat BOTH times like she has nothing better to do.

I ignore but she just stands there. She's still fairly new so I am thinking this relationship will go so much better if she doesn't make me have to have "the talk" with her.

[Ms.Kay]

Yep. "If they annoy me this weekend or I find something that sounds more fun, I will bring them early Monday."

My 1st drop-off has been becoming my last pick-up lately so Mom can go walking after work for some "quiet time". Kids' 10 hour days in daycare to Moms 8 at her desk +1 in the car alone, who really needs some quiet time?

They'll be bringing them anyways.......they paid for it.... $ is worth more than time with their kids.