Venting Thread

[Heart12]

Naive Me: Ohhhhh 2 infants that are the same age! It's so awesome that they would grow up in my daycare lovethis

4 months later me: I will NEVERRRRRRRRR take another infant. EVER! Things arent looking too good for crazy, paranoid, first time moms either ::

[Indoorvoice]

I have FOUR three year olds enrolled right now, 3 are FT. I hear you.


I love how dcp's think they have a say in how I run my day/what I do/what I buy/activities/etc.

I have TWO parents that are constantly tagging me in things to do with their child on my business FB page. One is a grandma who does Sunday school (with SA kids) and the other worked a summer in a college daycare program. They know EVERYTHING. Plus, what they tag me in are craptivities. 100% teacher led, teacher put together crafts. I run a child-led, play based, emergent program. No I don't think a 3 yo is going to say "Miss. X Can we do a handprint alphabet book today?" The funniest part is the grandma tagging me in religious things, eg at Christmas I got the handprint angel craft with a prayer. Um, noooo.

I had a parent that would email crafts daily. I would respond back: "how cute! Dcg will love to do this with you!" ::::::

[LysesKids]

On the second day back from Christmas break my families gave to me cranky, sleepy children and a bottle refusing baby.

I got the bottle refusing kid too but in my case it was a blessing as it's time for him to wean off anyway (he's BF at home); he likes sippy cups for water and miniature glasses to drink his Moms milk now and he is just turning 12 months old next week

[laundrymom]

On the second day back from Christmas break my families gave to me cranky, sleepy children and a bottle refusing baby.

[daycarediva]

I have FOUR three year olds enrolled right now, 3 are FT. I hear you.


I love how dcp's think they have a say in how I run my day/what I do/what I buy/activities/etc.

I have TWO parents that are constantly tagging me in things to do with their child on my business FB page. One is a grandma who does Sunday school (with SA kids) and the other worked a summer in a college daycare program. They know EVERYTHING. Plus, what they tag me in are craptivities. 100% teacher led, teacher put together crafts. I run a child-led, play based, emergent program. No I don't think a 3 yo is going to say "Miss. X Can we do a handprint alphabet book today?" The funniest part is the grandma tagging me in religious things, eg at Christmas I got the handprint angel craft with a prayer. Um, noooo.

[SnowGirl]

Feel like I'm losing all control over 3 yo dcg. Every single time she gets angry she lashes out at whoever is closest to her, the other kids, me, her baby sister. I'm at my wit's end. She's seeking out attention, and she's super competitive. She's spoiled rotten(even according to her mom) and just *now* they've decided to become more strict with her. It might be too little too late for my group.

My daughter is turning three soon and she's still struggling with this phase. Such a spirited, aggressive child. I hope things work out in the best way for you and your group!

[SnowGirl]

Yesterday my DF made a comment to be about being his housewife, and our home being my responsibility because I am home all day.

This really rubbed me the wrong way. I am not just a housewife! I am a educated small business owner, a mother to a 3 month old, and a caregiver to 5 children.

There are days I long to be "just a housewife". I would love to just manage my home, my personal finances, and play the role of SAHM with the small amount of freedom they have (they can run errands, make appointments, etc).

But, not only do I play the role of wife and mother, I run a business. I do bookwork, I create a educational environment for other children, I support them, love them, and care for them, and I bring an extra income into our home.

So no, honey. I am not just a housewife!

Oh gosh do I hear you! My DH is always implying that I'm in charge of the home. I have resorted to just telling him what his chores are instead of asking him. Hey, I'm the Stay at home MOM, I guess he's one of the kids

[SnowGirl]

I know that the solution to my problems is to grow a nice, shiny spine...but I'm just not there, yet. Hence, I'm only venting.

DCM is out of town this week, so it's DCD who is not used to me or my policies. He just texted me 3 minutes after breakfast cut off, "I'm bringing DCG early today please feed her breakfast."

No "Is it okay if I drop her off early today? Is it okay if you feed her breakfast for today?"

DCM is nursing her ailing mother right now and I don't want to bother her, DCD is generally nice and I don't want to be strict on my policies. DCG is contracted for my full day, they just tend to bring her hours from now so that's how I plan her day. It's all around frustrating. Again, it's a me problem...I know. Argh!

[Play Care]

Feel like I'm losing all control over 3 yo dcg. Every single time she gets angry she lashes out at whoever is closest to her, the other kids, me, her baby sister. I'm at my wit's end. She's seeking out attention, and she's super competitive. She's spoiled rotten(even according to her mom) and just *now* they've decided to become more strict with her. It might be too little too late for my group.

3 is a tough age. :hug::hug:

[Josiegirl]

Feel like I'm losing all control over 3 yo dcg. Every single time she gets angry she lashes out at whoever is closest to her, the other kids, me, her baby sister. I'm at my wit's end. She's seeking out attention, and she's super competitive. She's spoiled rotten(even according to her mom) and just *now* they've decided to become more strict with her. It might be too little too late for my group.

[Play Care]

My sleep or lack thereof. It's only day 2 after vacation so I should probably expect it. But I LOVE sleep. And I'm crabby without it.

[Play Care]

Yesterday my DF made a comment to be about being his housewife, and our home being my responsibility because I am home all day.

This really rubbed me the wrong way. I am not just a housewife! I am a educated small business owner, a mother to a 3 month old, and a caregiver to 5 children.

There are days I long to be "just a housewife". I would love to just manage my home, my personal finances, and play the role of SAHM with the small amount of freedom they have (they can run errands, make appointments, etc).

But, not only do I play the role of wife and mother, I run a business. I do bookwork, I create a educational environment for other children, I support them, love them, and care for them, and I bring an extra income into our home.

So no, honey. I am not just a housewife!

Ugh, I hope you told him this!
One of my huge pet peeves about WAH.

[Miss A]

Yesterday my DF made a comment to be about being his housewife, and our home being my responsibility because I am home all day.

This really rubbed me the wrong way. I am not just a housewife! I am a educated small business owner, a mother to a 3 month old, and a caregiver to 5 children.

There are days I long to be "just a housewife". I would love to just manage my home, my personal finances, and play the role of SAHM with the small amount of freedom they have (they can run errands, make appointments, etc).

But, not only do I play the role of wife and mother, I run a business. I do bookwork, I create a educational environment for other children, I support them, love them, and care for them, and I bring an extra income into our home.

So no, honey. I am not just a housewife!

[Claraskids]

Agreed. I've seen, however, a lot of parents with profoundly disabled kids who finally ended up taking over the education themselves when the public schools failed to provide teachers and programs appropriate for the kids. My cousins ended up moving across the country to get into a public school system that targeted kids with a particular set of disabilities. If cross-country relocation isn't an option, some parents have to take up the mantle of teacher.

As a former public school teacher, private school teacher, and homeschooler; I've seen and experienced both the best and the worst that is out there. That is what gets me so frustrated when a parent claims that there choice of education is the only way. I truly believe that you have to make the best choice for your OWN child and no one else.
When we started homeschooling, it was because our second child had special needs that the public school couldn't meet. It was the perfect fit for him. But we also said that the decision to homeschool would be made one year at a time. Currently, my oldest is a senior at the public school and thriving. She has been accepted to numerous colleges and given academic scholarships. Our second child asked to try online school this year and is loving it. It is also much easier with the daycare load. We started out the year homeschooling our youngest but it quickly fell apart. After much deliberation, he transferred to the public school in November. There's been a few bumps and learning curves, but so far so good.
Bottom line, each child learns different and this mom at least had to be aware of that.

[Pestle]

I have friends who very successfully homeschool. But, as you know, it's WORK to do it, a tremendous amount! And I think that unless the parents have some background in education, they truly are clueless to the amount of work that excellent homeschooling requires.
I also think people throw out homeschooling as a cure all when kids are struggling in public/private school, the same way people throw out "just babysit!" when a mom struggles with going back to work. As if it's "easy" and there's "nothing to it"

Agreed. I've seen, however, a lot of parents with profoundly disabled kids who finally ended up taking over the education themselves when the public schools failed to provide teachers and programs appropriate for the kids. My cousins ended up moving across the country to get into a public school system that targeted kids with a particular set of disabilities. If cross-country relocation isn't an option, some parents have to take up the mantle of teacher.