A DIFFERENT MENTALITY-vent

[mrs.meg]

Hi, I hope everyone is having a good Monday:

I keep 2 boys from the same family. I have kept several children over the past few years and I am finding that I just do not understand the mentality of SOME parents who work, and I see by most of the posts that it is just the way our culture has changed over the past 20 years.

For example: Mom comes in to drop off her almost 3 year old this morning. They knock on the door and my daughter who is 3, opens the door, and smiles and says "hello". The DC boy starts stating "stop Monica not open door" (this is how he talks) and repeating it over and over. He starts to shut the door. In other words, he did not want my daughter to open the door for him. So instead of the mom saying, "she lives here, she can open the door if she wants" She LIES and says "Meg opened the door, Monica didn't, Meg opened the door for us. Then she looks at me, I guess expecting me to tell him the same, but I said nothing, I just was so shocked by what I am dealing with. No wonder these boys are SO hard to teach anything too! Why is it so hard to be a PARENT? Why is everyone more concerned about being liked by a child than teaching them about life! We are not automatic bosses of everyone, we cannot get our way in life all the time. I just don't understand at all!

I want to add that I am not a perfect parent. I have many faults and weaknesses, but I am here to guide my children and get them ready for the world, and for when I am no longer here. I just do not understand why people are afraid of their kids.

[mac60]

very well said.....

[MarinaVanessa]

I'm with you on this one ... Why is it that the children are angels until the parent's are around? Because the parent's let their kids get away with murder. I'm not going to portray myself as the perfect mother (I have often openly wished for a wall of velcro and a velcro suit for my 5-year-old to use as a sort-of time out method) but my child does not rant and rave as soon as I walk in the door. Funny thing is that I take my DC kids with me everywhere (I am blesses with parents that allow me to transport their children everywhere) and can take them to a toystore (usually Lakeshore) to pick out toys (I like to have them choose what they would like to play with) and they are GASP!! behaved! So why is it that as soon as mommy walks in that they are monsters?? Because they are allowed to be.

[mrs.meg]

I finally got to to the point that I have been getting on the boys in front of mom. They come in and start running up the staircase, which they KNOW they are not even allowed on the upper level of my home or they start flipping the lights off and on and think because mom is there, the rules don't apply. I had to, it was just too much to take, and if they don't like it, then they can go elsewhere. I firmly state to the boys "you know the rules, you are not to do that even when mom is here". She hasn't said anything. When she leaves they are like different children, most of the time. Some days the little horns still come out!