So Sad!

[littlemommy]

At drop off this morning, I could tell something was wrong with DCM. After I said hi, she burst into tears and said that at couple's counseling yesterday, her boyfriend told her that he doesn't love her, she's a horrible mother and that him and their son would be better off if she left. She said that due to legal problems when he was born, the boyfriend/dad has full custody, so she has to do whatever he says. How sad for a 2 year old to go through this!

[Zoe]

Oh wow. That's terrible. What a crappy thing to go through! I'm so sorry she has to go through that! And the dcb.

[laundrymom]

Can you refer to legal aid? Modify the agreement?

[Mom&Provider]

I think if he has full rights, she'd better get something else in writting...she needs legal advice now!! Obviously you don't know the entire story, but she's better trying to sort it out on her end now vs when he has already decided to up and leave with their kid!

[Michael]

The boyfriend sounds like a real creep. She would be better off without him.

[littlemommy]

The boyfriend seemed "normal" at pickup last night. He's always come off as very rude to me, and is sometimes just plain weird. He got mad at ME one day because the boy wasn't wearing socks with his sandals. It was over 100 degrees that day!

I don't know if I even want to get involved with trying to help them stay together. She has made several comments in the past that he is verbally abusive to her. I think the only reason she stays with him is because of her son. It's very sad to see the boy in the middle of all of this, but yes, I think she would be better off without him. I hope the best for the boy!

[sharlan]

The boyfriend sounds like a real creep. She would be better off without him.

Yes, but she loses the son with out the dad.

She's in a lose, lose, situation.

[Blackcat31]

This is always a hard situation to be in. It is also very important to remember that you are only hearing one side of the story. There are usually 3 sides to every scenario; His side, her side and the truth.

I have been in the middle more times than I ever care to remember and have learned the hard way that I will never again allow myself to go there again. I am ONLY concerned now with things that are directly related to the care I provide to the child. Everything else is too personal for me.

[littlemommy]

I don't share my personal/marriage life with daycare parents, but some of them share WAY too much with me. This same mother told me less than a week after I met her that her ex-fiance just got out of prison and wanted to be with her. She said she still loved him but just didn't want to leave her son. That was more than I needed to know that early on in our "relationship." She's the type that just walks in the door and tells me everything. I never ask questions and try not to give advice, because it's really none of my business!

I do feel bad for the kid being stuck in the middle, but I'm not the one in control.