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  • Nellie
    Daycare.com Member
    • Sep 2011
    • 259

    #31
    I'm sooo glad you stood up for your self.

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    • Cat Herder
      Advanced Daycare.com Member
      • Dec 2010
      • 13744

      #32
      I am so glad you let her go.

      I am trying to be more "parent friendly" and "less emotional" in my posts, but I hurt for you.

      Maybe you could use some bedsheets and set up a "stage" so DD could do her own private showing this weekend at home? New dress, nails, the works...then film it? Make it a girls day....
      - Unless otherwise stated, all my posts are personal opinion and worth what you paid for them.

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      • Meeko
        Advanced Daycare.com Member
        • Mar 2011
        • 4351

        #33
        Originally posted by Catherder
        I am so glad you let her go.

        I am trying to be more "parent friendly" and "less emotional" in my posts, but I hurt for you.

        Maybe you could use some bedsheets and set up a "stage" so DD could do her own private showing this weekend at home? New dress, nails, the works...then film it? Make it a girls day....
        Great idea.

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        • laundrymom
          Advanced Daycare.com Member
          • Nov 2010
          • 4177

          #34
          Originally posted by Catherder
          I am so glad you let her go.

          I am trying to be more "parent friendly" and "less emotional" in my posts, but I hurt for you.

          Maybe you could use some bedsheets and set up a "stage" so DD could do her own private showing this weekend at home? New dress, nails, the works...then film it? Make it a girls day....
          Abolutely!!!!! Do it!!!!

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          • Unregistered

            #35
            thanks cat for the idea

            So I started to try to find the good in this after reading cats idea....

            I called my neighbor who has a dance studio. I told her what happened and I would love to be able to do as CAT suggested. She said on Sunday she would be more than happy to doll up my daughter and allow for her to do the preformance again... She said she would love to even allow some of her friends to come and take a free hip hop dance class right after..... I am so excited.............

            I called the school to see if someone has video and the PE teacher has one....

            Even though it still stinks that i was not there to see it in person at least i have a second chance...

            thanks so much for all of your support.....hugs to all!!

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            • Cat Herder
              Advanced Daycare.com Member
              • Dec 2010
              • 13744

              #36
              Originally posted by Unregistered
              So I started to try to find the good in this after reading cats idea....

              I called my neighbor who has a dance studio. I told her what happened and I would love to be able to do as CAT suggested. She said on Sunday she would be more than happy to doll up my daughter and allow for her to do the preformance again... She said she would love to even allow some of her friends to come and take a free hip hop dance class right after..... I am so excited.............

              I called the school to see if someone has video and the PE teacher has one....

              Even though it still stinks that i was not there to see it in person at least i have a second chance...

              thanks so much for all of your support.....hugs to all!!
              Too cool!!!! YAY!! That sounds so fun.....
              - Unless otherwise stated, all my posts are personal opinion and worth what you paid for them.

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              • nannyde
                All powerful, all knowing daycare whisperer
                • Mar 2010
                • 7320

                #37
                I would prepare for a full inspection now if you are registered or licensed.

                I agree with Meek that you have a very high chance of her apology turning to anger once the apology words didn't net her being able to bring her kids to you today.
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                • Meeko
                  Advanced Daycare.com Member
                  • Mar 2011
                  • 4351

                  #38
                  Originally posted by Unregistered
                  So I started to try to find the good in this after reading cats idea....

                  I called my neighbor who has a dance studio. I told her what happened and I would love to be able to do as CAT suggested. She said on Sunday she would be more than happy to doll up my daughter and allow for her to do the preformance again... She said she would love to even allow some of her friends to come and take a free hip hop dance class right after..... I am so excited.............

                  I called the school to see if someone has video and the PE teacher has one....

                  Even though it still stinks that i was not there to see it in person at least i have a second chance...

                  thanks so much for all of your support.....hugs to all!!
                  Oh that's wonderful! Your daughter must have been upset you missed her perform...but I know she's so happy that you are showing her how VERY important this is to you. The fact you canned the dcm also shows your daughter that SHE is more important than business. This will bring you closer together in the long run.

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                  • Mom&Provider
                    Daycare.com Member
                    • Dec 2010
                    • 378

                    #39
                    I learned the hard way also to make sure to give myself PLENTY of time! I'm like you, try to be nice, stay open as late as possible and rush around myself...no more!

                    Sounds like you have yourself covered. It's not like you didn't have permission to transport and did. Have all the documents ready and be prepared for an inspection if she goes that far. She might just stop sending her kids and that's it....

                    So great that you found a copy of your daughter singing...maybe not live like you would have liked, but now the two of you can sit and watch it together...make a movie night with some popcorn too!

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                    • cheerfuldom
                      Advanced Daycare.com Member
                      • Dec 2010
                      • 7413

                      #40
                      go you! way to stand up for yourself and your daughter. the nerve of some people!!!

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                      • countrymom
                        Daycare.com Member
                        • Aug 2010
                        • 4874

                        #41
                        great for you.

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                        • PitterPatter
                          Advanced Daycare.com Member
                          • Mar 2011
                          • 1507

                          #42
                          Originally posted by Unregistered
                          So DCM calls me about twenty min. ago and asks if we could talk. She goes on to say how sorry she is and that when she got home she realized that she was the one in the wrong. She asked if she could drop off the kids and she would do anything she could to make it up to me and my daughter.... offered me and my daughter a full day of services at her salon/spa. DCM goes on and on about how bad she feels and I let her.

                          So when she is done, I tell her that she was the last person that I expected for this to ever happen with. I told her how horrible I felt and that I cried most of the night last night. I then told her that based off of yesterdays issue, that I knew in my heart that I could never offer my services to her and her family ever again. I told her it felt like I was stabbed in the heart and that I would be silly to allow anyone to ever have the chance to do that to me again. She started to cry and I said, I know this is going to sound horrible, but now you know how I felt yesterday. I am really sorry, but I am going to have to let you guys go and it will have to be today. I am going to get the kids stuff ready to go and you can pick it up any time tomorrow. She tried so hard to change my mind and I just said Im sorry, I can't. I am very proud of myself right now, but still feeling like poo....

                          thanks ladies for all of your help and support.... Having a contract and PHB has really paid off.
                          1st of all HUGS! I would be livid!! I feel so bad for you and your daughter it just leaves a lump in my throat! You did the right thing and I too would do the same. Personally I close at least 1 hour prior to a function just to be safe. I hope this never happens to you again.

                          I think your Daughter will understand how much you care with you doing everything possible to make up for it. I bet your Daughter is glad you let that family go huh?

                          Seems you have it under control now but I just wanted to say ITA with Meek! I had a Mother snap and go all nuts on me. 2 weeks later she called to apologize. I told her thank you but no the child could not come back due to her disreespect. She turned on me again. Your DCP may have realized how mush she NEEDS you and just be trying to smooch butt to get back. I wouldn't do it. But watch out for her revenge.

                          I hope all ends well for you!

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                          • Auntie
                            Daycare.com Member
                            • Jun 2011
                            • 181

                            #43
                            Originally posted by unregistered
                            so dcm calls me about twenty min. Ago and asks if we could talk. She goes on to say how sorry she is and that when she got home she realized that she was the one in the wrong. She asked if she could drop off the kids and she would do anything she could to make it up to me and my daughter.... offered me and my daughter a full day of services at her salon/spa. Dcm goes on and on about how bad she feels and i let her.

                            So when she is done, i tell her that she was the last person that i expected for this to ever happen with. I told her how horrible i felt and that i cried most of the night last night. I then told her that based off of yesterdays issue, that i knew in my heart that i could never offer my services to her and her family ever again. I told her it felt like i was stabbed in the heart and that i would be silly to allow anyone to ever have the chance to do that to me again. She started to cry and i said, i know this is going to sound horrible, but now you know how i felt yesterday. I am really sorry, but i am going to have to let you guys go and it will have to be today. I am going to get the kids stuff ready to go and you can pick it up any time tomorrow. She tried so hard to change my mind and i just said im sorry, i can't. I am very proud of myself right now, but still feeling like poo....

                            Thanks ladies for all of your help and support.... Having a contract and phb has really paid off.
                            good for you!!!!

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                            • emmajo
                              Daycare.com Member
                              • Sep 2011
                              • 50

                              #44
                              forgiveness

                              It sounded to me that the mom's apology was heart-felt, and I think I would have leaned more toward giving her the benefit of the doubt and accepted her apology and continued to work with her. Especially since prior to this she was a "good" parent. And since other ways to enjoy the daughter's performance had become available. Not criticizing OP who had to feel all the tension and emotions involved, and I know feeling that is hard - just saying that I'm the sort who tries to forgive parent lapses and to keep working with them. Which is easy for me to say, since I haven't run into anything like this myself - my parents continue to be great. It seems to me that "term them" is the advice most often given on here and I'm wondering if sometimes there might be other options offered that might be more helpful.

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                              • littlemissmuffet
                                Advanced Daycare.com Member
                                • Jan 2011
                                • 2194

                                #45
                                Originally posted by Unregistered
                                So DCM calls me about twenty min. ago and asks if we could talk. She goes on to say how sorry she is and that when she got home she realized that she was the one in the wrong. She asked if she could drop off the kids and she would do anything she could to make it up to me and my daughter.... offered me and my daughter a full day of services at her salon/spa. DCM goes on and on about how bad she feels and I let her.

                                So when she is done, I tell her that she was the last person that I expected for this to ever happen with. I told her how horrible I felt and that I cried most of the night last night. I then told her that based off of yesterdays issue, that I knew in my heart that I could never offer my services to her and her family ever again. I told her it felt like I was stabbed in the heart and that I would be silly to allow anyone to ever have the chance to do that to me again. She started to cry and I said, I know this is going to sound horrible, but now you know how I felt yesterday. I am really sorry, but I am going to have to let you guys go and it will have to be today. I am going to get the kids stuff ready to go and you can pick it up any time tomorrow. She tried so hard to change my mind and I just said Im sorry, I can't. I am very proud of myself right now, but still feeling like poo....

                                thanks ladies for all of your help and support.... Having a contract and PHB has really paid off.
                                I'm way proud of you too! Great job, girl!! *hugs*

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