The Child That Must Be First

[Meyou]

I do praise her when she does the right thing. She's actually my best helper with the little ones alot of the time so she gets lots of praise for teaching them and helping them with hard tasks. She's also an awesome cleaner upper and leads the cleanup. She really is a naturally born leader.

Today I let the oldest be first for everything just to see how she would react. She actually had very little reaction. She asked me why DCB was first each time and I said "because he's the oldest" and the most she said was, "Oh, Ok. Can I be second?" Sooo...this may be the way to go. She would get to be first on Mondays when the two that are older than her aren't here but she would be third the rest of the week if we go by age. I'll update and see how it goes.

[Meyou]

Update:

It's a week later and I've continued with the rule that the oldest is first for everything. She's accepted that without a complaint and is pretty mellow now waiting for the oldest to be first for everything. She's still racing to eat/color/run and be first each time but the major issue of her getting physical to be first has ended (fingers crossed). She gets to be first one day a week when the oldest stays home with mom and she's the oldest.

[momofsix]

Update:

It's a week later and I've continued with the rule that the oldest is first for everything. She's accepted that without a complaint and is pretty mellow now waiting for the oldest to be first for everything. She's still racing to eat/color/run and be first each time but the major issue of her getting physical to be first has ended (fingers crossed). She gets to be first one day a week when the oldest stays home with mom and she's the oldest.

Great news!!! It's great when we can come to thsi forum, someone gives us a plan and it works!