I hate nap time. I should love it, but I hate it.

[sahm2three]

It is soooooooooooooooooooo much work. It is ALWAYS someone who refuses to nap. Whether it is the 9 mo dcg who I have had issues with lately, or the toddlers getting up constantly off their mats or the beds. But now my 18 mo screamer dcb hasn't napped in DAYS. And he screams and screams and screams. Parents told me to just leave him in his room and let him scream. That would be great if I had sound proof walls and unlimited rooms. I am so worn out, and I have a full time assistant. I think we are going to have to take turns doing naptime duty until we can get everyone sleeping at the same time.

Also, tell me if this is a slam. DCD of the screamer came to pick up said screamer early yesterday because they had an appt. I warned him that he hadn't slept and had been screaming off and on all day, and had needed lots of snuggle time (may not be feeling well). He leaves (this is all during nap time), and my assistant gets on her fb and he posts a picture of screamer just smiling away in his carseat IN FRONT OF MY HOUSE. Like, "oh really, doesn't seem grouchy to me". I have worked SOOOOOO hard with this kid, and it felt like a slap in the face.

[sharlan]

Is it possible that Daddy's Little Angel was feeding off of your frustration yesterday?

I know that when I'm really frustrated, the kids seem to really act up for me.

[Angelwings36]

It is soooooooooooooooooooo much work. It is ALWAYS someone who refuses to nap. Whether it is the 9 mo dcg who I have had issues with lately, or the toddlers getting up constantly off their mats or the beds. But now my 18 mo screamer dcb hasn't napped in DAYS. And he screams and screams and screams. Parents told me to just leave him in his room and let him scream. That would be great if I had sound proof walls and unlimited rooms. I am so worn out, and I have a full time assistant. I think we are going to have to take turns doing naptime duty until we can get everyone sleeping at the same time.

Also, tell me if this is a slam. DCD of the screamer came to pick up said screamer early yesterday because they had an appt. I warned him that he hadn't slept and had been screaming off and on all day, and had needed lots of snuggle time (may not be feeling well). He leaves (this is all during nap time), and my assistant gets on her fb and he posts a picture of screamer just smiling away in his carseat IN FRONT OF MY HOUSE. Like, "oh really, doesn't seem grouchy to me". I have worked SOOOOOO hard with this kid, and it felt like a slap in the face.

Awe nap time should not be this hard for you! I do not make the transition from PNP to matts until the children are cooperative of staying on their matts for the whole time. Maybe switch the children that won't stay on their matts back to a PNP for a while? As far as children crying and screaming at nap time, maybe try fans? This will limit both the noise that gets transferred to the other children and the noise you will be hearing yourself.

On another note that dad was just plain ignornant and disrespectful to you I would be livid if one of my daycare parents did that to me!

Good Luck!

[Country Kids]

Please don't take this wrong but maybe he really doesn't like daycare! Maybe he just wants to be with mommy and daddy and has no way to vocalize it but to cry. He may not be a real social type of child and it is to overstimulating at daycare. I don't think the dad should have posted a picture but now you know that as soon as the little one left he quit crying and was fine.

Maybe try this child for another month and if things don't improve its time to move on.

[sahm2three]

Is it possible that Daddy's Little Angel was feeding off of your frustration yesterday?

I know that when I'm really frustrated, the kids seem to really act up for me.

I didn't really feel too frustrated yesterday. We had a couple kids out sick, so it was a lighter day, so I did just snuggle him more than I would have been able to otherwise. So no, don't think that was it at all. DCD has told me that he is very strict and that the screamer knows that his bad attitude won't fly with him. He will spank him if he starts at home. Ummmm, I can't and wouldn't spank someone elses child! So that doesn't help me at all. Ugh!

[sahm2three]

Please don't take this wrong but maybe he really doesn't like daycare! Maybe he just wants to be with mommy and daddy and has no way to vocalize it but to cry. He may not be a real social type of child and it is to overstimulating at daycare. I don't think the dad should have posted a picture but now you know that as soon as the little one left he quit crying and was fine.

Maybe try this child for another month and if things don't improve its time to move on.

He has been here for over a year now. He has always screamed. He was super colicky, and now just screams. He is the same way with his mom and grandma. Dad says he nips it in the bud so he doesn't do it with him. I told them them the same thing, maybe he doesn't like daycare, but he is this way at home to (as long as dad isn't there). Also, if I hold him and let him snuggle, he is happy. And in the early evening, after snack time, he is awesome and plays and is so much fun (because at this time, I am on the floor playing with the kids since there are only a few left). He says my name all the time at home I guess, and lunges at me when he comes in the door. So I don't necessarily think that he doesn't "like" daycare. He is finicky and very opinionated. We have been teaching all the kiddos sign language so that maybe he can communicate better. I don't know. I am at a loss. I have thought many times of terming them, but actually fear for him. I have a soft spot for him for sure.

[Country Kids]

Ok, we all know we can't spank but the dad seems to be the only one that has the child undercontrol. The child knows dad means business and doesn't do it with dad or even when dad is around. So, when he starts this up why not put him in a quiet time. Everytime he starts he is removed from the group and isn't allowed to play until he starts. He is working everyone in his life but dad. He knows that no one else is going to do anything to him but dad.

I have had some like that in childcare. They know we can't do anything like spanking (the ones that get it at home) so break loose at childcare. Mine all figured it out though when quiet time became longer and longer because they were so out of control even during that time. Mine have to stop crying, screaming, etc. and sit quietly for their time limit.

I have had more parents than not tell me they would write me a note for the state so that I would be able to spank. I tell them I can't nor won't spank someone elses child.

[cheerfuldom]

are you really paying for an assistant to be there to help with nap time? wouldn't it be better for everyone to not pay for an assistant and term this kid?

[christinaskids]

I have an autistic screamer and my own one year old son does it for attention. I put them in another room in the pnp and explain that we dont scream in the house, if they have to scream they come in here if they need to until they are done. My son rarely does it and the austistic kid almost stopped on his third day so it might be something to try. Once he figures he will get no attention, not even negative attention, then he will quickly stop.

[sahm2three]

are you really paying for an assistant to be there to help with nap time? wouldn't it be better for everyone to not pay for an assistant and term this kid?

No, I don't have an assistant for nap time, she is here all the time. It is my best friend. Works out very well.