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I have this child that every morning gets dropped off still in his PJ, and most of the time in a soaked, leaking diaper - he arrives at 6am; I wouldn't mind if it is once in a while, but now has become an habit - Mom works and lives 5 minutes from my house, and she always gets here on the very last minute, which makes me thing that she takes her time at home, then grab her son, the way he is, and drives over here. Last week I had to ask her to NOT drop off the kid on my couch if he is wet, since a few days prior he left a huge pee stain on our two weeks old love seat - I ALWAYS send home kids in a fresh diaper, and clean clothes... and I would appreciate the same from the parents - I don't know what to do, should I tell her to bring him already dressed for the day, or just leave it alone? The other kids that arrives just after him, are always cleaned, changed and ready to start the day...
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Last edited by Michael; 09-15-2011, 06:06 PM. -
Yes, I would tell the mom that the child needs to come dressed and ready for the day. There really is no reason for the soaking wet diaper unless they live like 4 hours away. -
I contract that item here. I would however bring it up to whoever drops off, hey I noticed that riahnnon is still in her overnight diaper and jams each morning, I can add that service into our contract if you want, I don't typically offer it because most parents do those things before dropping off. I see that you are really busy in the mornings though so if you are interested it will be an additional $10.00 per day to get her dressed, changed and hair brushed for the day. Would you like to include this service to our contract?Comment
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See above.
Perfect solution. Once you attach a fee then you will know if she needs it or not.
It's important to be specific because she will start doing PART of it.. like change her diaper but quickly it will be "she wouldn't let me do it"... "she was dry when we left"... "she pooped on the way over"... "I changed her but she spilled X on it so this was the only outfit I had that wasn't in the laundry"...
If she can say words to you that cover the behavior and is free then she will try that and it will come in portions of what you are asking.
Be clear that it's one way or the other... she comes COMPLETELY ready for child care for no additional cost or you she can toss her in the car and bring her in the way she has for ten dollars a day.Comment
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Tell DCM that baby needs to be ready for the day at drop off.
If you aren't comfortable adding a fee to it, just turn her away at the door tomorrow when she arrives in pj's and a soaked diaper.
Either answer will have the same end result.
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I had a mom try to pull this one on me before as well. Luckly I had it in my contract that the child has to be fully dressed and a clean diaper upon arrival. The first morning I let it go because I figured the mom had to rush but I did comment that they were prob in a hurry that morning. When it happened again the next morning, I put a stop to it by pointing it out in my contract. It never has happened again. I could see a newborn arriving in clean jammies but not a two year old!!!Comment
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OHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH that used to happen to me EVERY SINGLE morning with one of my DC kids!!! Soaking wet diaper, PJ's and a filthy dirty face from his breakfast he was eating on the way to my house....which was either sticky waffles or chocolate doughnuts (yes, eating on the way here in the car..........don't ask my what the car looked like.....i went out one day to look and it wasn't pretty).........After asking nicely in a 'round about way several times over weeks...... I finally had to get a stern. It was back when I was taking my youngest to school.....this DC boy would get dropped off right when I was loading the kids.....so I told the father that I realize he doesn't care if his car is messy, but I do. I had just purchased a brand new Yukon and I told him that I did not want sticky fingers or wet diapers in my new vehicle, and that I did not have time to change him or wash him before loading him so PLEASE feed him BEFORE he leaving the house and PLEASE change his diaper. To have him ready for the day. Get up 10 minutes early or something.......well, I had to remind him only twice after that and I made sure he knew I was NOT happy about it............ oh, and this boy, would wear the same clothes day after day..he'd sleep in them at night.....and their 'bath' was a dunk in the community pool at their complex.......
Last edited by Michael; 09-15-2011, 06:08 PM.Comment
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Thanks ladies
I'm going to tell her today, and I've already made a note to give out to the parents as a reminder -
this kids is also sometimes wearing the same clothes from the day before - and I don't think he gets a bath everyday either - I can tell by the greasiness of his long, curly, uncomber hairComment
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That's just so sad. what kind of parent does not care enough to give their kid a bath, diaper change and clean set of clothing?!?! I just don't understand that at all. At this point, they aren't even doing the basics for this child. why do we have to be put in the position to police parents? Is it not common sense that kids needs baths??Last edited by Michael; 09-15-2011, 06:08 PM.Comment
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Oh wow! It must be contagious!
I have it in my contract that kids must come in a clean diaper.
Mother of 6 (yes THAT one) drops kids off at 6:45 this morning. They run into the playroom, get their blankets and lie down until 7:15. When they get up, I notice clumps of diaper and THOUSANDS of those gel beads that are inside the diapers all over the floor. It's the three year old. I can't be sure...but I think it's the diaper I sent him home in as it literally was falling apart as he walked. Older kids tell me "mom was busy" this morning and didn't have time to change him.
Sooooooo, my darling hubby comes over and steam cleans the carpet for me this morning. The kids can't play in there now until it's dry.
I will be talking to the mom tonight.
I am going to tell her that if it happens again, I will report it as neglect. I would not have DREAMED of taking my kids to someone else's home with a filthy diaper and I am really offended (although not surprised) that she thought it was OK to do it to me.
I don't care if she has 6 kids. NOBODY is so busy that they CANT change the kid. He should already be potty trained...but that's another story too......Comment
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I could see asking for the diaper to be changed, maybe. I guess I'm too easy? I don't mind at all to dress them. I have fixed one of my girls' hair for the 2 years I've had her b/c Dad brought her really early and she'd come in and sleep. I feel like its part of the luxury of a child care home. They can come in PJs and go back to sleep! Heck, my own daughter likes to wear pajamas all day some days. I'm cool with it! Lol! I used to be a mom who worked out of the home and mornings ****ed!!
So, I'm more than happy to take up some slack for my parents. Buuuut, if you aren't comfortable with it, then saying something is a good move b/c otherwise you'll just end up resentful and that's never good!
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I look at it the opposite of you. People who work early hours have the same 24 hours a day that everyone else has.I could see asking for the diaper to be changed, maybe. I guess I'm too easy? I don't mind at all to dress them. I have fixed one of my girls' hair for the 2 years I've had her b/c Dad brought her really early and she'd come in and sleep. I feel like its part of the luxury of a child care home. They can come in PJs and go back to sleep! Heck, my own daughter likes to wear pajamas all day some days. I'm cool with it! Lol! I used to be a mom who worked out of the home and mornings ****ed!! So, I'm more than happy to take up some slack for my parents. Buuuut, if you aren't comfortable with it, then saying something is a good move b/c otherwise you'll just end up resentful and that's never good!
I WANT the kid to spend time with the parent in the morning. I don't have ANY problem putting them back to bed when they arrive whether they have been up at home in the morning or not.
I want them to be dressed by their Mommy and Daddy and have their hair done, clothes changed, teeth brushed. I think it's SO important that each kid have TIME with their parents before child care. It doesn't matter what shift they are on or their hours. Kids don't care about that or even get that. Whether it's five a.m. or nine a.m. ... same to the kid.Comment
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If you are going to change the diaper, why cant you just change the clothes too! (the parent I mean) I am ashamed and almost mortified when a parent picks up their child and they are wet or the other, I want the same for when they drop off. I cant stand it when they say oh, they wet in the car and hand them to me. I of course take them when it rarely happens, but if it were me dropping off, I would change my kid myself. but then thats just me!Comment
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Feelin' lazy and not attaching quotes to things,
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I agree that diapers should at least be changed prior to arrival. I prefer fully dressed for the day (newborns are the exception) but if they come in jammies, meh, whatever--I agree with blessedmess on this one.
Meeko, you might want to make a mark on the last diaper of the day from now on--so you at least know if the child arrives back to you in the same diaper they left in. That's gross...Hee hee! Look, I have a signature!Comment
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I had this same problem! I finally had to be blunt with her. She still claimed she changed the diaper before they left but it is impossible for a 2 yr old to create 2 lbs of urine in his bladder in a 10 minute drive!
I put it in my newsletter and my handbook!
Please send your child clean and dressed for the day, including a fresh diaper!! If a child arrives in a wet diaper you will be asked to change them before you leave.Comment
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