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I beg of the parents of this generation. Tell your child no just once in awhile. I have 1 mom in particular. I mean they're all bad, but this one in particular constantly tells me how he won't lay still for diaper changes, won't keep his clothes on, won't put his shoes or coat on etc. I have none of those problems with him, none! She comes in today with a pair of shoes on him and another pair in her hand (ones I dislike). I think great a new pair!! Oh no, she takes the ones off his feet and says she's taking those home, those are his new dress shoes. They're little tennis shoes with velcro. I said why did you put them on him then? Oh it was easier than the fit he was throwing because he wanted to wear them. Then she tells me how he's sleeping with all of his books now because it's "easier" than fighting with him. He's 22 months old. I said ya better get a handle on it because when he's 3, you're going to be in big trouble. Every single thing he wants to do, he does it because he squaks at her and she just give it to him. He's typically an angel here, but yesterday he grabbed another little girl by the shirt and pushed her out of the playhouse. He got in huge trouble with me for that. This is what happens when you don't discipline your kid! How to get through to these people that just because they cry, you cannot give in to them!
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And I just had to get after him because he knocked down a big tower one of my dcg's was building with magna tiles. 15 minute hysteria. OMG someone told me no! -
I am astounded at how many parents are outright terrified of their child. These little people clearly run the show when with parents.
It's definitely not all parents but a good portion of them for sure.
And oddly, it's not really the types I figured would be that way. Teachers, parents in the medical field, social workers or those in counseling or therapy fields....
One would think those parents would know better.
Some of the 'best' parents I have came from or are in family situations that were/are less than ideal.Comment
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I agree, isn't that something? Makes you wonder the psychology of it.
I just had my 3 1/2 yr old dcg carried in (again) by mom. She constantly has to have something with her that I promptly give back to mom. Today it was 2 jelly beans. I was pissed. She had them clenched in her hand. I said what do you have? Mom kinda chuckles and says 2 jelly beans. In a not so nice voice, I said you need to get rid of those, those cannot come in here. The baby will get them and choke. She stuck them in her mouth and ate them. I mean stop treating her like a baby. Carrying her in, letting her have whatever she wants to bring in with no regard to the safety of other kids. She only comes one a week and is done in 2 weeks, thankfully.Comment
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I definitely know what you're talking about! I hear the "he/she wouldn't let me..." a lot.
A couple weeks ago, dcb was throwing a tantrum and was hitting his mom in the face and pulling her hair. She literally just laughed and did nothing.
I was speechless. I know it can be awkward to discipline your child in front of somebody, but come on. :confused:Comment
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What many of those parents don't seem to realise, is that in the end, children actually do want to be disciplined. As they grow up, they realise that shows that the parents loved them and cared about them.Children are little angels, even when they are little devils.
They are also our future.Comment
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I have one right now who takes the phrase "You have to choose your battles" to the extreme. As in "I choose no battles at all." It's ridiculous.Comment
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Oh my gosh that is a big one for me. I have a family member that I heard this constantly when our kids were growing up. Pick your battles pick your battles. Well, her one child is repeating a grade in high school and the other finished high school but works for a bit over minimum wage and smokes pot like it's going out of style. Yup, how did that work out for herComment
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I have parents right now that have just one kid, 18 months. She is here full time unnecessarily. These parents don't want anything to do with parenting(both 40's). With them, it's all about who can get away or out of the house without their kid. They don't have a clue how to parent either. They let the kid do whatever she wants and at 18 months old she knows how to misbehave and get herway. She does not misbehave here. I keep her in line and she genuinely loves it here. This is just me venting but if these parents did not want the responsibility of parenting then why did they have a child? I feel bad for this kid and I completely resent her parents.Comment
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None of my parents can handle being told no so I absolutely understand why they can't with their kids. Many in this generation of parents weren't raised with no in their vocabulary either. Had one today who literally pouted then fought with me when I told her dcb couldn't come back tomorrow after having a 101 fever from... You guessed it...teething. Worse than a toddler.Comment
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YES!!!! First thing we learned in ECE 101 was that having boundaries and rules helps a child feel secure and safe because they are able to predict what happens next.
Every time a parent says to me "Wow, they are so good for you" or some comment in reference to how well behaved the kids are for me...I always respond with "Yes they are and it's because I am not afraid to set boundaries and use the word no."Comment
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Parenting classes should be mandatory, especially behaviour management. You can discipline your child, be assertive and still have a loving, mutually respectful relationship.Comment
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So true! When the kids know that there’s a trusted adult in charge they can feel safe, because there’s a good person who knows about stuff telling them what is okay for them and what is not.
Without a doubt, being firm with kids about the stuff that really matters IMPROVES my relationship with them, not hurts it.Comment
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