Potty Training

[Janiejo]

I have a 4 year old son who is STILL potty training. He is speech delayed so has a hard time communicating. I can't seem to get on the same page with my DCP. I want him to take potty breaks every 45 minutes or so at home. When he does, he usually stays dry (poop is a different story but each day I pick him up his pull up is wet and I am told he didn't try to potty at all! WWYD? He loves his teachers and classmates so I hate to move him.

[Leigh]

It's not reasonable to expect your provider to put your son on the potty every 45 minutes. It just isn't possible when he or she has other kids to care for. If he can't recognize and verbalize the need to eliminate (and hold it until he gets to a toilet), he just isn't ready to potty train...he's staying dry at home only because you're putting him on the toilet constantly-that's not potty trained, that's mommy trained.

[Blackcat31]

Putting a child on the potty on timed intervals is not training the child.

The child must be able to recognize BEFORE he needs to go, that he needs to go.

I could put my infant on the toilet every 45 minutes and would be able to expect some amount of success too.

[TickleMonster]

There are a few unanswered questions here. What type of setting is your child in? Center or home care? If it is home care, is the group small? I notice you say teachers so I am assuming there is more then one provider. Here, I have a small group and also have a helper so it is easier for me to get a child to the bathroom frequently when they are potty training. You just need to talk to your provider. If they are unable to meet what you feel needs to be done, best to find someone else. Im sure your provider is doing the best they can and keep in mind that not everyones methods are the same.

[Unregistered]

Perhaps nanny care at home would be a better fit for your family.

[cheerfuldom]

i agree that your expectations are unreasonable. If your child is not communicating the need to go, he isn't potty trained. If he is unable to communicate the need to go at all, he isnt ready to potty train at this time.

I would ask the school what their potty training policy is.....most places will have guidelines of what they can and cannot provide. I would recommend you help your child learn in a way that will be supported at daycare versus expecting them to accommodate you. It is extremely rare that you will find any home or center willing to have a child try every 45 minutes and he clearly needs assistance as well (versus just telling him to go try on his own as a reminder). It is also possible that he is holding it all day and resistant to training at daycare, A LOT of kids are like that. They just dont feel comfortable eliminating anywhere else. I think you need to ask more questions (in a non threatening way) and tailor what you are doing at home. If he needs to try every 45 minutes, round the clock, then he probably doesnt have the control yet to actually be trained fully.