Found Baby In Swing With Propped Up Bottle

[Familycare71]

Either you feel your child was in danger or you don't.

If you take him back, then report them for neglect/endangerment is that not neglectful endangerment by you? It has to work both ways.

***If you trust them to make the correct changes and take him back next week, then it would be wrong of you to report them. Period.

Surely you can see that.

Agree 100%!

[Cradle2crayons]

Agree 100%!

I absolutely agree 100% . While I was encouraging pulling and reporting.... In no way would I encourage taking them back to that provider. I agree if you do so, you lose all credibility.

If you report and tell DHS at you sent your child back they are going to laugh you off the phone. And they should.

[redvispa]

Re:

Thankfully, we have found a family member who will be able to watch him this week so we'll be able to pull him out immediately until we find an alternative.

And to clarify , I never stated above I was planning to report them to DHS. This was suggested by others. I was seeking advice about whether to take the Director at her word and expect changes or to pull him out. But, again, thanks for the advice.

[Familycare71]

Thankfully, we have found a family member who will be able to watch him this week so we'll be able to pull him out immediately until we find an alternative.

And to clarify , I never stated above I was planning to report them to DHS. This was suggested by others. I was seeking advice about whether to take the Director at her word and expect changes or to pull him out. But, again, thanks for the advice.

Just to clarify to me it doesn't matter if you reported or not- if you don't feel he is 100% safe he shouldn't go back.
I am glad you found an alternative. I hope you find the right provider for your family!

[TwinKristi]

If it were me, I'd report them to licensing. Mainly because the rules are no propping for a reason. And like I said before, if they are breaking that rule, what else are they breaking?

This!!

Thankfully, we have found a family member who will be able to watch him this week so we'll be able to pull him out immediately until we find an alternative.

And to clarify , I never stated above I was planning to report them to DHS. This was suggested by others. I was seeking advice about whether to take the Director at her word and expect changes or to pull him out. But, again, thanks for the advice.

Even though you didn't suggest reporting to licensing, you should! And if they have a Yelp page or any other online review page I would let people know! That's not ok. I'm glad you were able to find someone else until the new place can take your baby, I was nervous just thinking of you having to send your baby back! But this is definitely something report-worthy. I cannot even imagine how livid I would be if there were several people there, every other baby was being held and fed but MINE! Regardless of what the director said, they also told you that to begin with, it should have never happened period!

[Unregistered]

Many do this

I wish more parents were educated on this. Most of the parents I've had over the years prop the bottle, especially 5 months and up. I would guess many providers do also. And...

I am curious if other providers have noticed this from their parents. And did this parent specifically tell this center not to do that before enrollment?

I wouldn't report them, BUT I would have been curious if this has been a practice and would have explained the dangers. For any infant I would find someone with very few kids, and only one infant at a given time. Myself I only take one infant because they require so much more attention.

[Brooksie]

If it were me, I'd report them to licensing. Mainly because the rules are no propping for a reason. And like I said before, if they are breaking that rule, what else are they breaking?

[Unregistered]

Since it's a center they are not training their staff or watching them closely. Why wasn't it caught by the other daycare worker in the room?

I think the parent was smart in pulling the child out, but you would be surprised at how many people do this.

[Unregistered]

You write that the other workers were busy with other babies.

"One of the caregivers was sitting near him feeding another baby and the other caregiver was taking care of the other infants."

You should read the daycare book about what really goes on in daycare, Doing Time. It explains why things like this happen. Not because your center is bad or because the workers are bad but because there are so many babies and only 2-3 workers. Babies eat all the time. Do the math and bottle propping becomes the norm in daycare. It is bad but it is the truth.