Early Drop Off Question

[Unregistered]

I do not think she needs to ASK you to change the afterschool arrangements.

She told you in June the change that will be happening in the fall. That gives you all summer to either agree or find other care.

I disagree. We signed our new contract already in January and it's supposed to go for 1 year.
Since this is a safety matter, I think she should have asked if I were ok with this rather than basically tell me I would have to be ok with it. It's not like she's changing her hours, she's changing the whole after school arrangement.

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

I would LOVE to have a client like you. I do have one very similar and I treasure that Mom. Best of luck!

[itlw8]

I disagree. We signed our new contract already in January and it's supposed to go for 1 year.
Since this is a safety matter, I think she should have asked if I were ok with this rather than basically tell me I would have to be ok with it. It's not like she's changing her hours, she's changing the whole after school arrangement.

Unfortunately things change. we can not predict the future. You had a contract and can cancel with notice at any time. You do not have to stay for the year.

You did not say if she told you WHY she needed to make the change but the point is she needed to make a change. Asking your permission served no purpose. This is why she told you now she needed to change the plan. She gave plenty of notice of the change.

It will not work for you so you have time to find after school care in the fall.

[JoseyJo]

Personally as a DCP I would not break my own contract. (It would be breaking the contract to have the children walk home from school when contract specifically says they would be picked up) I would ASK the parent if we could modify the contact and if we could not then I would give 2 weeks notice as required in my contract.

I also think it is INCREDIBLY rude and unprofessional to yell at, raise voice to , or demean a parent or their children- for any reason. It definitely sounds like there was pre-existing problem of some kind w/ early drop offs, knocking or something, but that is NO reason to be rude! How about "Hey guys! I'm glad you guys are so excited to come in but remember, we don't ring the door bell because it wakes everyone up!" or coming to the door and whispering "Shhh, remember! don't ring the door bell, everyone is sleeping!" or "Oh no! you rang the doorbell again and now baby is going to be grouchy and cry! That is very sad since I had something awesome planned for us to do while she slept! Go ahead and come in and get a coloring book, I have to get everyone settled down before we can do something fun."

As many problems as we have with some parents it seems to me that we are giving this parent a pretty hard time for what seems like a pretty little mistake (if the issue is 10 min early d/o or loud knocking).

[Play Care]

Personally as a DCP I would not break my own contract. (It would be breaking the contract to have the children walk home from school when contract specifically says they would be picked up) I would ASK the parent if we could modify the contact and if we could not then I would give 2 weeks notice as required in my contract.

I also think it is INCREDIBLY rude and unprofessional to yell at, raise voice to , or demean a parent or their children- for any reason. It definitely sounds like there was pre-existing problem of some kind w/ early drop offs, knocking or something, but that is NO reason to be rude! How about "Hey guys! I'm glad you guys are so excited to come in but remember, we don't ring the door bell because it wakes everyone up!" or coming to the door and whispering "Shhh, remember! don't ring the door bell, everyone is sleeping!" or "Oh no! you rang the doorbell again and now baby is going to be grouchy and cry! That is very sad since I had something awesome planned for us to do while she slept! Go ahead and come in and get a coloring book, I have to get everyone settled down before we can do something fun."

As many problems as we have with some parents it seems to me that we are giving this parent a pretty hard time for what seems like a pretty little mistake (if the issue is 10 min early d/o or loud knocking).

I don't think I was giving the parent a "hard time" simply pointing out that it seemed odd that the provider had always been okay with the early arrival and then for some reason, that day, she was not. Then it comes out that the kids may have knocked on the door. Now, were they just knocking or banging? I don't know. It sounds as if there were many issues with this provider and the family need a provider that can meet their needs.