So Tired Of Parents

[lovemykidstoo]

I seriously have about had it with a couple of my parents. The one comes in this morning with his twin girls (4 yrs old) and one of them has a poptart. While the other 4 kids sit and stare at her. I asked dad if he had enough for all of them. DUH! That went in the garbage.

Second mom comes in and ALWAYS picks up between 4 -4:30. She says that her husband is picking up today (he has never picked up in a year) and that he would be "later". I said, ahhhh how much late? She said oh about 5:00. Ahhh nope, because I need to be out of here no later than 5:00 because I have my sons track meet. She says oh you didn't tell me. That's because you're always gone by 4-4:30 and YOU didn't tell me that you needed extra time today. Oh hubby is getting his haircut at 4:30, she says oh I guess he could take dcb with him to get haircut. Why can't people handle taking their kids anywhere? Drives me nuts. Not to mention that if he's getting his haircut at 4:30, there is no way he'll be here by 5:00.

[momofboys]

I seriously have about had it with a couple of my parents. The one comes in this morning with his twin girls (4 yrs old) and one of them has a poptart. While the other 4 kids sit and stare at her. I asked dad if he had enough for all of them. DUH! That went in the garbage.

Second mom comes in and ALWAYS picks up between 4 -4:30. She says that her husband is picking up today (he has never picked up in a year) and that he would be "later". I said, ahhhh how much late? She said oh about 5:00. Ahhh nope, because I need to be out of here no later than 5:00 because I have my sons track meet. She says oh you didn't tell me. That's because you're always gone by 4-4:30 and YOU didn't tell me that you needed extra time today. Oh hubby is getting his haircut at 4:30, she says oh I guess he could take dcb with him to get haircut. Why can't people handle taking their kids anywhere? Drives me nuts. Not to mention that if he's getting his haircut at 4:30, there is no way he'll be here by 5:00.

LOL! Guess what? I am getting my hair cut next week & am taking all 3 of my kids with me! Good for standing your ground!

[sharlan]

When I worked and had 3 kids in daycare (3, 3, 5), I never stopped from the minute I left work until I got to the provider's house.

I felt that my kids had been stuck at the provider's house all day and would enjoy stopping at the store, beauty shop, post office, or wherever I had to go.

I'll be going to get my haircut today and taking all of my daycare kids with me (18 mos, 3 1/2, 5, 6, 7, 10).

[lovemykidstoo]

I know, that's what drives me nuts. Noone can do anything with their kids in tow. They always have to have someone else take care of them while they do anything. Back when my son was under a year old, I would put him in his exersaucer and put him in the front door while I shoveled the snow from the sidewalk. I could see him the entire time and he watched me. These people can't take a shower without grandma watching him. Then she gets all pissy with me because daddy has to get his haircut because she wants to extend her time by 1/2 hour today. Too bad!!! She didn't even ask me if it was okay either whiched pieved me off. She called a little bit ago and said that he would pick him up by at 4:30. Thought he had a haircut appt at 4:30. Hmmm.

[melilley]

So true! I could go on and on with stories! When I worked in a center, many of the parents would come in in their pj's and actually tell me that they were going to go home to get ready for work! It blew my mind! What do these people do on the weekends? Never leave the house? Or some had infants and would go grocery shopping before picking them up. Infants, who sit in a car seat! I had one parent who had every Friday off and EVERY Friday his children were at the center! I can see every once in a while doing this, but it happened all the time and it seemed to be the same families!

[lovemykidstoo]

So true! I could go on and on with stories! When I worked in a center, many of the parents would come in in their pj's and actually tell me that they were going to go home to get ready for work! It blew my mind! What do these people do on the weekends? Never leave the house? Or some had infants and would go grocery shopping before picking them up. Infants, who sit in a car seat! I had one parent who had every Friday off and EVERY Friday his children were at the center! I can see every once in a while doing this, but it happened all the time and it seemed to be the same families!

One of my dcf's do this now. Dad drops off in the morning and comes in his sweatpants and says he goes back home to get ready. Also the thing with him is, I live between their house and his work, so he has to drop him off, go back and get ready for work and then go past my house again for work. Seems like alot of work to me. The child is 2 and is one of my best kids too.

[melilley]

I had an interview last month with a young couple who were expecting and need care in October. Somehow the subject came up of people leaving their kids at daycare when they had days off. I'm not sure who brought it up but, their expressions looked like they didn't agree with that so I said to them that you wouldn't think that many parents do that, but they do. And then they said "we would never do that......yeah right" and laughed! I don't think they understood what I was saying. I also think that they were overwhelmed with the thought of actually having a baby, not just being pregnant and were nervous. It was kind of cute because they were younger and I remember being nervous with my first child, but if for some reason I have an opening then that they won't actually do that too often!

[Unregistered]

I remember years ago I was taking care of a little girl around 3 years old,plus had another daycare child at 2 yrs old,plus my own 2, who were 5 & 3 at the time and the Mom of the 3 yr old girl had the day off and I still had her daughter that day because she said she could not do her shopping if she had to take care her daughter with.......But I also had to run a errand that day with all of my kids, so I took them with and as I was coming into the target store,kids in toe, here comes the Mom out of the store and all she said was Hi, see you later to her daughter. Now if I could take her child plus all the rest with me as I ran my errand, wouldn't you think that she should have been embarrassed that she couldn't even take her own child with her, but the daycare lady did it with her daughter plus the rest? NO! She came to pick her up, a little late that day even and said nothing about see us.
Now that takes the cake,wouldn't you say!

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

So true! I could go on and on with stories! When I worked in a center, many of the parents would come in in their pj's and actually tell me that they were going to go home to get ready for work! It blew my mind! What do these people do on the weekends? Never leave the house? Or some had infants and would go grocery shopping before picking them up. Infants, who sit in a car seat! I had one parent who had every Friday off and EVERY Friday his children were at the center! I can see every once in a while doing this, but it happened all the time and it seemed to be the same families!

I have a family that began here with their children attending 3-4 days per week because that is how many days per week they work. Now, the children attend 5 days per week from the minute I open until the minute I close (or, sometimes after I close and then they get mad when they are charged a late fee which has never changed).

I actually had one family sign on knowing what the extended hours rate was only to make a fuss about it. It wasn't that they actually NEEDED that extra hour. Mom just wanted it to go grocery shopping, get her nails done, get a tattoo, etc. All of which happened during the 1 month those children were enrolled and they were paying that extra hour fee until they realized I wasn't going to stop charging them for it no matter how much they tried to negotiate the extra hour for free. Seriously.

[dave4him]

I do everything with either four or five kids! It gets interesting.

[Leigh]

So, I DO wonder how people manage to get their hair cut with say, a 14 month old along...what do you do with your child while you are getting your hair washed? Who is watching your child while your hair is being cut? I don't LIKE watching kids when I could be getting paid to have their parents take care of them, either (really, I would prefer that parents always picked up as soon as they get off work, too!), but more than I hate that, I hate parents who bring their kids to hair salons and other such places and let their kids run around while they have their services performed. Granted, daycare moms usually have the best behaved kids, but still-I would have a hard time believing that anyone could just park their 13, 14, 15 month old on a chair in the waiting room and have them stay there behaving.

Sometimes parents have things to do that are difficult or impossible to do with kids around (sometimes they WANT to do things with no kids around). I understand that. I have a full time kid this week whose mom just lost her job. She told me that she had lots to do at home and asked if I could keep her until she gets caught up.

I think that many of us either don't know or forgot how hard it is to work full time away from home and parent a kid under 5. It's HARD. It's exhausting. Doing daycare, I have VERY little time to attend to my own home, but somehow, I manage to get a load of laundry done here and there, get dinner made before 5PM, etc. Evenings are just for me and my little guy-mom's who work away from home have to squeeze in a day's housework, grocery shopping, doctor's appointments, baths, reading to kids, etc. in just a few hours. I feel for them. As much as I wish they would pick up their kids any chance they have, I understand why they don't...and they are probably able to BETTER care for their kids for the little bit of extra time they have to get things done.

I don't believe they leave their kids with us out of neglect, but out of necessity. And I am GLAD I am not in their shoes.

[daycare]

There are people like us who can handle almost anything and everything to do with kids and there are people who cant.

I don't get upset at the parents who cant do it and don't care that they do things outside of work while their kids are here. as long as they are either on time, or paying me extra then they can do as they please.

I have my fair share of wanting to just bang my head on the wall when it comes to dealing with some of the parents, but I always find some way to come around and cope. It does take me a few days sometimes, but for the most part, I can share your pain.

[sally]

I remember years ago I was taking care of a little girl around 3 years old,plus had another daycare child at 2 yrs old,plus my own 2, who were 5 & 3 at the time and the Mom of the 3 yr old girl had the day off and I still had her daughter that day because she said she could not do her shopping if she had to take care her daughter with.......But I also had to run a errand that day with all of my kids, so I took them with and as I was coming into the target store,kids in toe, here comes the Mom out of the store and all she said was Hi, see you later to her daughter. Now if I could take her child plus all the rest with me as I ran my errand, wouldn't you think that she should have been embarrassed that she couldn't even take her own child with her, but the daycare lady did it with her daughter plus the rest? NO! She came to pick her up, a little late that day even and said nothing about see us.
Now that takes the cake,wouldn't you say!

I have a dcm who cannot control her kids and brings them to me whenever they have any kind of appointment or shopping. She has a 5 yr old and a 2.5 year old. I have a 6 yr old and a 15 month old and i take all the kids out to run errands or if my kids have appointments or activities when they are with me. She has told me she can't control her own kids let alone more kids. I have no problems making them all behave

[MyAngels]

I worked when my 3 kids were little, and while I normally took them with me on errands, I did not take them for things like haircuts or doctor appointments. My kids were great, well-behaved kids, but I think it's too much to expect them to sit nicely for things like that and I never wanted them to be a burden on others.

As far as the PP's situation, that was crappy of the parent to expect that you would stay late without prior approval. Dad should have just taken off work a little early or something.

[Kaddidle Care]

I'm curious as to whether DCD actually picked up on time.