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Hi all,
I wanted to get some opinions on a situation.
First, I am a very laid-back parent. I believe in spanking for big offenses but picking battles for small things. I usually do not make a huge deal about things.
My kids have been going to a daycare provider the last 2 years, part-time (just after school a couple days per week).
They have never really liked her, but I picked her BECAUSE she rules with a somewhat strong hand and know that this is what my kids need.
The first year has been great, no complaints. This year, things seem to have changed.
The provider's husband sometimes works at home. He seems like he's been a little uppity lately or on edge. I'm not sure exactly what is going on, but I have seen him snap at his child in front of mine and even at his wife. He's not quiet about it either, anyone in that house could hear.
I had them come to my house one day to help me with something, and my daughter was singing. She is who she is. It didn't bug me too much but the father yelled at her to stop. I just kind of looked at him and my dd left the room upset. Mind you, this was in MY house.
I got the impression maybe we should not have this person help us after all because he overreacted to us not being experienced in the project we were asking for as well as he seemed unconfident HE could even handle it, so I cancelled my request.
Over the weeks SINCE I have cancelled my request, I notice him getting more verbally abusive toward his wife and daughter. And I have noticed the provider getting more upset about little things. My dd forgets things sometimes, and happened to forget her eyewear the other day. The dcp flipped out about it and punished her. My dd is just 6 yo. I feel bad because hey, that's a tiny little thing. My dd can function W/O the glasses. Is it advised she do? NO but forgetting happens. We do try to remind her, but sometimes, she still forgets.
So my dd was placed away from the other kids and had to be in time out all day. (A little extreme for this offense, IMO)
Additionally, my kids told me that the husband freaked out and picked up and threw, hard, his son against the wall to the point the child was hurt pretty bad, which I could see when I went to get my kids, something was off.
My kids are now freaked out. As many spankings and crazy they have witnessed, they said they 've never seen anyone do what he did. They told me his eyes were angry and he just flipped!
My kids are requesting we find another daycare.
Is it my business how they discipline their kids since they did it in FRONT of my children or is that separate? WWYD? Take them out and find new care?
Any help is greatly appreciated! Thanks!
I wanted to get some opinions on a situation.
First, I am a very laid-back parent. I believe in spanking for big offenses but picking battles for small things. I usually do not make a huge deal about things.
My kids have been going to a daycare provider the last 2 years, part-time (just after school a couple days per week).
They have never really liked her, but I picked her BECAUSE she rules with a somewhat strong hand and know that this is what my kids need.
The first year has been great, no complaints. This year, things seem to have changed.
The provider's husband sometimes works at home. He seems like he's been a little uppity lately or on edge. I'm not sure exactly what is going on, but I have seen him snap at his child in front of mine and even at his wife. He's not quiet about it either, anyone in that house could hear.
I had them come to my house one day to help me with something, and my daughter was singing. She is who she is. It didn't bug me too much but the father yelled at her to stop. I just kind of looked at him and my dd left the room upset. Mind you, this was in MY house.
I got the impression maybe we should not have this person help us after all because he overreacted to us not being experienced in the project we were asking for as well as he seemed unconfident HE could even handle it, so I cancelled my request.
Over the weeks SINCE I have cancelled my request, I notice him getting more verbally abusive toward his wife and daughter. And I have noticed the provider getting more upset about little things. My dd forgets things sometimes, and happened to forget her eyewear the other day. The dcp flipped out about it and punished her. My dd is just 6 yo. I feel bad because hey, that's a tiny little thing. My dd can function W/O the glasses. Is it advised she do? NO but forgetting happens. We do try to remind her, but sometimes, she still forgets.
So my dd was placed away from the other kids and had to be in time out all day. (A little extreme for this offense, IMO)
Additionally, my kids told me that the husband freaked out and picked up and threw, hard, his son against the wall to the point the child was hurt pretty bad, which I could see when I went to get my kids, something was off.
My kids are now freaked out. As many spankings and crazy they have witnessed, they said they 've never seen anyone do what he did. They told me his eyes were angry and he just flipped!
My kids are requesting we find another daycare.
Is it my business how they discipline their kids since they did it in FRONT of my children or is that separate? WWYD? Take them out and find new care?
Any help is greatly appreciated! Thanks!
: will wait
Since I have taken this week off due to this, I don't have to worry about this week, but next week I do have to pay the new provider. If you were in my position, would you just let her keep the money to be done w/ her family?
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