Need a Second Opinion

[youretooloud]

I still think she served him lunch. You might not think he eats it, but he might be eating it anyway. Peer pressure is a magical thing.

I have parents who come in and SWEAR their child can't/won't do XYZ, but the child does it with no problem at all. I have parents who say "Oh, he can't put his own shoes on", but that same kids does his or her own shoes every day...several times.

I had a lady tell me that her son only eats mac n cheese. Yet, for me that was the ONE food he refused to eat. He ate other foods like he was a football player.

I STILL think she should have served him what you brought. If you took the time to fix him a lunch, that lunch should have been served to him. If the lunch you brought is not healthy in any way, then she should have told you "I can't feed him this, but I will continue to try to feed him other things".

By 21 months, he should be sitting at a table, eating and socializing. Kids tend to eat when others are eating the same thing, and when an adult isn't trying to cajole them.

[TheGoodLife]

As a mom, my now 3 year old wouldn't eat much, if anything at all, for us at home- my DC provider at the time always told me she ate it all (or most) at DC. Kids will be different at daycare than they are at home. Hopefully yours was doing that, I just think it's strange that your provider didn't tell you he/she was eating her regular food.

[lovemykidstoo]

My 23 mo old has developmental delays and also will only eat the same things over and if you try feeding him anything else he throws up. so when I found an in home daycare provider the main issue I stressed from the getgo was the need of text updates throughout the day to make sure my child was ok. She agreed and after a month she started getting irritated by the updates which were about 3 a day and one day she just decided I would only get 1 update a day whenever she felt she had time. I was not okay with it and I let her know also at that point I questioned this form she made me fill out where it said she was feeding my child so that she could get a credit from the government; so what does she do she doesn’t feed my child any of the only food he will eat and wrote down in a paper all the things my child ate which at that point I knew it was bogus and she was completely lying and only did it because I questioned that letter. At that time I decided to not take my child the next day since she had broken our agreement to the updates and because my child was not fed. She is now taking me to small claims to get her 2 weeks back that she had me sign in a contract and says since our "agreement" of updated was not in the contract is no valid. I tried having good faith and never ever thought something like that had to be put into contract...Any advice??:confused:

I have a few things that I'm curious about. When you say that your child has developmental delays, what exactly are you talking of? Did you ask your provider what your child was eating? I really hope that she's feeding him. I also have had children in my care that will only eat cereal for dinner, but eats here like a champ. I've actually had that happen plenty of times. When they're around other kids, they tend to follow the group so it is possible that he is eating what the other kids are. Kids know how to play their parents. They are really good at it I have one now that doesn't need his pacifier here all day, but absolutely throw a fit at home about it, so they give it to him. Just an example. Also, what kind of updates are you looking for throughout the day? What info do you need? Like how he's playing, eating, sleeping or something different? I'm sorry you feel like you're not getting what you need. It is hard to leave your child in daycare when you're not comfortable. Have you discussed any of this with your provider?

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

As a mom, my now 3 year old wouldn't eat much, if anything at all, for us at home- my DC provider at the time always told me she ate it all (or most) at DC. Kids will be different at daycare than they are at home. Hopefully yours was doing that, I just think it's strange that your provider didn't tell you he/she was eating her regular food.

I hear this all the time from many of my families. They all eat their vegetables, fruits, meat (or meat substitute), and grain here. I rarely see even 1 piece of the meal left on their plates. ::
I'm also told how the children behave at home and I am often times shocked! I tell the parents I have a totally different child here at daycare.

[itlw8]

every child I have every had special need / developmental delays the goals the therapist set always were to keep introducing new foods so they learn to eat more foods. NOT ony feed the prefered foods. Did your therapist really say they child is ONLY allowed to eat the favorite foods?

I would think you would be happy if he tried new foods.
She can feed the offered lunch and then if he won't eat offer what you sent as long as it was healthy If he ate the food offered you wanted him to eat yours also??? If she was lying and he had not eaten it is more likely she would have tossed the food isn't it?

[itlw8]

I hear this all the time from many of my families. They all eat their vegetables, fruits, meat (or meat substitute), and grain here. I rarely see even 1 piece of the meal left on their plates. ::
I'm also told how the children behave at home and I am often times shocked! I tell the parents I have a totally different child here at daycare.

I had a mom complain her son never ate dinner. I said really I have to cut him off at thirds here. guess noon was his prefered to eat.

[crazydaycarelady]

I think having to get 3 updates per day is a ridiculous request. Any provider will let you know right away if something is wrong. No news is good news!

Also if we are on the food program we are required to have each child enrolled, which means the parents has to sign a paper. All the provider is required to do is offer the food, whether the child eats it or not is up to them. I am sure he was eating the food the provider offered, which is a good thing to offer new foods rather than serve the same few things over and over. No provider is going to set herself up to spend a day with a miserable hungry child by not feeding him.

She's not breaking ay rules. It seems the only thing broken is the contract when you refused to pay for the 2 week notice.