Rude Parents

[gbcc]

I just don't know what goes through their minds sometimes. I asked every family what days they will be here for february recess. I had two families tell me right out that they can't afford to have them here for the entire day so they will be going to grandparents.

So I thought, well this is great! I can fit the children left into my van and we can take a field trip. I pay for everything, no cost to parents. Well my assistants kid leaked to everyone abou the field trip. So these two families that didn't want to pay me all of a sudden tell me. "well let us know the day and I will make sure they are here." What? you don't want to pay me but I should take your child on a field trip and spend money on them?? With the extra I would have to pay for admission and to have an extra person help transport I am spending way more than I would get for that one day. THEN, ugh. one parent had the nerve to ask if they could just pay for half the day of care and she will just drop the children off before the field trip and pick them up right after returning home. How do they not see this as rude.

So what do I do? Tell the parents since they said they wouldn't be there I planned a trip and there is no room? Cancel it? I did not plan on paying the extra money, so I am not taking the ones that are too cheap to pay me. I could never do that to my provider. I am just so upset by their obviuos lack of respect for me and what I do for their kids.

[momma2girls]

I just don't know what goes through their minds sometimes. I asked every family what days they will be here for february recess. I had two families tell me right out that they can't afford to have them here for the entire day so they will be going to grandparents.

So I thought, well this is great! I can fit the children left into my van and we can take a field trip. I pay for everything, no cost to parents. Well my assistants kid leaked to everyone abou the field trip. So these two families that didn't want to pay me all of a sudden tell me. "well let us know the day and I will make sure they are here." What? you don't want to pay me but I should take your child on a field trip and spend money on them?? With the extra I would have to pay for admission and to have an extra person help transport I am spending way more than I would get for that one day. THEN, ugh. one parent had the nerve to ask if they could just pay for half the day of care and she will just drop the children off before the field trip and pick them up right after returning home. How do they not see this as rude.

So what do I do? Tell the parents since they said they wouldn't be there I planned a trip and there is no room? Cancel it? I did not plan on paying the extra money, so I am not taking the ones that are too cheap to pay me. I could never do that to my provider. I am just so upset by their obviuos lack of respect for me and what I do for their kids.

I would definately tell them, I do not have the room, and I only planned on so many going. I have had this happen before about 5 yrs. ago, her girl wanted to come a couple of days a week during the summer to play with my daughter, then she got to be where she would only come on Fri. because it was field trip days on Fri. the Mom was my cousin's wife- yeah, she would call on Fri. and ask are you going to have a field trip day today, if not she really didn't want to come. I was only having her as a fillin every once in a while. That got really old fast, there was even a couple of times, I would go early and see she had called while we were already gone!!!! UGHHHHH!!!!

[originalkat]

I would tell the parents that you planned the trip based on the number of children that would be there on that day and you can not accomidate more children without more drivers and supervision. If they want to accompany you on the trip with their child then they are welcome to come along. I would think they will probably not. That assistant of yours...she needs to keep her mouth shut about stuff like that.

[gbcc]

I would tell the parents that you planned the trip based on the number of children that would be there on that day and you can not accomidate more children without more drivers and supervision. If they want to accompany you on the trip with their child then they are welcome to come along. I would think they will probably not. That assistant of yours...she needs to keep her mouth shut about stuff like that.

Well if I offer for them to accompany us on the trip as I didn't plan on it and have no room, would I be responsible to pay for it? I don't mean to be cheap but I barely have extra to pay for my 8 kids I planned on paying for let alone 4 other children and their parents. Even though they were rude about it, I don't want to be in return. Know what I mean?

My friend who is a provider told me to pretend we will take them and claim that my car wont start so they get stuck paying me. I don't think that is right, but funny!

[momma2girls]

Well if I offer for them to accompany us on the trip as I didn't plan on it and have no room, would I be responsible to pay for it? I don't mean to be cheap but I barely have extra to pay for my 8 kids I planned on paying for let alone 4 other children and their parents. Even though they were rude about it, I don't want to be in return. Know what I mean?

My friend who is a provider told me to pretend we will take them and claim that my car wont start so they get stuck paying me. I don't think that is right, but funny!

I would just say there isn't any room for anymore of the children, sorry!!!!

[AfterSchoolMom]

If I were you, I'd do just what Iowa Daycare suggested and tell the parents that you planned the trip based on the number of kids that RSVP'd for that date, that you have no room, and that you can't accept them for that day. I wouldn't offer to have the parents accompany the kids either. It's not your responsibility to pay for an activity for a child who's parents already told you they wouldn't be coming. That isn't fair to you or to the other children. Don't feel guilty!

[misol]

If I were you, I'd do just what Iowa Daycare suggested and tell the parents that you planned the trip based on the number of kids that RSVP'd for that date, that you have no room, and that you can't accept them for that day. I wouldn't offer to have the parents accompany the kids either. It's not your responsibility to pay for an activity for a child who's parents already told you they wouldn't be coming. That isn't fair to you or to the other children. Don't feel guilty!

Absolutely agree!

[Unregistered]

I agree too with telling the parents that you planned the trip AFTER they stated their children would not be there giving you enough space available to do the field trip, I also have it state that once a parent tells me they wont be here there is no "changing their minds' as i plan my days around when and who will be here.
Kiddie Care

[momofboys]

Well if I offer for them to accompany us on the trip as I didn't plan on it and have no room, would I be responsible to pay for it? I don't mean to be cheap but I barely have extra to pay for my 8 kids I planned on paying for let alone 4 other children and their parents. Even though they were rude about it, I don't want to be in return. Know what I mean?

My friend who is a provider told me to pretend we will take them and claim that my car wont start so they get stuck paying me. I don't think that is right, but funny!

I would just tell them outright that since had already told you they wouldn't be able to come & you have already made the plans/bought tickets, etc. Say they are welcome to come too HOWEVER they will need to drive & accompany their child in addition to purchasing their own tickets. It is rude & expecting a lot of you to accomodate them.

[Pammie]

Oh no....they told you they didn't need care for the day...so you made plans for the kids that RSVPd...tell them sorry, you don't have room!

[gbcc]

I am just beside myself here. I just find it so rude. It really lets me know what they think of me though. I would be so embarassed to tell a provider that I don't want to pay them for the wk but expected them to take them on a field trip.

I didn't mean to exclude their children. There was just an opportunity and I took it.

[Persephone]

I would just tell them outright that since had already told you they wouldn't be able to come & you have already made the plans/bought tickets, etc. Say they are welcome to come too HOWEVER they will need to drive & accompany their child in addition to purchasing their own tickets. It is rude & expecting a lot of you to accomodate them.

I agree with this. It is pretty rude of them. If they want their child to go they will have to take them and pay themselves.

And that Assi. Kids needs to learn a few things!!

[gbcc]

And that Assi. Kids needs to learn a few things!!

Oh ya, have you read my other bazillion posts regarding him?!! Lol!

[TGT09]

I also plan field trips for the children that I KNOW will be there. If I planned something and ended up having drop-in's I would either cancel or not accept the drop-in's. I agree with everyone above me. I would tell them that the field trip was planned on a certain amount of children because you asked AHEAD of time if you would have them.

[momma2girls]

I know this Spring/Summer- I plan on field trips, etc.. and if the families are not here, when I go to leave, I will leave without them, and take it they are not going to be there that day!! I leave around 9 am, and if they are contracted for 7:30, they will have to find alternate care that day, or come and find me. When they have to do this once, hopefully will not be late again! The same thing goes for walks, etc...... I can't wait to be able to do this again!! Darn winter!!!!