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I'm looking into making reward charts for my daycare children. I am looking for ideas for rewards. For example, I'm thinking to reward for cleaning their plates etc off of the table, being quiet during rest time, etc......ideas would be great!
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Are you sure you want to reward children for expected behavior. I think it send the wrong message children should be expected to follow rules with out getting a reward. Do you get a reward when you remember to wash the dishes?
With that said how old are the children? stickers are always fun at any age? Another fun thing is small army type Guys the dollar tree sell them in army fire fighters and policemen etc. -
I don't believe in rewarding kids for doing regular every-day responsibilities that are expected of them. I expect them to do these things and show ownership and responsibility. The good feelings that they get from doing a "good job" and the "thank you for doing a good job" praise from me and their friends - they "own" that behavior, and they learn it feels good to do a good job for the sake of doing a good job. No extra stickers, prizes, treats, etc.
Cleaning their place at the table - just an expected part of their meal-time responsibility.
Being quiet during naptime - expected.
Putting their shoes in the basket and their belongings in their bags - expected.
Now when a child goes ABOVE AND BEYOND the expected, on their own initiative (like helping another child clean up the crayon bucket that they spilled without being asked OR running to help a friend who is having trouble on the teeter totter) then I reward them with HUGE praise and a "bow-WOW" card. Just a little doggie clip art card that I make with a "WOW" and an explanation of the stupendous behavior that they showed on their own initiative. The kids just BEAM with pride when they get a bow-WOW card and are so proud to show to mom and dad - with their own version of the tale of what they did to receive it! Again - the kids are owning their own behavior.
My own kids never got allowances for doing the things that we expected them to do as a member of the family. They could *earn* money by doing jobs that were above-and-beyond the expected. I think that it's not teaching kids to do a good job for the sake of doing a good job - if they begin to expect to be rewarded for doing the expected.
Just my very own most humble opinion.Comment
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We have caught being good coins. And we don't give them out eveyday. We will remind the kids about them. But we surprise them with it. We only give one out a day. Eg. If I see a child picks up a paper towel off the floor and throw it away I will gather the kids to a small group and say I saw so and so pick up a paper towel on the floor that someone else didn't get into the garbage. They were caught being a good helper. And I will give them a caught being good coin. (since then all the kids are making sure to keep the paper towels off the floor)
We can not reward for cleaning their plate. We were discouraged from encouraging them to do so by our director. We can ask that they try something on their plate. But we cannot reward with food or use food as a tool for reward.Comment
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You had typed this as the same time i was doing my post. Yes above and beyond what is expected is what we do too.
If only one person is doing what is asked from the teacher eg. sit quietly at the table and only one person does it. I will say I like how so and so is sitting quietly. And the rest will follow that good behavior.Comment
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I was meaning cleaning their PLACE from the table, not cleaning their plates by eating all of their food. I was thinking more of a good behavior chart but it sounds like others don't do that. why not reward children for good behavior? stickers, small things etc......Comment
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I agree with some of the previous posters. Never have, never will reward for expected behavior. Even cleaning your place off from the table is expected, not exceptional. My own kids used to say, "Do I get a reward for that?" and I would say, "Yup, you get to feel good about taking care of your responsibilities!" They stopped asking for rewards pretty quickly. I don't know where they got the idea that I might start doing this, but I'm sure it was a friend's house or a family member's where they saw the reward thing.
If you think it would work for you, then by all means give it a try. I have just never agreed with it b/c I feel like I am "barganing" for responsibility, accountability and good behavior. It's a slippery slope IMO. Doesn't mean it's right or wrong or the only way, just the way I do things.
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I don't do anything with my daycare kids but I do have a chore chart for my own kids and they are rewarded with money for it. I go back and forth on it because while I do feel it is expected behavior they are also at the age where they want to buy things that I do not want to pay for so there aren't many ways for them to "earn" money. I figure we all do our "jobs" to get paid (along with other reasons) so I made "jobs" for them around the house. Things like cleaning the playroom/family room, taking out the garbage, washing the dishes are things that they get paid to do.
But no, I wouldn't do a reward chart for little ones, except maybe a potty chart.Comment
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Any rewards we give out are for EXCEPTIONAL behavior. We never give rewards for what should be expected, regular behavior.
I have one three year old who's mother treats him for just blinking.
When he first started here, he asked for treats every single day, for absolutely everything. Then when leaving he would always say "I been good. Can I have a treat?" His mother seemed as eager for him to get one as he was. I had to explain to her that I don't give treats to kids to ask for one and and that it has to be earned by going above and beyond what is expected. He doesn't get a treat for just being awake! His mom seemed shocked...as if it's impossible to function without bribing a child!
In his house he gets a sticker for not fussing about brushing his teeth. He gets a candy treat for not fussing about getting dressed. He gets a toy for getting in the car.....etc....etc......etc..... He's figured out that he can threaten to act like a hellion and mom caves and supplies treats. He's a bright little thing!
It was a bit of a wake up call when he started here and found out that good behavior is just expected.
However, he's still in charge at his house and makes sure his mother still tows the line and does what he wants........Comment
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I had this battle with my sons school when he was in fourth grade. The class was getting pretty froggy by years end so they came up with this brilliant idea to have all the parents send treats for the kids to earn.
Ahhh NO
If they were solving world peace or finding a cure for cancer I would have been willing to pony up with some skittles and goldfishes but for just being good in class and learning??????????
I don't think so.Comment
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If you want to make a chart...make it an "above and beyond" chart. Stickers for going the extra mile. They do not ask for them, or get them regularly. Children need to learn that certain behavior is expected and does not get rewarded.
When you dcp's pay their bill, you don't have to thank them profusely and give them some kind of reward. They are doing what's expected of them and taking responsibility. Children must grow up learning the same kind of thing. Cleaning up after themselves should be expected behavior.
Would you give a child a sticker at the end of the day and tell him it was because he didn't bite you? NO...because it's expected behavior.
I reward kids who are, for example, extra kind to a new child. I reward for all kinds of things, but they are a complete surprise to the child who receives them. They are a fun bonus. That way they are not doing the "good" deed ONLY because they want something. That's not a lesson I want them to learn.Comment
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when I do give rewards for behavior great and above and beyond the excepted it is never food. Food is not a reward or something you earn it is something we put into our bodies in order to remain healthy. Americans (children including) have enough issues with eating health to have a role model show/teach them that food is a reward good for you for saying no!::::::::::::::
I had this battle with my sons school when he was in fourth grade. The class was getting pretty froggy by years end so they came up with this brilliant idea to have all the parents send treats for the kids to earn.
Ahhh NO
If they were solving world peace or finding a cure for cancer I would have been willing to pony up with some skittles and goldfishes but for just being good in class and learning??????????
I don't think so.Comment
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When is the last time you received a reward? That's what I thought. I don't want to teach children that rewards are for things we are expected to do. Pretty soon the expectation of the reward becomes the ONLY reason someone complies and I don't want to even go into that forest.......
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I was told by a behavior modification specialist the rewards only work when they are varied in rate and reward. Meaning, you get something- that changes (could be sticker, could be wink, could be a prize) when you do something expected or exceptional at varied intervals (not everytime or everyday). That way kids learn to be intrinsically motivated to do good things even when there is no reward. Rewards in this case are meant to be a reminder or a thank you for a constant good effort not for doing a daily task and waiting with your hand out for the prize.
I have never used them in my daycare and personally agree with the other posters that doing something expected are not things to be rewarded but rather a function of the group.
I guess they might work with a really difficult case/child which is what the behavior modification specialist was talking about in the training I attended. Anyone had success in this type of instance?Comment
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I think they have a time and place but if you have to supply an unending amount of praise, stickers, treats and whatnot to motivate for everything, thats a problem, especially when it continues way to long. Like getting a sticker for putting their shoes on......maybe a 2 year old who is learning and needing extra encouragement but a 6 year old should not be continually rewarded for something they have already mastered.Comment
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