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I've had this too. It never fails to amaze me that parents seem to think we have a bottomless fridge and bank account...... I usually tell them that I will fill the sippy with water,.......but if every child asked for milk or juice to go home, I'd be broke as the food program doesn't pay for "to go orders"!!!!
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I did have one family that I sent home with filled sippy cups everyday. On a good day, it would take them 45 mins to get home. Mom kept crackers of some sort in the car for them.Comment
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wow, she is definitely being rude and taking advantage of you. I would want to help someone out if they are working a new job and having a tough time making it but to expect you to work 7 days a week and to be so rude about it??? That is just crazy.
I love my daycare families... every once in a while they do something that may bug me :
: but reading stories on here really makes me appreciate them!
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Has the hair pulling out icon idea been accepted yet?
Sooo Today I took the kids and at drop off still no supplies. I made a point to say "Now u won't be working long today right?" She replied no should be normal pick up time. Which has been anywhere from 3:00-4:30 at the latest. Great no prob have a good day.
An hour later DCB spills water all down the front of him totally soaked! (water table) I am mad because I still have NO supplies for them!! Luckily I bought outfits for them to keep at my house or he would have nothing!
The day is extra long they only napped 45 mins! Nothing will keeo them interested today for some reason. It's just a bad day and I think it's because it's a Saturday and I am not supposed to be working.
4:00 comes and no DCM so I text and ask how much longer she will be and she says Oh not much longer. I say ok well I have dinner plans with family at 5:00 and as u know I close at 5:00 anyway so please make sure u are here by then at least.
4:45 I text again and say I need to get a shower so I am having my Mother come sit with your kids she will sign u out. How much longer please? She texts back not much longer.
I go get a shower and still she's not here. 5:15 I text and say i really need to leave now my family is holding steak dinner for us. I get text back sorry should be done soon. Finally 5:45 she pulls up! I am mad she knows it she doesn't make eye contact or even say sorry. I also notice she isnt wearing her uniform she had on this morn! She now has short shorts thongs and a spag strap tank. SOOOO she was already late and then took more extra time to change!!
I tell her the kids only napped for 45 mins today and she said thats good. I said good? She says yes I dont allow them to ever sleep more than an hour. i wake them up and make them stay awake or they wont sleep at night.
WHAT? They nap at 12:30 or 1:00 that wont effect night time sleep habits for a 2 yr old especially. She says oh yes it will and gets bossy sounding Mrs know it all. Well that's the 1st I have heard of this so I ignore it because she also said the dcb had too much sun and she could tell because he's not sleeping at night. WHATEVER!
So I ask if she has her schedule for me and she says no. I give her a disappointed look and said why not? She said well its the same as usual. OK?? meaning what? She says I only get 1 day off but this time it's Tuesday. UGH ok thanks, I say, and I gave u ANOTHER list of the supplies I need for summer. She moved it away and signed the last page. Layed it down and walked away not taking the paper she didnt even read it! I picked it up and handed it to her saying here u will need to take this so u know what to bring, have a good weekend. She doesnt say a word but shoves it in her bag. I give the kids a hugs and they start down the steps with DCM.
I put the paperwork inside and turn around to see DCB ripping my wind sock off of the pole! I said, Did u just break that?? DCM says yes he did I told u he is destructive. I said Tommy!! That's not nice. DCM says he's destructive and giggles walking away.
I swear to God I think she has some metal issues! Not drugs or anything but plain stupidity! Ignorance, something! How flipping rude to not apologize, not have your child apologize, not correct it in ANY way and leave it lay keep going AND giggle on top of it?. What in the hell is wrong with her? This is the same child that was throwing nic nacs off my porch before DCM even rang the doorbell 1 morn when they 1st started months ago. I guess I need to start making her pay for stuff. Don't get me wrong DCB is usually good for me but he just turned 2 so he does things. She on the other hand should know better! She's really chapping my ass again! So I am on the lookout for new clients. I liked having siblings because that's $800 a month I know I will have. But there are just too many issues adding up. I can't/wont go into detail but I know for a fact NONE of u would tolerate at least 1 of the other issues.
I really need to crack down on this family hard and quick!Comment
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I can tolerate a lot, but I don't think she would last in my home.Comment
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And you are keeping these people why??????? No amount of money is worth her disrespect of you and your family.Comment
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I am weeding out the bad and just termed another family last month. The advise and support I received here finally helped me get the nerve to do after more than a yr. This is the only full time family I have left. If I drop them without taking on someone else 1st then I won't have enough income to live on. The kids are usually good for me no problem there. It's just the rude Mother! Even the Father isn't as bad as her but I rarely see him as he is disabled in a way.
Around here 99% of my clients are CC&R/Welfare families paid by the sate and I hate to sound rude myself or sterotype but they all seem to have this entitlement attitude. AND seem to think I work FOR them. Trust me it's going to be nipped in the bud. I already made a few changes and I will continue to do so. Next week I am telling her if she doesn't have the supplies and paperwork in by Friday I will not be taking the kids on Monday. Oh and I am also not watching them next weekend like she will wait ask for on Friday.
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Start looking for another family!!
Do interviews and and when you find that perfect family you feel sooo much better when you term her. It is never the kids that are the problem its the parents. Sorry your weekend turned out the way it did. I would of been steamed!! Did you charge her a late fee?!!
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I'll never understand why providers put up with this type of behavior, EVER???? I have never had a parent treat me like this. You gotta let em' know from day one that you command respect and that you will not tolerate such "abuse" No amount of money is worth that type of crap.Comment
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No I didn't charge her a late fee, she isn't even paying right now. LOOONG story but she is a state client and is supposed to be getting 1 last form in before I can be issued a certificate. Then I will get most of my money thru the state and a small portion from her. I do have her under the old contract before she had to take time off work for a serious injury. So if she ditches that should hold up. I dont see her ditching tho.Start looking for another family!! Do interviews and and when you find that perfect family you feel sooo much better when you term her. It is never the kids that are the problem its the parents. Sorry your weekend turned out the way it did. I would of been steamed!! Did you charge her a late fee?!!
I did 1 better today by changing her contract! She came in almost 6:00pm AGAIN! I had text her 2 times at 4:30 and 5:00 to which she didnt reply at all. She said she tried to text but it wouldnt go thru. K whatever. As soon as I opened the door instead of handing her the clipboard and denying her access like I have been doing I actually invited her in. I said right away "u need to come in for a discussion please have a seat. These late pick ups can NOT happen anymore. We need to change the contract to a scheduled pick up time for u and the kids MUST be picked up by that time or u will be paying fees every day, every hour, for every child! Now lets start with what time u will be able to have someone pick them up if u are working late?" She sat there shocked and humbled. She stuttered ummm maybe 3:30 or 4:00? I said great 4:00 it is! I already took the liberty of deciding that myself today, here is your printed copy and mine lets sign on the dotted line right now! I handed her the pen and had her fill out the kids names on that line and her name beside the fee reminders and the final sig at the end. I am done playing games with these people!
She didnt have much to say she was either very mad or sad or just shocked! Hindsight I can NOT believe I jumped her before she could open the screen door!
I dont know what got into me I was very stern almost mean. I felt bad afterwards so I told her I understand that her work times vary but I have a family that cannot have their schedule thrown up in the air daily. She said she understood and she even left telling me 1 of her stories as she walked away so I think we will be fine. Lord please let us be fine ::
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Good for you! I'm the same way. I let it happen for so long that when I finally confront I end up feeling bad thinking, was I too mean or harsh? I don't think you were harsh at all in this situation. You were firm. And it's EXACTLY what she needed. She came an hour late, right? That's not okay, and she seemed to think it was.
I'm so happy that you were able to stick up for yourself! Congrats!
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Her showing up late yesterday must have been the straw that broke the camel's back. Good for you for standing up for yourself and your family!
Based on your posts, I doubt you were mean. When you're not used to standing up for yourself, it can feel mean when you finally do speak up. It's an uncomfortable feeling at first but when she stops using you and abusing your policies and starts treating you with more respect, you'll be happy you confronted her. Just remember to stay firm. She seems to need boundaries set for her.Comment
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Not speaking up is being "mean" to yourself and your family, remember thatComment
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