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[youretooloud]

To NOT teach the child how to cope is doing a huge disservice to the child (as well as everyone else who will interact with her or him throughout life).

Did you know there is NO 504 plan for adults in the real world? I tried to get one based on my inability to remember to pay my bills, or get the oil changed in my car, but NOTHING!

Apparently, the water company just expects me to pay the bill on time.

I'm super happy my car has a little bell to remind me to put gas in my car. I wish the rest of my life had a little bell.

[Kaddidle Care]

:: So true!

[Christian Mother]

I think that's awesome! There are many parents who use ADHD (or giftedness or ODD or whatever ...) as an excuse for their child to get away with bad behaviour. But here's the thing: the child needs to learn how to cope with whatever he/she has been diagnosed with. To NOT teach the child how to cope is doing a huge disservice to the child (as well as everyone else who will interact with her or him throughout life).

I just recently had to speak with a mom about her 7 yo child's behaviour in a Sunday School situation. She had lots of suggestions of ways for me to cope with him, but no ideas on how to keep him accountable for his own behaviour. And this is a situation where I have had to restrain the child a few times to keep others from getting hurt.

So kudos to you for doing an amazing job of raising your son, and teaching him about consequences

Thank you!! I try hard and mess up along the way....but I see him growing up before my eyes and is he tries hard. That is what counts in my book. That he tries to correct the behavior. It tells me that he understands what I say and that he cares about the consequences. I tell him that he's going to mess up, make mistakes..it's ok...that's how we learn so that next time we are faced with the same choice we make a better one.