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She drops off yesterday. Her DCG is 8 months and always been super easy at drop off and pick up. She is VERY independent and social, you can see that from her personality already. So mom says "I can't wait till she starts crying when I drop off" and I am just standing there confused about why she would want her kid to be crying. Its like parents want the exact amount of crying that lets them know kid misses mom and doesn't want to go to daycare but not enough so that they worry kid is unhappy all day. Okay, let me just reprogram your daughter because she is obviously a little robot at your will and because I have that much control over how each child feels and act minute to minute. oy.
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I think Mom is a tad jealous that her daughter is HAPPY to leave her arms and go into yours. -
I guess I'm lucky. All my parents are happy that their kids are happy here and rarely cry. I can count on one hand how many times my 4 have cried when Mom or Dad left.
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We don't have bad transitions at all here either so you would think parents would be happy about that. Its just so frustrating because it seems like there is never a way to even make a parent happy, there is ALWAYS something to complain about.Comment
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I actually had a family once that pulled their child from my care because she came in without crying in the morning and got upset and did not want to go home at the end of the day. I never did figure that one out.Comment
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when i worked for a center and parents would complain that their child did not want to go home I would just smile and say well if that's the only complaint you have about your daycare that's a good thing. Had to stop b/c my director was afraid people would find something to complain about. So I started saying their are worse problems to have with you daycare. Parents usually responded to that with I know my friend the tell a daycare nightmare story. I never did fully understand the complaint itself unless it was a schedule thing.Comment
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well she is a really great mom and I don't think she sees that obviously her parenting style IS working in creating a happy, independent kid and in choosing a great DCP (hee hee!). I guess she thinks that something is wrong that her little one is not clinging in terror to her every drop off.Comment
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if you think she think her child is not normal then if she says it again you could tell mom that some independent social children never do cry at drop off.Comment
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I think it's more of a hurt thing. Parents who have kids that cry when they leave, feel happy that their kid loves them and will miss them. Parents who have kids that DON'T cry feel sad because their kids are growing up and don't need mommy/daddy anymore.
was it a joke when she said that? or was she serious?Comment
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I wouldn't take offence... rather, I would take this as a compliment.
Stay at home moms are lucky in so many ways, and unfortunately, there are too many moms out there who cannot stay home with their littles - they HAVE to work to support their children. It's hard.
Then tell her this.
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I wouldn't take offence... rather, I would take this as a compliment.
Stay at home moms are lucky in so many ways, and unfortunately, there are too many moms out there who cannot stay home with their littles - they HAVE to work to support their children. It's hard.
Then tell her this.
YES YES YES YES
When you have a parent that is doing a great job TELL THEM you think that. I have excellent parents and I tell them what I think about that
Everybody wants to hear when they are doing it right. Everybody wants to hear a "thank you", "you are an awesome Mommy", "you rule", "I love working with you", and a "I appreciate you so much".
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I agree with nanny - I compliment my clients when an issue like this arises - kinda sets them back, and deflates the situation.
Especially when I say something to the effect that they're doing such a great job of raising a "secure" child. Their child is "so secure to the core of their soul, and so confident that mommy loves him, and has no doubt that mom will be back at the end of the day - the child doesn't need to be upset!Comment
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i like that idea. thanks for the feedbackComment
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Holly Cow!! How long was this child with you?
I have a little guy who has been here since he was 3 months and he is like that...his mom and dad want me to make sure that he isn't doing anything fun so he is ready to go at pick up. They want transition as smooth as possible. I normally don't have much issues with him but I have noticed that when mom is here he puts on a aggressive behavior towards her or slaps at her. He fights to leave. She is a speech therapist for my daughter so she comes for 25 min a couple times a week and he usually acts up most on these days bc he wants extra attention. I finally removed him from beating up is mom and disciplined right in front of mom. I could tell she was a little taken aback bc I think she wanted to but was trying to be nice but it wasn't helping ...he was laughing and hitting her..she is pregnant. Once he knew all involved where not smiling and he was in trouble he wiped the smile off his face and stopped acting up. I feel bad disciplining kids in front of there parents but sometimes a little something more is called for specially if mom isn't going to take care of it right away.Comment
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