Daycare Provider/Facebook Posts

[Auntie]

I have parents that are my friends on fb and I would NEVER EVER complain about my job or kids on fb. That is just WRONG. FB is not my diary. My boss is also on my FB.

I have this board to come to where missery loves company, LOL just kidding. Like you understand we all need to vent and FB IS NOT the place for it.

[Country Kids]

Recommend for her to use this site! She may be just feeling frustrated and yes FB isn't the place but seriously when you do not talk to any adults for 9+ hours a day you just want to talk. Her feelings probably are legitamate and she just wants to get some steam off. This is another instant of if you haven't walked in our shoes please try and understand where a provider is coming from. Yes, you are a client but I would unfriend her on FB. Have you ever gone a full day with having multiple children crying or the same one crying over and over. Alot of providers don't get to leave their home and sometimes that means you are stuck at home for 50+ hours a week. That is something clients just don't understand. We are literally with our work the entire time we are working (no walk away breaks) and then we live where we work also. So please try and understand where she is coming from and see if there is anything you can help her with. If she brings up a concern about your child, seriously listen to it and work with her. Don't just brush it off.

[GG~DAYCARE]

Try replying to one of her posts with "having a rough day?" Maybe than she will realize how it comes off on fb. Like I said, I would never post stuff I will regret later. I type and sometimes I just delete the whole post after I read how silly it sounds!

[cheerfuldom]

If you think that she is the kind of person to take out her anger or frustration out on a child, you need to remove your child. You need to find someone you can trust. There are always going to be issues that need to be discussed with any provider. You should be able to go to them without fear that they will retaliate on an innocent child to get back at you. I am not saying that I believe she would do this only that you need to trust your provider. If this isn't someone you trust than find someone you can instead of stewing about an issue you feel you can't discuss openly.

[Auntie]

Maybe make a post to one of her comments encouraging her as a provider.

OR you could post to her post: you would never know you are this stressed out when I pick up. Or do you need me to come pick up so and so?

[jen]

As long as your employee is doing her job and not slandering you I would not worry about it. This person has obviously not learned how to manage her image. The world has changed and she should be using the web in a better manner.

What??

Unprofessional yes, maybe even grounds to move on...but please, please don't give parents the idea that we are their employee!

[Michael]

What??

Unprofessional yes, maybe even grounds to move on...but please, please don't give parents the idea that we are their employee!

I was talking in general terms in regards to FB. I am not going to go back and rewrite it.

[DEBBIES DAYCARE]

Facebook is not a forum to vent about any job. I have known more than one person making comments about a bad day at work and was fired or reprimanded. It was very inprofessional and childish to state her "business" on FB.
I never encourage parents to feel I work for them or they are my boss. I have more than once in casual conversation reminded some that I am self employed and they purchase a service I offer.

[wdmmom]

I have 2 accounts...1 for daycare parents only and 1 personal account. The one where I can say I feel like ripping my hair out, can't wait til Friday and ready for beer-thirty.

I keep both separate. All DCP are welcome to the DC account so they can view photos, the lunch menu and upcoming events.

On the flip side...I hate seeing my dcp's posts about taking the day off but bringing their kid to daycare and lying about why they are late picking up when it's clear you went tubing down the river, you didn't get caught up on a phone call at work. What happened to honest parents. If you're taking the day off to paint the kitchen, you're taking the day off to paint the kitchen...why lie?!

[daycare]

I have 2 accounts...1 for daycare parents only and 1 personal account. The one where I can say I feel like ripping my hair out, can't wait til Friday and ready for beer-thirty.

I keep both separate. All DCP are welcome to the DC account so they can view photos, the lunch menu and upcoming events.

On the flip side...I hate seeing my dcp's posts about taking the day off but bringing their kid to daycare and lying about why they are late picking up when it's clear you went tubing down the river, you didn't get caught up on a phone call at work. What happened to honest parents. If you're taking the day off to paint the kitchen, you're taking the day off to paint the kitchen...why lie?!

lmao sorry I got a good laugh out of your post!

[youretooloud]

Try replying to one of her posts with "having a rough day?" Maybe than she will realize how it comes off on fb. Like I said, I would never post stuff I will regret later. I type and sometimes I just delete the whole post after I read how silly it sounds!

Great idea!

That's what I would do too.

But, in her defense, it sounds like maybe she IS having a rough day. I have kids that can make my whole day miserable, and it's just a really hard day. A little compassion really goes a long way.

Last spring, I had a VERY difficult child... we were all just trying to get through summer until a spot in a special needs school opened up. I had a mom that just "got it" bring me a large tea from starbucks and tell me her daughter wanted to get it for me. But, I knew it was the mom's idea, and I knew they were just trying to make my day a little brighter.

[Unregistered]

I would say nothing as I would want to know how she was really feeling and thinking about her job. I would not want her to start pretending all was sunshine and roses all of a sudden. I would keep an eye on things, and if she seems on the road to burn out, then I would start looking elsewhere.

Plus, I would kill he with kindess the next couple of weeks, it may swing her out of the slump she is in. Say thank you, and show that you appreciate her. Bring her a coffee, tea,cookies,flowers from you garden, or some other small gesture. Pick up your child early one day if possible. See if she mentions any of these kind gestures on facebook.

[Unregistered]

I'd like to thank everyone for their insight!

I know it's a very hard job to do, I give all daycare providers huge kudos for what they do. Kids are fun, but they're incredibly difficult at times too. I know the days are long, you're at home all day, and you can't really have an in depth conversation about current events with a 3 year old. I have 2 kids, I work full time outside of the home...I'm busy too. My job is stressful as well. I work customer service for a large corporation, I deal with my fair share of jerks everyday. I don't whine about it to where my boss can hear me though. That would be very unprofessional on my part, and would probably get me fired. But you grin and bear it and remember why you went into that profession in the first place. For her, it was so she could be home with her baby. Now she seems to have no interest in anyone but her baby. Her post tonight was that she has a long weekend coming up and can't wait for "three days of freedom".

The other parents and I post when she complains....ask her if so and so is having a bad day, how can we help, can I come lend a hand etc, but it gets brushed off or excused away. It's depressing to think that the woman I have entrusted the care of my child with could really have no interest in her job.

So, I don't know. I'm kind of at a loss for words now. I'm sad, angry, hurt, dumbfounded....I need to talk to her....maybe she somehow can't see how what she says would affect the parents. I don't want to start trouble if she can't see what she's doing is wrong.

[Michael]

I'd like to thank everyone for their insight!

I know it's a very hard job to do, I give all daycare providers huge kudos for what they do. Kids are fun, but they're incredibly difficult at times too. I know the days are long, you're at home all day, and you can't really have an in depth conversation about current events with a 3 year old. I have 2 kids, I work full time outside of the home...I'm busy too. My job is stressful as well. I work customer service for a large corporation, I deal with my fair share of jerks everyday. I don't whine about it to where my boss can hear me though. That would be very unprofessional on my part, and would probably get me fired. But you grin and bear it and remember why you went into that profession in the first place. For her, it was so she could be home with her baby. Now she seems to have no interest in anyone but her baby. Her post tonight was that she has a long weekend coming up and can't wait for "three days of freedom".

The other parents and I post when she complains....ask her if so and so is having a bad day, how can we help, can I come lend a hand etc, but it gets brushed off or excused away. It's depressing to think that the woman I have entrusted the care of my child with could really have no interest in her job.

So, I don't know. I'm kind of at a loss for words now. I'm sad, angry, hurt, dumbfounded....I need to talk to her....maybe she somehow can't see how what she says would affect the parents. I don't want to start trouble if she can't see what she's doing is wrong.

She might just be a chronic complainer; her way of letting off stress. She should keep it to herself but she obviously needs an audience for it to work.

[sahm2three]

I'd like to thank everyone for their insight!

I know it's a very hard job to do, I give all daycare providers huge kudos for what they do. Kids are fun, but they're incredibly difficult at times too. I know the days are long, you're at home all day, and you can't really have an in depth conversation about current events with a 3 year old. I have 2 kids, I work full time outside of the home...I'm busy too. My job is stressful as well. I work customer service for a large corporation, I deal with my fair share of jerks everyday. I don't whine about it to where my boss can hear me though. That would be very unprofessional on my part, and would probably get me fired. But you grin and bear it and remember why you went into that profession in the first place. For her, it was so she could be home with her baby. Now she seems to have no interest in anyone but her baby. Her post tonight was that she has a long weekend coming up and can't wait for "three days of freedom".

The other parents and I post when she complains....ask her if so and so is having a bad day, how can we help, can I come lend a hand etc, but it gets brushed off or excused away. It's depressing to think that the woman I have entrusted the care of my child with could really have no interest in her job.

So, I don't know. I'm kind of at a loss for words now. I'm sad, angry, hurt, dumbfounded....I need to talk to her....maybe she somehow can't see how what she says would affect the parents. I don't want to start trouble if she can't see what she's doing is wrong.

If it is her personal account, I say it is her business. Now if she were complaining on her business account, that would be another thing. We are all entitled to complain about our days/jobs/whatever. No one has a great day every day, do they? I know I sure don't. This job is HARD. We don't have coworkers to vent to. All we have is little people running around barking orders at us all the live long day, . I say cut her some slack. Maybe it is therapeutic for her. As long as she isn't naming names, who cares?! Just my 2 cents.